What do you first notice about someone when you are looking for a potential partner?

Question

Especially when you meet new people, what is it about them that makes you want to get to know them more intimately? What are the features and qualities in another person that make you feel they could be your missing half?

Answer 1

I'd say if they make you laugh, make you smile and can understand what you mean when you're struggling to say what you mean then they could be a good potential partner.

Sometimes it can be hard to see a potential partner until you've spent some time with them alone so you can get to know them properly. This can be hard a a party but if there's a connection you'll know and you won't notice the party

Answer 2

Physical features may draw attention to most people, but really just noticing small things even, could be from the way they present themselves, communicate, gesture, to how they think and view things, anything that can stir something up inside you.
Features and qualities, all may have some "idea" of what they want someone to have, but when you really meet someone off gaurd perhaps, you'd be surprised to find out how wrong you were of what you thought you wanted or needed. To me, everyone is a different person, so everyone has different qualities that represent that one person and attracts you to them and how each others chemistry works. You then realize suddenly you're falling for 'this person' and they may not even be what you thought you would end up being with, and you're slowly changing for the better and learning more about yourself and realizing how this person is really something amazing that you can't put into words. In other words, you really won't know until it hits you, it will already be in the works when you realize it. If any of that makes sense :]

Answer 3

Okay when you first notice about someone when you are looking for a potential partner. When you meet new people and what makes you want to get to k now them more intimately.If the qualities in that person is good as im out and another tell him how you feel.

Answer 4

When I met my husband there was no question in my mind that this man was someone special and with whom I wanted to get to know. There was no idea in my mind this was a potential partner, let alone someone to spend the rest of my life my life.

Did I think of specific features and qualities at that time? No. I saw a handsome person with I wanted to get to know. In time I saw his sense of humor and our very similar interests. And with the luck of the angels I did find the man who would be my partner, my soul mate, my friend, and more always be there through good and bad.

My folks knew each other 29 days when they were married, we knew each other 5 months. The instinct was stop and get to know this person and from there the progression was made without another thought. The fact was the instinct proved true.

But most people's initial response/instinct is more sensual than love. Remember the song from The King and I that says something like "you may see a stranger across a crowded room" "fly to his side and make him your own"

So take that first step and say hello. Hopefully you will be as lucky as I was (and still am).

Answer 5

The first thing that I notice is the physical feature. It is natural to be attracted to a person's physique especially if the person is attractive. Then I will make an effort to talk to the person so I can have a bird's eyeview of the character. If the person has the same interest as mine and I can feel the sincerity of the character the person projects, then I could truly say that the person is my missing half. We are meant for each other.

Answer 6

Hello My Dear, I am a retired old bloke and live on a small farm in the country in Australia. Along the road of life I have learnt a few lessons, some of them good and some bad. I enjoy looking at the problems of youth as I was once there myself.
Your question is most interesting and the decision to marry someone is one of the most important you will make. I married the wrong Lady as we did not discuss what we wanted out of life together. It was later on, to my dismay, that she would only give me one child. I have lived to regret this and having my time over again, I wiuld have discussed this with her. My suggestion to you is that the first attraction to a person is only on the surface however it is important that you have what they call the "chemistry". This however will not give you the best chance of making a life long happy marriage. When your involvement with a man gets to the stage that you are thinking seriously together, my suggestion is that you both make a list of what you see as the important things you want out of a relationship. Then both compare your lists and see where they agree and where they do not. This will give you the answer. You may think that this approach is too "clinical" and that true love will overcome anything. This is true to some extent however, if you start of with a good understanding that you both are wanting the things that are important to you both, then your future success will not be guaranteed, there can never be a guarantee, however, you will certainly have a much better chance. I suggest you first start with your views on children.
Anyway, I hope this helps you my dear,
Grandpa

Answer 7

Well for starters, you have to be attracted to them. I don't just mean physically; i mean all the other ways. Of course being good looking is always great but as we all get older we realize it's NOT everything and definitely not enough! I look for a comfortable connection, one which is subtle at first (this way you know it's real and not just physical or spontaneity.) I guess it all depends on you and your beliefs. What makes you happy? Someone who can stimulate you (doesn't have to be all the time, it's better if it 's not) and someone who's personality coincides with yours. All the gaps and flaws in you get filled with their qualities and all their gaps and flaws fill up with your unique qualities. This I think is the best thing. If you can't find anything wrong with someone and nothing at all annoys you then it's probably too good to be true. In that, no one is perfect and that's what unconditional love is all about; loving a person for all their strengths but loving them even more for their weaknesses. Being able to make you laugh is something to look for. Being able to be serious and empathetic when needed is a must also. You'll know when you find them. There's more than one out there for everybody! Love, laugh and then...well you'll be living!

Answer 8

Well, I have to say, I am a spiritual kind of person.

The first and foremost quality I look for in a man is whether he is smart. By smart I mean whether he knows what he wants and he has in-depth opinion on a lot of things. And of course, a sense of humor is a must-have for the men I am interested in. I am a girl who sees inner world important. So without the communication in the spiritual world, I don't see the relationship last long, because I know what I want. Plus,If a smart guy doesn't force me to do anything and give me the freedom to make decisions myself and respect me... a total babe to me.

Money is not important , though I am still a poor girl.But I am very good at budgeting and can always make ends even while spending a fixed percentage of my salary on buying jewelry, clothes, shoes and so forth...

Looks... not that important, but he at least have to be of average level.

Oh, by the way, I hate the guy who ask for sex too soon after we meet. It has to be with someone special, not just physical needs...

Answer 9

Every thing and nothing. I use to make a living playing in rock bands in a younger day and was quite privey to let just say more than my share of what ues to be called groupies or devoted followers of the band. I can honestly tell you everything one has in mind goes tottaly out the window when the reeeeaaaaaaall miss or mr. right come's along. with me it was always the eye's and i don't mean the the make up, but what the person was saying with them. there's an old saying, the eye's will tell you what the mouthe tries to hide. i've seen all kinds of girls and even attracted to alot as well as repulsed by some big time i might add. but when i met my wife
forget it, we were each other's before we even knew what hit us. Kinda like that song,

" i knew i loved you before i met you i must have dreamed you in my life . . ."

yeh the eyes do it for me then the personality, you gotta be sweet and down to earth not a female version of a wise guy . . . I was lucky i would have settle for a women but instead i got an angel frankly she could have done way better but that's life i guess not to mention also love lol . . .

Answer 10

The expression on a woman's face helps decide whether Id even talk to her or not. Do they look like the enjoy life or do they look like a bull just rammed it's horn up their ****. If she looks happy or at least not angry then, to me, she looks approachable. Although there have been times when i've spoken to a honey that was all frowned up and assumed she was mad but she was only deep in thought. But I tend to be a deeper person than first impressions though. Being the visually superficial animal that I am (a man!), the 1st thing i'm going to notice vabout a woman is--------------------------her appearance! As far as my missing half, I think the first thing we'd have to be able to do is have a 2 way conversation where both parties talk, AND listen. Secondly we'd have to match up sexually and third, we should both have an income and not be dependant on the system or any type of 'sugar' parent. Have fun and Ciao,

askaman

Answer 11

Looks are the last thing I notice... and I will always defend that but this time I choose not to elaborate on it... unless, you are talking about hygiene that is another story but I am sooo not getting into that either specially since I think that speaks for itself.. but, staying on topic- well, I think it is honesty, sincerity, compassion, integrity, profoundness... Their heart: who they really are in their core, how that person feels around you and you feel about them.. you feel this bond, a connection like no other... I think that when you truly find the one-- you just know- you don't hestitate- and there is no second guessing it... what would make me want to get to know him more intimately well- the mutual interest, concern, desire to get to know each other... you have the couriosity and wonder about the other person.. never boring... quality-wise- well sometimes you kind of want someone who has your same interests.. well- don't know if that is always possible (unless your destined half is..) however, there are some instances like the interest of learning new things or BEING OPEN MINDED, PATIENT, CONSIDERATE, THOUGHTFUL, willing to BE FLEXIBLE, EMPATHIC... the those would be some important ones to have in common... thus far, sounds like I am painting a picture of the perfect partner.. society has made this description to be some fantastical & impossible ideal or something hard to reach however since I know people that are like this (myself being one of them) then I know and hope that there are still people out there like this.. since we all could be... ;)