i've been w/my bf for 3 years now and we have a wonderful relationship. we've had our ups and downs along the way (i'm 28 w/3 little girls that i have part-time that he loves and he's 29-never been married or ever lived w/a gf.)
everytime he gets close to me (and i mean every single time-unless we're in public) he gets really turned on-he doesn't even have to be touching me (and all of my clothes are on).
when i stay over on our work nites (we both work nite shift-same hours and days), the first thing he tries to do when i get into bed is take off my pajamas. it kind of makes me mad b/c he doesn't even try to talk w/me first (like ask how my nite is,etc). if i don't want to make love (he always refers to it this way) then he says ok but turns the other way so he won't keep getting turned on-but he'll reach back to hold my hand or rub my back still.
my past relationships were never like this-they never got turned on that easily or often. is this bad?
2007-05-20 22:10:39 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we've talked marriage before (he's been dropping proposal hints for 6 months now) and just this past week, he asked for my help in clearing out space in his closet for my stuff.
he said today that he loves me so very much and that i have no idea how much of life he wants to experience w/me.
he spends time w/my kids at least once a week (takes us to the park,lake,etc).
he bought me a 1500.00 necklace for my birthday and i know he loves me alot but y does he want sex so damn much?!!! he's always turned on around me-even when we're on the couch watching tv!!
our sex life is very electric and i totally love it -for the most part i don't mind it but i worry that him being so sex-driven around me means that's all he thinks about!!
2007-05-20 22:11:08 · update #1
you aren't blessed or cursed for dat, it's a guys thing. Guys get horny, most guys. It's something that they can't resist, but u can't leave this guy now, because you have kids, so you need to set things straight with him. Talk to him, don't let him talk to you into taking off your clothes. But sometimes you need to have "sex" or wutever the case may be and not just the dull kinda thing cuz guys get bored. You're husband may just cheat on you to get what he wants, so just once in a while you can just show him what you got and let him be satisfied with what he gets.
2007-05-20 22:21:21 · answer #1 · answered by beautifulgurl305 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men are just highly sexed. Or it could be he just loves you so much...
He sounds like a keeper to me.
You might set him down and tell him that you really enjoy the intimacy with him, but sometimes you need him to be a bit more sensitive to the fact that women need to have their mind stroked... with out sex.... we're more mentally attuned to turn ons rather than turned on by sight.....
There is an joke about how to please a woman and how to please a man:
HOW TO IMPRESS A WOMAN
Wine her, Dine her, Call her,
Hug her, Hold her, Surprise her,
Compliment her, Smile at her, Laugh with her,
Cry with her, Cuddle with her, Shop with her,
Give her jewelry, Buy her flowers, Hold her hand,
Write love letters to her,
Go the end of the earth and back again for her.
HOW TO IMPRESS A MAN
Show up naked,
Bring beer
While this is tongue in check jest it isn't that far off the mark either.
2007-05-20 22:23:33 · answer #2 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is very sexually active and his libido really that high for the reason that he is still young and you turn him always. i can say this is normal in a relationship especially when your in-love. and i can sense no problem with that unless if you don't like it anymore. take that as a compliment because despite that you have children already he really loves you that much and he looks at you very desirable. why not just enjoy it and have fun. you are more worried one day when he doesn't do the same as before. good luck.
2007-05-20 22:22:04 · answer #3 · answered by taurust_girl27 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well he's a sex addict there are worse addictions out there but I think the fact that he is willing to withdrawal and just hold your hand when you say no is a huge deal. Keep in mind though that if he is a sex addict this will be the norm even after you marry him.
2007-05-20 22:22:07 · answer #4 · answered by blue_dragoness5695 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not bad for as long as he does not see every woman and he gets turned on , maybe you need to ask him if there is a problem then you can know. does that make you feel uncomfortable or do u, enjoy it which ever way you decide be care because you might hurt his feelings. l wis u all the best.
2007-05-20 22:39:02 · answer #5 · answered by judy m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
??? What's wrong with him being highly sex driven? You can talk after making love! I'd say something's wrong with you...My bf gets turned on whenever he sees me, just like yours with you, but I do get turned on too as I see him;) So, we first make love, and THEN talk;)...And, it never happens to me not to be willing to make love with him: I just love him and love to make love to him, ANYTIME and under ANY circumstance;)
2007-05-20 22:22:19 · answer #6 · answered by Love_my_Cornish_Knight❤️ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dam you lucky buggar, make the most of it. but sit your man down and have a talk to him.
2007-05-20 22:23:54 · answer #7 · answered by Angela W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋