What do you tell your kids when they ask you where babys come from?

Question

I have 2 kids...! yr. old son and a 3 yr. old daughter...My friend is pregnant and her daughter is 5...Well her daughter asked her this and she called me...I'm not ready for this question...My friend told her daughter that her brother was in mommys tummy and she asked how he got there..She said since they were married they could have babies..Then she asked how he was going to get out of her tummy..My friend said the doctor was going to cut her tummy to get him out...Is there a right way to tell your kids about this? What would you or what did you tell your kids? I just want to be ready and say the right words...Thanks...

Answer 1

My mother once told me that you tell a child as much as they ask but never give them anymore information then they want.

if a child ask were baby comes from tell them they come from there mother. If they are ok with just answer then leave it at that. If they ask were the mommy gets the baby tell them they get the baby from the daddy, If they are ok with just answer then leave it at that. If they ask how the daddy gives the baby to the mommy then you give them more information.

No need to sit a child down and have a 1/2 hour conversation when a 2 second answer will do just fine for them at that moment..

Answer 2

I think your on the right path with the truth, however, the c-section explanation could be omitted. I have a 2 and 6 year old and this has not been as much an issue past the baby in the tummy. He hasn't asked how it comes out. If he does, I'll explain it in scientific detail from the sperm fertilizing the egg that was produced in the ovary and so forth. Either he will appreciate the honest answer or be bored enough that I won't have to go any further.

Answer 3

The best answer to any question is "the truth, then you don't have to remember what you said"... Mark Twain.

This is very true.

What are you going to achieve by avoiding the question or lieing?

Honestly, children do not need a lot of explaination.

Where do babies come from? Mommy's.

How do they get there? Mommy's and Daddy's make them and then they grow inside Mommy's.

How do they get out? A hole opens up and the Mommy pushes them out.

A lot of kids will be satisfied with that, some more, some less.

My sister and her partner live with us. Her partner has a 4 year old that is here on weekends. He's very excited for the baby to come. He knows where babies come from.

The other day he found a breast pad (i "leak" a lot) he asked what it was. I said "it goes in my shirt" he asked why I told him that my breasts were practicing making milk for the baby and that keeps my shirt dry. He said "ok" put it down and didn't think of it again.

The truth is always best.

Answer 4

My kids are 13, 18, and 21... and my mom's advice on this subject has held true with all sensitive topics.

Little ones don't really want to know all about the birds and bees. They need to know how things work, and they want to know Mommy's going to be okay. So, they ask. The rule is, ONLY anwer the question they ask, as directly and simply as possible for their age.

Your friend's answers sounded really good.. except for the cutting part. With most young children, you can just tell them "Mommy and Daddy will go to the hospital and the doctor will help get the baby out." I wouldn't mention cutting.. not even if you know you'll have a C-section.. Little ones just don't need or want to be burdened with that kind of knowledge.

Answer 5

i'm going to tell my babies the actuality, yet a extra suited version of it. I'de start up via asking them how they think of toddlers are made and proceed from there. My auntie and uncle asked their new child how they theory toddlers have been made and he responded with "i think of that as quickly as a mum and dad love one yet another they do a crocodile "dying" roll. then the toddler comes out of the tummy button. It replaced into close lol. so which you dont desire to grant your babies some BS tale while they in all risk comprehend a splash extra desirable than you think of besides :-)

Answer 6

Actually, you should tell them before they ask... they might never ask and then they'll find out from friends or TV (not the right place!)
Tell them (in simple terms) about sex and eggs and sperm. Kids are smarter than you know. Chances are, they will already know, for the most part, what sex is (just from television alone) and that babies are in mommies' tummies at an early age.

Answer 7

Keep it simple, not graphic, and matter-of-fact.

With your friend's case, if she was having a c-section, she told her child the right thing. I've heard of moms who plan to deliver vaginally who tell their children the baby comes out of their tummy kind of like poopoo does. Sounds weird, but it's about the best way I've heard of to let them understand what will go on. I wouldn't want to be the mom of a child who is young enough to have toileting problems and has been told this, though.......

My sisters and I got together recently and decided on what we would tell our kids, since they're all best friends, and since our "how are babies made" conversation was pretty confusing, with my aunt instead of our parents. I remember walking away from the conversation thinking that the man does something that resembles aiming and peeing at the woman, only it's not pee. Anyway, both of my sisters were pregnant, and the kids were old enough to ask, so that's why we got together on this.

When two grownups love each other very much, they get married and sleep in the same bed. Sometimes they love on each other in bed, and a baby starts to grow in the mommy's tummy. It stays there for a long time so it can get bigger and have all its parts, like fingers and toes and eyes and ears. When it's all done getting made, and it's a real baby, it's time for it to come out. The younger two took "and the man and the lady go to the hospital and have the baby" at face value. One of the other kids needed further explanation. Both of my sisters have/had scheduled c-sections, so we told the kids they would go to the hospital and the doctor would cut their tummies and take the babies out. The reference to Little Red Riding Hood that came as a result of this conversation was the part of the four-year-old.

If they ask additional questions, answer them honestly and simply, but don't over-elaborate.

Fake being calm. Kids and dogs smell fear, and it's better to keep all this fairly low-profile for the time being. If you seem nervous about this talk, it could pique their interest even more.

Eventually, if it doesn't happen with this conversation, you're going to have to explain the reproductive organs of males and females. Best thing to do: be matter-of-fact. Don't talk about a "willy", a "weenie", a "hooha", or "boobies". Say "penis", "vagina" and "breasts". They're body parts, nothing more, and there's nothing wrong with using proper names for them. We spend a lot of effort teaching them ears, nose, mouth, tummy, fingers and toes, but when it comes to body parts in the underwear, we pretty much try to ignore they even exist. That gives them a status of "taboo", which of course makes it more interesting. All body parts have specific functions. Those body parts' functions are for making babies. Simple as that.

Try not to stress too much about "saying the right words." I managed to get past my first impression of the conception-by-peeing method and have a healthy sex life and go on to have children. :-) You won't scar them.

Answer 8

i sat my son down and explained to my son the truth but in away that he can understand the truth is the key and let him ask questions its the best way that i thought to do it,but my son was 9 when i told him before hand i told him when a mommy and daddy love each other so much they are blessed with a baby

Answer 9

Please tell them the truth. It will need to be suitable for whatever age and you don't have to give any more info than what they ask about. It's usually best to just answer a question and then don't say anymore unless another question is asked. As they get older you will talk more about it. Besides, starting early makes it easier to talk to them later.

Answer 10

I think the c-section answer is scary to kids. I told my kids there is a special place for the baby to grow and that when it is time the baby comes out of a special hole that stretches and stretches like a rubber band. I told them that it
hurts some, but it is a joyous hurt because you get a prize...the baby.