My husband and I were engaged for 2 years before finally deciding to elope last week. The main reason we did it was because a large wedding was out of the question and most of our family/friends would've been disappointed had they not been invited.
Would it be extremely tacky to send out a mass email or ecard announcing the news to distant family and friends? What is a cheap alternative, if you consider this too tacky. Cost is an issue for us so the cheaper the better. Thanks for all the help in advance.
2007-05-20 23:57:16 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
A postcard is a good idea. You mean like a photo postcard or just any design in general?
2007-05-21 00:02:19 · update #1
Red~thanks for the firsthand experience. I'm opting for postcards now.
2007-05-21 00:09:23 · update #2
THX for all the advice! Oh and snapdragon~I wasn't going to "spam" everyone.
2007-05-21 02:49:13 · update #3
Get a picture of you and the hubby in your wedding cloths and take it to walgreens and they will make them into post cards for you rather inexpensively. It is more personal. If you are not dressing specially perhaps a pic of your and your hubby's hands show the rings?
2007-05-21 01:33:35 · answer #1 · answered by wicked wench 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do think it is tacky to announce that you were married in an email. It feels like you didn't want to put any effort into the announcement but are expecting a gift from people (even if you aren't, that's the impression it gives).
You can get some nice cards or postcards from paper warehouses and even handprint an announcement to save on printing charges. Better yet, use a photo from your elopement to decorate.
Most of the online digital photo sites offer announcements printed up with a photo of the special occassion for relatively reasonable prices. A good site is winkflash.com (it's among the cheapest) which does postcards or photocards for as low as 39 cents each.
2007-05-21 00:30:32 · answer #2 · answered by worldsowide 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I see nothing wrong with an announcement via email or ecard, and I would never think that you are wanting gifts if I received one. I'd think it was a cost saving way of letting friends and family know you've gotten married.
My friend actually did this. Her and her man got married by JoP and she sent out an email to those who have internet access. I didn't feel it was in any way tacky or rude nor did I feel like they were wanting gifts.
Just be sure to send those who do not read email often or at all a nice postcard or announcement.
2007-05-21 00:44:07 · answer #3 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's best to send this information out in the regular mail, especially considering the enormous cost they would have to pay to attend your wedding. Be prepared for a lot of declines. No, it is not tacky to give people pricing information in advance. That is considerate and wise. What WOULD be tacky would be if you sprang this information on them only a month or two in advance. Yes, it'd be tacky to skip out on paper invites. If you're expecting them to spend $1000 each to come to your island wedding, then you can spend a couple hundred bucks on invites. (I only spent about $300, postage included, to invite 175 people to my wedding.) Put together a nicely typed letter or newsletter, formatted very clearly so that people can easily comprehend this information. This can also function as your Save the Date, if you already have your venues set in stone ... simply saying "keep August 30, 2013 open!" doesn't help people at all). Like you said, include every single bit of information that your guests will need to determine if they can attend your wedding or not: location of your ceremony and reception, location of your hotel block and the cost of each room and any discounts (AAA, military, etc.), flight information, suggested travel agent's contact info, etc. You can e-mail this to people you are SURE check their e-mail regularly, but a mailed letter might be the best way to ensure that they receive it. You can certainly do both to make double-sure that they get it. There is no point to sending out an informational packet and then a separate Save the Date. Combine them into one. People don't need to be bombarded with your wedding-related announcements. For a destination wedding, you should probably send out the paper invitations three months in advance, to give people more time to decide if they can make it. So, long story short ... Informational Save-the-Dates via e-mail are OK if you know for a fact that these folks regularly check their e-mail. Wedding invitations via e-mail would be tacky. Use paper wedding invitations.
2016-05-18 21:19:04 · answer #4 · answered by holly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HA HA I SO totally did EXACTLY that. Cross my heart, swear swear swear. Looking back, yes, tacky. Horrible. My mother was heartbroken.... so were my friends. You could do a little postcard-like mailing where you could have your pictures taken together, make sure your hands are out front in some cute way, and then print them off with the annoucement of your wedding! Getting anything in the mail is going to be much more personable and way better than an ecard.... TRUST me. I KNOW!
2007-05-21 00:07:37 · answer #5 · answered by red 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Lol the cheap option wud be email the folks but only if u have access to free internet lol and on top of that the mail box shud be reachable too lol
Post cards sound like a very good option and it's cheap compared with ur wedding expense it's nothing so yea spend that much lol. Enjoy and Congratulations on ur Wedding :D have a wonderful and great life ahead Cheers :)
2007-05-21 00:40:29 · answer #6 · answered by kittana 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If people know your financial situation, they will understand. If it's what you can afford, it's what you can afford! Is it the postage that would be too much? Why not make your own cards? I would suggest that, especially if you got married last week and didn't tell anyone about it. An ecard stating that info might seem shocking/rude. Good luck!
2007-05-21 00:02:58 · answer #7 · answered by PekinRezen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make your own announcements, if you have a digital camera you can take your own pictures if not, find something on the internet that you can cut and paste into an announcement. They are easy and it gives it a personal touch, although for more recent generations you can save on postage by just emailing your announcement to them.
2007-05-21 02:33:29 · answer #8 · answered by jcbsmom04 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you`ll start phoning them it will get expensive.
e-mail is the cheapest ever, even free
if you have a small budget, either buy some marriage-themed cards, write a personalized message and mail them, that can`t be expensive, stamps and envelopes are not expensive or you can buy some good quality paper and print your own cards, with a picture of you and your husband and mail them.
if you don`t want to use the mail, you can use the picture of you and your husband+some writing for each recipient and e-mail that.
2007-05-21 00:03:21 · answer #9 · answered by Maddy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is. Sending out a mass email is called spamming and your wedding announcement deserves more respect than that.
2007-05-21 02:19:55 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋