How to make a 2 year fall asleep in her own bed without mum or dad sleeping in bed with her.?

Question

My daughter is 2 1/2 she will not go to sleep in her own bed. She will only go to bed( parents bed ) if im in bed going to sleep with her and a bottle for comfort.Since she was 3 weeks old she slept for 12 hours but as she has turned 2 she will only sleep with me or her dad in our bed. She controls the whole evening.

Answer 1

This is not hard.. you as parents control the situation.. If she cries than let her cry it out. Oh, and it would probably be wise to get rid of that bottle. It can cause tooth decay. Ask your doctor about that. Good luck to you

Answer 2

In my humble opinion, it's time for you to take control of the situation. Since it's been going on for six months now, it probably won't be easy, but for the sake of your relationship and for her well-being you need to do it.
A bedtime ritual is a good start a schedule that works for your family - bathtime, then a wind down activity (ie bedtime story or song) while in her own bed, followed by goodnight and lights out (nightlights are good at this age). Then you leave. Leave the door open slightly (as long as there is nothing to prevent sleeping). If she gets up, simply walk her back to bed without engaging in conversation or debate. You may need to do this a few times over the course of a few nights, but stick to it. Don't forget to praise her during the day making a big deal out her being a big girl.
Hope that helps!

Answer 3

You first have to believe that this situation may takes time, but it can be done. Try put her to sleep in her own bed as usual, you may read or sing for her for a while, seeing that she gets drowsy already, kiss her goodnight and leave the room. She might be crying, let her cry it out. After sometimes she will get the message and be able to sleep alone. Be consistant and stand your ground. Remember, disciplining your child is not always easy, but it is for the better for both the parents and the kids.

Answer 4

She is old enough for you to stop letting her control you. You and your husband need to be able to get a good night's sleep too. Also, she is way too old for a bottle now. It's just so bad for her teeth, known to cause tooth decay!

You're going to need to tackle things separately. I would shoot for the bottle first, because her teeth are important.
Tell her the bottle broke and that she can no longer have it. Replace it with a favorite blanket, stuffed animal, whatever. If you bend once, then she'll win. Once she gets used to going to bed without one, then start on getting her to her own bed.

Sit her down and tell her, it is time for you to sleep in your own bed, you are a big girl now. Tell her ahead of time what you are going to do so it is not a shock at bedtime. Then start your nighttime routine. Be sure to do the same thing every night. Jammies on, brush teeth, sip of water, use bathroom, etc. Then to bed. Kisses, hugs, night light, and good night. That's it. If she cries, check on her every once in awhile but do not let her out of the room or out of bed. It is a challenge, but after a few nights of fighting, it works.

Good luck, and God bless you and your family.

Answer 5

This might be a little tough but it works, keep it very simple in fact so simple even doctors use it, give your daughter some night medicine and put her to sleep in her bed, ter her to stay their now when she moves to your bed in the middle of the night just take her back don't worry she will get used to sleeping alone I know so I did it with mine. good luck

Answer 6

harsh method or so called ease method both can work but both may still produce some tears. going through a trauma i am sure you don't want to add any additional trauma part of it is a phase and i am sure some of it is from the hospital stay. part of the issue is he goes to sleep with you there and waking up without you there. doing it the ease way would be one of the ways that supper nanny does or at least similar, ease your way out of the room till you no longer need to be in there. when he wakes you may have to repeat it when he wakes in the middle of the night. the other way super nanny does it is to continue to lay them down and say less every time till you are just putting them back in bed. regardless this may cause a few sleepless or interrupted nights but will pay off in the end. my way was to bed good night. lay them down and let them cry, every time she got up took her back to bed said good night and just kept doing it till she stopped. with your son the the easer method might be better since it sounds like he may be looking for comfort

Answer 7

you have to make a big deal about the big girl bed. tell her that big girls sleep in their own beds and babies sleep with mommy,then put her in her own bed and tell her good night.every time she gets up put her back in her bed each time just take her by the hand and return her to her bed eventually she will stay it may take along time so be prepared and dont give in. i know it seems mean but it works.

Answer 8

haveing had the same problem i would let her fall asleep in bed then put her in bed with a toy find one that is big and has the same contours as you like long hair etc...they allso have those teddy bears that have the mommies heart beat and those work great turn that sucker on and let it do the work~

Answer 9

Put the child down and leave her alone. Let the child cry. after awhile the child will learn that bed time means bed time.

Answer 10

Make a bet tell her that if she sleeps by herself in her own bed you will give her something per week/ days.