i spent the night with one guy called josh (i know him for a long time). we have never been intimate and he used to really obssess over me before. this was the first time we were intimate in his bedroom (but we didnt have sex)
basically i was wearing his big shirt and no panties & we just kissed and stuff like that & thats what i wore when i fell asleep. this was all in december but reccently my friend ryan ( josh's best friend) told me that he saw some photos on josh's computer of me sleeping on his bed wearing "white underwear". i was shocked. I asked if i was wearing a shirt and he said he doesnt remeber. The funny thing is - I wasnt wearing any underwear - only a long shirt...so he is obviously lying.
my question what does it mean when a guy takes photos of u half naked in your sleep?
a) to masturbate?
b)to show off infront of his friends?
c)to admire and obsess over you?
d0 to laugh at you with his friends?
e)other reasons???
plz help me out. im really freaked out!
2007-05-21 01:09:39 · 29 answers · asked by babycake 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
how shud i talk 2 u?
2007-05-21 01:38:31 · update #1
how shud i talk 2 him?
2007-05-21 01:40:00 · update #2
All of those reasons come to mind plus to eventually embarrass you as well.
2007-05-21 01:16:06 · answer #1 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
23 answers (and possibly counting) and nobody's advised you what to do, which in NO way depends on what this bunch of strangers chooses on your multiple choice!
First, tell Ryan you know he's lying, because you were never in the outfit he described--do NOT say what outfit you were in--and find out what he really saw, if ANYthing. (There are many reasons Ryan could be lying, and how much. Or conceivably the pic was of somebody else who not only slept in Josh's apartment but looks like you. Many men prefer one physical type.)
Then grill Ryan as to *how* he saw the pic--it makes a lot of difference whether Josh was using it as wallpaper or Ryan had broken his password and was working thru Josh's "Hot Babes" folder!
Then TELL Josh you're really freaked out--especially if you conclude the pic was some other female--and ASK him his motives. It could be anything from your choice c to the criminal possibilities suggested by other Answers here. After listening to and evaluating his answer:
1. Demand that Josh destroy your pic (if it exists) and all copies--*unless* you believe that choice c is the case AND you're willing to let it include choice a. (Remember, he's a GUY!)
2. Depending on your conclusions, either tell Josh politely that you never want to see or hear of him again, or forgive him.
2007-05-28 07:02:36 · answer #2 · answered by georgetslc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're under 18 years old those photos could be worth alot of money to perverts who collect them. Otherwise he probably just wants to show off to his friends and tell all kinds of lies about you.No one should EVER take photos of another person like that without permision ! Get them back and never speak to him again girl ! That is totally abusive behavior ! And it's bull that that boy doesn't recall if you had a shirt on ! I'm sure there were no panties either. This was a form of rape ! I'm so sorry this happened to you ! Good Luck !
2007-05-21 01:20:43 · answer #3 · answered by Clover 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's an obsessed sick bastard, and it was wrong to do that against your will. He could show his friends, put them on the internet or just use them to jack-off. Whatever the purpose it was a violation of your trust to say the least. Ask for them back with the negatives and if he doesn't I would try the police and a restraining order.
2007-05-21 01:16:58 · answer #4 · answered by juniper555 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-04-01 00:17:41 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is creepy. You should back away from him. If a guy will not respect your privacy by putting those pix on the internet and showing them to his friends he is not showing respect for you and who you are.
2007-05-29 00:58:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would be freaked out and probally confront him about it that is kinda creepy i watched a show on dr. phil on obsessive husbands/boyfriends and this guy had done the same thing and dr. phil said he was an obsessive creep hope that helps
2007-05-21 01:13:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Is the option all of the above available? i would try to be friendly and get in there again and make sure all photo's are deleted or crash his system so that nothing can be recovered.
2007-05-21 01:13:36 · answer #8 · answered by Guppy 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well you said Ryan is lying, so why would you care why a guy would take photos of a half naked girl on his bed anyway!!!
2007-05-21 01:21:46 · answer #9 · answered by LadyinOz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you will be considered his "ho" from now on. Just because he didn't penetrate you doesn't mean you were not "Intimate". Next time be careful of your actions because they will come back to haunt you.
2007-05-21 01:13:43 · answer #10 · answered by Pinolera 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋