Hi everyone
I dont know how to deal with this, ive told my sister, and she wont listen to me!
Its got to the point that whenever he comes over im having to go up and change to jeans or something. But i dont feel like i should have to.
Its like that whenever i walk upstairs or sit down at the table, he seems to always be around.
Sometimes he even tries to lift my skirt up behind me.
What can i do?
2007-05-21 01:09:21 · 16 answers · asked by Alison 2k7 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
If this is a little toddler he will probably grow out of this curiosity stage, if he like a teenager then he needs to be talked to.
2007-05-21 01:13:11 · answer #1 · answered by linehancomputerservices 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Although it is natural for children to be curious--the child has to be taught that this is not proper. Yeah--if the kid does it once and gets caught and everyone laughs and it doesnt happen again it is funny and cute but when it turns into a constant thing then IT IS A PROBLEM that has to be dealt with by the parents.
If your sister wont handle the problem then embarrass the mess out of the kid in some way when you catch him in the act whether or not there are others around. He needs to learn that if he does things like that and gets caught that it IS NOT a good thing to have happen. It will be a life's lesson that the child needs to learn. Do you want him to grow up to continue to do things like that and think it is okay? Tough love can be good love.
2007-05-21 08:24:52 · answer #2 · answered by Wicked Little Lady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is under 8, then take him aside and tell him to knock it off. When you catch him doing it, address it right then and there, in front of his mother if you have to. Tell him that it is rude and impolite and you don't allow that behavior in your house. Tell him that if you catch him doing it again, you will ask him to leave. And MEAN it. If he does it again, send him home. Take him there if you have to. And DON'T give in to crying or whining.
If he's over 8, then you need to tell your sister, again and again if you have to. And tell her that if she does not make him stop it, you will not allow him to come over anymore. Period. You should not be made to feel uncomfortable in your own house.
I'm assuming there is no Dad in the picture? If there IS, you need to go around your sister and tell the father. HE should be addressing this with his son. Particularly if he is over 8. That kind of behavior, left un stopped will end up getting him in BIG trouble at school. Most have a "no tolerance" policy for that kind of stuff. Not to mention some girl's Dad is not going to like it when he finds out your nephew has been looking up her skirt!
This could be nothing or it could be the beginning of a serious problem. But your sister's unwillingness to address it is a big problem too. You need to have a good talk with her.
2007-05-21 14:22:43 · answer #3 · answered by teacherintheroom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is he? 32, Really? lol. If you have a good pair of legs and he's entering, or in the middle of puberty, Then his sex drive will be very high! And he's obviously fantasising about you! don't be ashamed of it, but he is probably masturbating quite frequently over you! Young men and boys get these feelings during puberty, they go away eventually but it can take a fair amount of time. Just stay alert, and try not to seem seductive when he's around, and you should get on fine. I know because I had a crush on my aunt when I was a boy.There! I've blurted it out now! I hope she does not read this! Have a good day.
2007-05-21 08:27:12 · answer #4 · answered by wheeliebin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is he?
Assuming he's old enough to get it, you catch him in the act and then put a stop to it immediately and then take him to another room and sit him down. You then tell him that what he is doing is not right and that he has to stop now. You tell him to sit there for 10 minutes thinking about it, and then he has to come to you and apologize.
Tell your sister that this is how you are going to handle it if it happens again. Tell her that if she's not willing to handle it, that you have to because you can't go on with that behavior.
End of story.
2007-05-21 09:37:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old is your nephew? If he's 3 or 4, I understand it. But you have to tell him that it's not nice to look up people's skirts. And be firm with him about it.
If he's preteen or teen he needs to get help. You should not have to change your clothing just to feel comfortable, especially in your own home.
Keep talking to your sister and keep telling her how you feel.
2007-05-21 08:15:07 · answer #6 · answered by nowyouknow 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that the next time they visit, put on a really funny (wild colors, etc.) pair of shorts, i.e., polka dots, stripes, bright and bold colors. Hopefully, the laughter received will shed new light on the situation.
Also, try some Velcro on the hem of your skirt.
Good luck!
2007-05-21 08:16:09 · answer #7 · answered by RozPot 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depends how hole he is. If it is truly intolerable, then simply boycott your sister and her family until she agrees to deal with the problem. From personal experience, I can assure you that taking matters into your own hands with a young nephew is a big mistake.
2007-05-21 08:14:12 · answer #8 · answered by lombard_princess_1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Simple give him a a good harsh talking too...be loud and dominant about it. let him know how angry you are and do it in front of his mother.
Tell him hes being rude and too casual with you and if he's not careful you'll ban him from the house or coming over again...
2007-05-21 08:42:44 · answer #9 · answered by celtic_colieen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ho well, if he is persistent then piss on him next time he lifts your skit.
Ask your sister does he do it to her as well? If so then ask does she get a kick out of it.
Or has this infant learnt it from his father "A"-but there mate.
2007-05-21 08:22:30 · answer #10 · answered by Drop short and duck 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋