I am a father of a 13 year old boy and I have been noticing some of his interests aren't exactly the perfect child sort of habits... not saying I want him to be perfect... but, first of all, he has been getting into death and black metal. He was telling me about some bands such as Behemoth, Cannibal Corpse, and Korpiklaani, which I am a fan of. But then he started saying a whole bunch of gory, bad names. I figure they are maybe Wiccans, Satanists, Atheists or something. I recently posted a question about my son saying he is atheist. I am afraid the music is infecting him...
what's your view on it yahoo?
2007-05-20 18:51:51 · 22 answers · asked by shurdonky 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
No, you shouldn't be worried. His choice in rock bands will change as he grows.
Also, Wiccans and Atheists don't tend to be gory.
Usually, just the Christians and Satanists put out gory propaganda.
If your son is becoming an atheist, that would be a good thing. It means he is thinking for himself and resisting the emotional indoctrination perpetrated on him.
2007-05-20 18:55:25 · answer #1 · answered by nondescript 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋
The best thing you can do for him is let him go through what he's going through. If you try to fight him on the music or ideas, he'll fight you even more. When I was 13 I was into a band called "Suicidal Tendencies" My parents didn't even know or care what I listened to. They knew I'd be fine. I pierced everything, got tatoos, went through everything and guess what? I ended up a lawyer. But If they had made a thing about my music or my hair or things like that I would have dropped out of high school and ran off (I almost did when my dad got mad about a piercing). So act like you don't care and he'll get over it. It's not that cool and in a year (or two months in middle school time) he'll find something else. Trust me on this one. People used to call me a satanist and I wasn't. I just was a nonconformist. Don't fight him though. Be on his side. Cuz everyone at school is probably picking on him and he's acting out against them (not you or religion or G-d or anything else). It'll pass. TRUST ME. Let him be.
2007-05-21 01:59:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Guide and advise, but whatever you do make sure your son knows no matter what they do they are always your child and loved as such.
Gory names are the department of goths and satanists perhaps, but Wicca is a practice of respect and love, so not likely to produce gory names etc. More likely he's getting the names from the music he's listening to. And just a note, music doesn't infect, influence maybe, but not infect. Also we choose what has influence over us and what doesn't, so maybe you need to discuss this with him.
2007-05-21 01:58:20 · answer #3 · answered by Taliesin Pen Beirdd 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why are you worried if you are also into this music? You need to have a close relationship with your son. You need to know where he goes and who he hangs around with. It has nothing to do with religion, just responsible parenting. Talk with him about all this stuff. You say that he said gory, bad names. Why do you just figure that they are maybe Wiccans, Satanists, Atheists or something? He's only 13, ask him what they are! I find it so laughable that you grouped Atheists in with Wiccans and Satanists like we are baby-eaters or something. We just don't believe in any god's, we don't cast spells or pull kids into cults.
2007-05-21 02:01:31 · answer #4 · answered by AuroraDawn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's thirteen years old. He's going through a rebellious phase. Don't try to ban him from listening to anything just because you feel its not religiously correct. If you tell your son not to listen to a band because its the "devil's music", it will drive him to listen to it even more.
Obviously if you don't have a problem with him listening to Cannibal Corpse, you don't have a problem with ... ummm ... descriptive language. So I wouldn't push the issue. When I was a freshman in high school, I dressed in all black, listened to Marilyn Manson, and lied to my friends about cutting myself (I said that I did just to appear "cool"). It was a phase I grew out of.
Also remember that even though your son is young, he is a person and has a right to his own spiritual beliefs ... whether you agree with them or not!
2007-05-21 02:00:34 · answer #5 · answered by ◦Delylah◦ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was me I would be.
I am a Christian now, but when I was younger I listened to a lot of music with questionable lyrics. I would have to say it is my experience that it does effect us in ways we don't understand, I no longer listen to black metal anymore but there are a good number of bands that are christian, eg. Demon Hunter, Living Sacrifice, Project 86.
http://www.christianhardrock.net/artists.asp
This is a web radio sitesite. A lot of the bands may be too heavy for his taste ( a lot of death metal ) but if you want to influence his taste in music toward a christian content this is a start.
2007-05-21 02:18:54 · answer #6 · answered by Jason 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think you should be worried. But I do think you should question his judgment on being an atheist. Maybe you could say there's no proof God exists or doesn't exist so isn't it smarter to assume God exists just in case? Reason with him. You are his father. I personally think that he's just trying to find himself, express himself, and be cool. Unless he starts showing signs of mental illness (like the Columbine kids) then I wouldn't worry about it.
2007-05-21 02:03:05 · answer #7 · answered by 12th 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
I have a one year old and I know it is necessary for parents to teach the child to grow up in good ways. It really has the affect on his future and on your whole generation thereafter.
To teach the children, we must have the right knowledge.
The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and discipline.Proverbs 1:7
Our God who created us will surely help us when we ask Him. I get His help always. I will pray for you and your boy.
I will tell u one situation what God did for me. My brother who I fondly love got so much addicted to these video games, he use to play whole night and never listens to my parents also. I became very worried about him. I use to hide those things from him. But when time passed by I begin to know that God is really there and he wants to turn everything in my life also to good since I was also into other sins. here's a link to the change in my life.. http://www.protectinghands.com/ladder_to_heaven.htm
Then last month when my brother came to see me in kuwait for a month, he continued with his video games. I prayed and hoped on God and within a week he knew God and was changed complelety.
2007-05-21 02:16:04 · answer #8 · answered by Brinda 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your music sounds like is affecting him negatively. You might want to show him the lighter side of things for a while. It looks like what you are going through is a 'learning by example' reaction that he picked up on you. Now you have to do what is right, and not what is easy. You know what I'm talking about.
2007-05-21 02:01:15 · answer #9 · answered by Christian Sinner 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not suggesting you throw the baby out with the bath water so to speak. You are his father and just as you can influence what type of food he eats, you can also influence the other aspects of his life. That's your job. If someting he is into has you concerned then do something about it. However, be reasonable and don't over react.
2007-05-21 02:03:00 · answer #10 · answered by Mr. E 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋