The mentally challanged girl at my school won't stop calling me. I talk to her on the phone about half an hour a day before saying I have to go, but I'm feeling the drain of our convetsations. I don't have that many hours in the day. Also, in school she's constantly hugging me, and this isn't a generalization for all mentally challanged people but she smells bad. She also always wants to come over, and cries and makes a scene I say "not today", or if I neglected to answer one of the millions of messages she left me. I wish there was a nice way to explain to someone they are being clingy. What do I do?
2007-05-20 21:56:35 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I am a mother of a mentally challenged boy and I would appreciate talking with you about this, if it were to happen with my son. I might even ask you if it would be possible for you to change your phone #. But I do have to say that these people with this disability are the most loving caring people you would ever know, and they mean no harm...They just don't understand, and a parent can help you out a lot better then anyone. If you feel uncomfortable about speaking to the parent ask a school counselor about talking to the parent..I hope this helps.
2007-05-20 22:45:58 · answer #1 · answered by Diana J 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lori K and ILuvJeffie are both right.
You need to talk to the school guidance counselor and the girl's parents. Let them know that the attention it becoming a strain for you, and that you don't want to hurt the girl's feelings, but you need to put some distance between you.
FWIW, I think you are a being a good and sensitive person in trying to resolve this situation without hurting the other girl.
Good Luck,
Doc Hudson
2007-05-20 22:04:29 · answer #2 · answered by Doc Hudson 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have trouble with it, too. Just like new born babies are "born" sinners. It is totally impossible to comprehend. Perhaps in some "mythological" (& spooky way) it goes back to "original sin" because Eve ate the apple? I suspect you'll get some answers explaining--but surely they won't be logical. EDIT: I just looked at the answers, & all but two (so far) are from "religious" people, as I expected. As for In-Vince, what an UNLOVING & irrational god! truckercu--"The seed of man is sin." PLEASE TO EXPLAIN why god created such horrible creatures. As for Pope John Paul II--how many times have they changed their minds? Example, I wonder what happened to all those people when eating meat on Friday was a sin! Now that it is not, have they been forgiven? Even birth control has been changed! How do they explain this manipulation of the "bible" that was for so long THE WORD CARVED IN STONE? EDIT TWO: Thank you for the details. It's clear that you see the fallacy in all of this. I am NOT a Christian basher, & have defended them when people got "out of hand" in this category.
2016-05-22 17:15:48 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too nice of a person. Talk to a counselor at school about it and hopefully they can give the girl and her parents some guidance to stop it.
It is not going to be easy to shut this down, if they can not help you wll have to be tough if you want to get your life back in order.
2007-05-20 22:00:40 · answer #4 · answered by blakereik 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Infatuation from a person who doesn't understand that the persistence this person is directing towards you, is somewhat overbearing to say the least.
Doesn't your school have some type of mediation therapy for the both of you, that can sort this problem out.
The only answer I can suggest is introduce her to all your friends and to some other people and thus encourage this person to mix with them.
2007-05-20 22:13:01 · answer #5 · answered by Drop short and duck 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not a good situation. I really, really advise you to talk to an adult about this. Talk to your mom and also a teacher or someone at school. Seriously,you need to do something ASAP and nip this in the bud before it gets worse. I smell trouble. I feel bad for the girl,but I don't have a good feeling about this. Good luck Hun.
2007-05-20 22:01:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a very delicate situation.... I think you should talk to your school counselor and see what he/she suggests. Don't want to make the wrong decision with something as important as this. Good Luck.
2007-05-20 21:59:33 · answer #7 · answered by Cujo's Mom 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should discuss this with her mother. She might be able to distract her attentions in another direction. Also, your school guidance counselor may be able to help as well as your teacher.
2007-05-20 21:59:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Oh that's tough, you are so kind to put up with that much, but you have to have boundries. Ask you teacher or the childs mother what the best way would be to draw boundries with her.
2007-05-20 22:00:44 · answer #9 · answered by Daisy Indigo 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
my god!! that uncannily sounds like some person in my sch last time, at least the first part. but he wasn't mental. what i did was to give the person's phone no to a couple of my friends who called him and disturbed him to see how he would feel. he stopped calling me after a couple of days.. BUT for this girl it is different. my advice is to talk to a counselor..
2007-05-20 22:01:44 · answer #10 · answered by logic 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋