He buys his 10 year old son everything he wants without suporting our household. He hasn't worked in 6 months despite graduation from college at 39 last December 2005. He turned down 5 jobs in the last month and now he won't work because his prized child is coming to NJ from Arizona after not visiting sonce March. I hate the kid!
2007-05-21 00:09:22 · 15 answers · asked by itsjust me123 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Ok so your supporting a lazy bum and now you have to deal with his son who you dislike? If I were you Id move out until your boyfriend gets a job and supports himself and is responsible. Since your paying all the bills you have leverage and the only power he has is what you give him. So you can whine all you want but lady you have the power, so use it and quit whining.
2007-05-21 01:25:33 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
So you, a grown woman, hates a 10 year old child and hold a grudge against him because his father isn't acting responsibly. You LET your husband lay around for 6 months after graduating from college. And NOW you're releasing your built up venom on an innocent child whom you knew would be involved with his father when you married him. I strongly suggest that if you don't like the situation that you're in and you can't behave like an adult where that child is concerned then you leave the marriage and make do on your own and the NEXT time you get involved make sure there are no children involved for you to HATE and blame for some mans laziness and YOUR weakness of letting him be that way. YOUR JEALOUSY OF THE CHILD IS ALSO VERY OBVIOUS!!!
2007-05-21 07:18:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a problem with the kid's dad more than with the kid himself. You can't really lay blame on a 10 year-old who is getting spoiled... but you can lay blame on the deadbeat dad who isn't working and has no desire to help support your household. Who does he think will have to foot the bill for taking the little boy out in NJ and showing him the sites and paying for meals, etc.??? You need to sit him down and lay down the law. You cannot run a household by yourself and you shouldn't feel burdened by your stepson's upcoming visit. Only the father can help you with both of these. I have a feeling that after he starts working and can contribute to the household, your perception regarding the little boy will turn more positive with less resentment. Good luck and God bless!
2007-05-21 07:15:03 · answer #3 · answered by sonice2bbi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too am a step parent. It is hard mine live with me. And yes i will admit that there are times where i feel i hate them ,but we must remember they did not ask to born,they did not ask for there parents to seperate and for a stepparent/s or for siblings. Your husband is suffering from guilty father syndrome and your stepson must be going through alot of emotions. Yes children can be manupulitve but learn to read the signals and stop the situation befor it arises. The best thing you can do for yourself and your marriage as well as your stepson is to use this time and try to build a friendship with him. As for your lazy husband tell him to get off his *** and get a job, just because hes son is coming is no excuse not to work. Hes son will feel so much more pride over hes father if he is working. Tell the lazy bugger thats hes excuses are the lamest under the son and he sould start accting responsiable. And ps....give your stepson a break....you might find that he is a really cool kid....
2007-05-21 07:21:08 · answer #4 · answered by mikoid 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you don't like him (the boy), he won't like you, too. Maybe he's a spoiled brat, but you should teach him. If he does something bad, give him time out, don't give him snack, or do something to show him that that's not a good thing to do. He needs some dicipline, don't you think? And 6 weeks? He'll learn. Good luck! Remember, don't hate him, try to like him, love him. Parents dicipline because they love their children. If that boy's father loves him, he would have taught him these things, but because he just spoils it, it's your job! Once again, good luck!
2007-05-21 07:15:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...you sound really selfish! I probably would be a little ticked off about the whole job thing but come on! Thats his kid...I just hope the son doesnt know how much you hate him...how horrible!
2007-05-21 07:12:56 · answer #6 · answered by sweetgirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a tricky one .... i take it the child lives with you ?The dad seems to come across as a waster and the child will manipulate the situation to his advantage ..Surely you cant hate the kid as that is quite strong .. i think you hate the bio dad ... he should be maintaining his child through child support but as he is not working that is impossible i know this is not what you want to hear but at least he is buying him things .. stay strong it will all work out
2007-05-21 07:15:35 · answer #7 · answered by sammie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump the father, seems like parasites run in the family, this is a dead end relationship, and I supose you think you "love" him.
A relationship is all about sharing, whats your share work and more work, now you are expected to cook, clean, and fetch and cary for this loser and his son, get a life.
2007-05-21 07:13:54 · answer #8 · answered by conranger1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how on earth can you hate a 10 year old child for the actions of his father??? this child is not the reason your husband does what he does.lets get real here your mad at a adult for his actions but instead of taking it to the adult is easier to blame a child.if you are this unhappy with your husband get out of the marriage but don't lay the blame at the feet of a child.
2007-05-21 07:36:58 · answer #9 · answered by patbgone 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't sound as if you like either of them. Why don't you get out of the relationship? It would be much better for you. The guy sounds like a user.
2007-05-21 07:13:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anthony F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋