2007-05-20 23:25:11 · 13 answers · asked by akhim28 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I had my first one last year, he was born 2 months after my 29th birthday, and I thought that was about perfect. My husband and I had been married several years, I had built my career and was able to have a job that was both well-paying and offered me paid maternity leave and a very flexible schedule when I went back to work, we had a house, we had money in the bank, good health insurance, etc. Despite what some people say about "well, any time you want to is a good time" I think having some financial stability and the ability to provide for a child is important. I also think you should be in a place, mentally, where you won't feel resentful about the demands a child places on your time and your emotions, and feel like you missed out on things (career, travel, education, etc.) by having a baby. My husband and I got educated, got married, saw the world, did what we wanted to do and when our son came along, we were ready to settle down and focus just on building our family for awhile. My personal opinion is that anything under 25 is too young - most people are still in the "it's all about me" phase of life and also have not had enough time to develop economic resources to stabilize their family. Once you feel like your life is reasonably stable and you have some good resources at your disposal, if you want to have a baby, go for it.
2007-05-21 07:39:26 · answer #1 · answered by Amy L 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Hi I reallly don't think there is "any best age" to have children. I think that having children is a gift and they will come to you when you are ready. Any loving person will make a wonderful parent and this happens regardless of age. As long as you are there for the child emotionally and physically and have a lot of love to go around, this is all that matters. I am sure you will make a wonderful parent when the time is right for you! I hope this helps you:)
2007-05-21 06:49:34 · answer #2 · answered by chikkii80 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you're an adult..then it should be the age that you're ready! Once you hit the age where you know babies aren't toys and are actual human beings...you should be ok. Children come with a lot of responsibility...when you reach an age where you're ready to handle it...plus you've accomplished some things in your life and you are mentally mature...GO FOR IT!
2007-05-21 09:26:36 · answer #3 · answered by Proud Mommy of 3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 22 I had my first child at 17 years 11 months. And the second I had at 21 years 8 months.
2007-05-23 09:09:17 · answer #4 · answered by sonyagiddings 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you know you are ready. If you are asking this question you are not ready.
Just like you knew when you should marry, that is how you will know when you should have kids. It is all about commitment, and giving of oneself. It has to be with being ready emotionally, financially, and the ability to spend quality time with the baby/child. Giving love is on the top of the list.
2007-05-21 07:34:39 · answer #5 · answered by michelebaruch 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It varies. Some people want kids when they are younger because they feel like they can be with them more. Some want to wait until they are settled in life first. I think that whenever you are ready to give that child 100% of your love and what you think is best for the child is when you are ready.
I was 20 when I had my first and 28 when I had my last.
2007-05-21 09:04:00 · answer #6 · answered by mommato4boys 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you have found the person you want to be with for the rest of your life, and you have had a successfull, meaningful, consistent, and healthy relationship with them for some time.
When you know for sure your partner is ready to have children as well! Also depends on how many you want to have, and how close in age you want them to be... keeping in mind- any pregnancy over the age of 35 is considered slightly higher risk!
2007-05-21 06:33:50 · answer #7 · answered by Carmen W 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think it's more about maturity. although i wouldn't recommend someone so young having a child. meaning teens.
when a person is finacially stable with a good job and knows what they want in life they can make the decision to have kids. when the time is right, a person will know.
2007-05-21 06:37:04 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Charmed One♥ 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Age shouldn't come into question (unless you're 18 and under)
Can you afford it?
Are you and your partner mentally ready?
Can you prove it with a stable and CONSISTENT atmosphere?
Are you ready to give up a major portion of your life, privacy and dreams?
Questions like that are what matter, not age.
2007-05-21 06:35:36 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
when you have enough money to support them, maybe after the age of 21 and up to the age of 35.
2007-05-21 06:34:03 · answer #10 · answered by lacoste 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋