Are my parents mean?

Question

I am in school and i have to catch a bus and walk 10 miles to get to the bus stop. They wont take me 10 mins up the road because they are too lazy to get up. I make mine and my little brothers breakfast. I help him get ready.

I get home finally at 4 and then i go to work for 2 hours. I get home at 6 and start cooking tea for my mum while my dad is at work and my mum sits on the computer talking to friends.

Then i eat and clean up. I then get my brother a bath and finally at 730 i get to start doing my homework. I do that until 9 and get my brother to bed and then i finally sleep. Im usually exhuastednd its worse when i have to go to training and also take my brother as well.

I have a best friend and my parents dont want him to come over because they feel its too late to have him around. And on weekends my dad is grumpy. li I cant stop working because they say im lazy if i dont..yet my mum does nothing. She just spends all the money.

I have to pay board and i babysit all the time

Answer 1

You sound more like their servant than their child. They are putting way too much on you. You sound like your raising your brother not them. If I were you I would talk to a school counselor about this. Tell them you are exhausted and you dont know what to do. And I never heard of an underage child paying board. Have you considered becoming emancipated and living on your own? Of course I am assuming you are at least 16 years old. I only mention it because you sound responsible and I can see you finishing school and creating a future for yourself. i wouldnt normally advise it. If you are under 16 you need help from an outside adult. Your parents are putting too much of a burden on you.
If it was me? I would get myself up for school and go and not deal with the brother. Its not his fault but just go into your parents room and say he is your responsibility now mine and Im leaving now, he is your problem. Then leave for school. When you get home make a small meal for yourself and go do your homework. Do not attempt to get your brother to bed. Force the issue so that they have to deal with him. But let a counselor know what is going on so your not alone.

Answer 2

If this is all true, then it is terrible for a person of your age to be trust into a position of being a parent when you're a child. You could talk to a counsellor at school making it a discreet discussion of your plight. I have a feeling your parents may not work and on some kind of dole. And they're making you run around doing the chores and I am just so disgusted about it. I think you need to get an independent life of your own as soon as you can finish schooling and get a separate residence. You shouldn't have to pay board or look after children. It just sounds like they have poor parenting skills, lazy and you're missing out on your childhood taking on these responsibilities. don't do anything drastic but please speak with a counsellor or the dept. of social security or social agencies.

Answer 3

I am assuming that when you had said it takes 10 min. to get to the bus stop, you meant 10 min. driving time? If the bus stop is 10 min. walking time,..then there is nothing wrong with walking it. There is nothing wrong with your parents teaching you about hard work. There should be more children who are raised to know what hard work and having responsibilities is all about. You will be a better person for it. However,..raising your little brother is NOT your responsibility!! You should also NOT be paying for board as long as you are in school. Are your parents paying you to babysit? You never stated. If they are not paying you for babysitting services, and are charging you board while you are still attending school, then they are taking advantage of you for those 2 things.

Answer 4

Oh wow! Yeah, it definitely sounds like your parents are a little on the mean side. They are probably just trying to teach you some responsibility but it also soundsl ike they are just LAZY and are taking advantage of you! It's horrible! I would try having a serious talk with them about how much you take care of your brother. You shouldn't have to be the one making him breakfast, getting him up, bathing him. That's a parent's job and if they didn't want to do that, then they should not have had kids! Be very respectful and keep a calm tone when talking to them even if they get upset....it's important that you be mature. If they don't see it your way at alll, then I'm afraid you're just going to have to get used to it for a little while. I'd move out on my own as soon as it's possible. With any other kid, I'd say that's a bad idea but it sounds like you've been taking care of yourself for a long time. I mean, if you're going to pay boarding, you might as well have freedom! Goodluck.

Answer 5

If you are still in H.S. and your brother is a minor child, you shouldn't have to pay rent! Do you have any descent relatives you could go to for help with this matter? Social services may need to be called. I had part of the same situation while I was growing up...I know where you're coming from...I left home at 17 and finished school on my own and paid my own way ever since...I feel for you, someone should be looking out for your younger brother not you....do what you have to do, hell or high water. Good luck dear...

Answer 6

Well it seems your parents mainly your mum is being very unfair, you should NOT be one maing breakfast for your little brother nor bathing him, he is your brother not your son, It is good to help out and give your mum a break on mother's day but you should not be doing it 7 days aweek


it will be very hard to say anything to your parents, so if I was you I would go and see a teacher at school you really like or someone at school who can help and give you the help and advice you need...

Answer 7

Yes your parents are mean. They treat you as a slave, they expect you to give your schooling 100%, work part-time, take care of your kid brother, cook, clean, run the house, man they expect you to do everything and on top of that you pay board and your mum sits on her fat a*se spending it!!!! How old are you sweetheart??? My mum was much the same with me plus the physical, verbal and mental abuse I got from too.

My heart goes out to you love it really does and I'm not surprised you feel they are being mean to you, I would be tempted to get out of there as quickly as you can and take your brother with you. Not sure where you are form but we have Social Service here in the UK, if you were here I'd suggest you rang them for help in getting you and your brother out of there quick sharp. You must have a similar thing you can turn to to report abuse!!! I wish you all the luck in the world I really do, take care and keep smiling xxx

Answer 8

Well from what I read, i get the impression your parents are selfish and only looking after themselves. It's good you do the things you do for your brother, keep doing those things.
But as far as cleaning, making your mom tea etc...stop it immediately. that is not your duty as their child. You should be able to focus on your school and your friends...and your parents don't even give you that chance.

Talk to them, if you havent already. If they refuse to listen, then someone has to step in. Is there a grown up person you trust? talk to them. But don't let your parents selfishness ruin your childhood. You should be doing fun things and school. Everything else is THEIR responsibility.

Answer 9

Seems as if your parents went way over board about teaching you about life and responsibility. I don't know how old you are but you sound very mature for your age. Obviously they are the ones with the life and you seem to have none. On the other hand, please continue to be there for the sake of your brother because seems as if you ever move out he will be a total lost with almost uncaring parents such as yours. Your efforts will be rewarded and you will be blessed with a good conscience knowing you have done good. Your parents on the other hand, I truly feel sorry for them because they obviously don't know what a treassure they have in you.

Answer 10

It sounds like you do everything, although does your mother on the whole do the housework? It's not mean for them not to give you a lift! It's only 10mins for god sake!

It should be your mothers responsibilty to care for your brother - that's what parents are supposed to do surely. You should have a job, you need to learn the value of money.

Also - why the hell are you paying board if your still at school? I assume you mean school school and not uni/college school? That's not right at all.