What happens if a mormon youth skips his mission and falls away?

Question

Just wondering, I have a friend who is dating a Mormon and is think of skipping his mission. I heard that his family could disown him or a least kick him out of the house. He said he has to find a place to live on his own before he tells his parents.

nondescript - I really want an answer from a Mormon. So I must refrain from Mormon bashing. I'm just wondering if at the young age of 18 a guy should leave his family and religion for a girl he has been dating for less than a month.

Answer 1

I was a Mormon missionary who has now fallen away from the church. It is no requirement to disown someone for any reason in the LDS church. If a family chooses to do something so awful, they are defying the very thing they claim to believe, which is the the teachings of Christ. During Christ's ministry, according to the Bible and the Book of Mormon, for that matter, Jesus had one primary message and that was LOVE. When anyone acts in a fashion contrary to that, they are committing a greivious sin as love's what we were put here to learn. If people in the church or otherwise can't forgive, the greater sin lies on their own head. Though I have left the LDS church, my family still loves me. Ofcourse, they want me to be back in it but they havn't disowned me. That would be prideful, which is another sin. Anyway, there's my two cents.

Answer 2

I am an LDS returned missionary and a convert to the church. From my experiences in the church, I have never met a person who chose not to serve a mission who did not regret it later, if they remained active in the church. There will, no doubt, be disappointment from the family, friends, and fellow church members. We do not, as a church, believe in shunning, disowning and the like. We believe that people, even to their own spiritual destruction, have free agency to choose what they will. That said, there will be many people who try to offer support and encouragement to your friend as well. As far as finding a place on his own, many parents expect their children to act like adults whether it be going on a mission or going to college. It is not unreasonable, in my opinion, for him to look into supporting himself.

I would also say that, while it is sad that he may not serve a mission, it is better that he not do it if he does not have a testimony of the gospel, if he is not worthy to do so, or if he would not be doing it for the right reasons.

I hope this helps.

Answer 3

If a mormon youth skips his mission and "falls away" then that might be a good thing for now (as long as he can take care of himself). He can always come back to the Mormon church. Support him like Jesus would.

Answer 4

i replaced into no longer born into the church so I even have had a super variety of reviews with different church homes and that i've got no longer considered a church that doesn't suppress dissent and advantages conformity this is not an LDS ingredient that's a lifestyle ingredient and right this is an occasion, in case you do no longer purely like the U. S. military and their strikes anybody hates you and you don't recognize what your speaking approximately for this reason your no longer a physically powerful citizen yet once you conform and prefer the army you're considered an superb us citizen. many international locations additionally stress conformity on their voters and in the event that they decline the consiquences are no longer gratifying. On yet another be conscious I even have not considered to many church homes the place i will say that i choose some help doing such and such and characteristic 50 human beings very just about knocking my door right down to assist. As for having doubts as to climate the religion is real anybody has them that's regularly occurring and this is what the adversary needs because of the fact it provides him a foothold to deliver you down, for this reason we've prayer and the scriptures so we are in a position to earnings, strengthen, and strengthen our thoughts for without an affidavit of your man or woman you may in no way easily draw close and have faith interior the gospel. I even have an affidavit and that's a stable one and definite I even have doubts purely like anybody else, besides the undeniable fact that it is the phobia of the unknown and the adversary that creates those doubts. i'll pass away anybody with this piece of advise, Pray, learn your scriptures so which you will earnings awareness and elegance your man or woman thoughts and strengthen them, no rely what faith you are going to be because of the fact in case you in no way earnings any awareness of the gospel you will in no way recognize if your faith is real.

Answer 5

What is family does to him is up to his family - there is no official religious instructions on the matter (except for parents to keep loving their kids no matter what).

My little brother has chosen not to serve a mission or actively attend church, and my family hasn't changed at all for him. He was already living independently (like all of us were by that age), he comes to family gatherings, and we enjoy his company just like always. Occasionally he feels like sharing his personal spiritual struggles and we listen with open ears, and don't push him, or try to make him feel uncomfortable in any way. That was the choice my family made - and I think it's the right choice for any family in the same situation.

Thanks

Answer 6

I was engaged to a missionmary who went on his mission trip, but never finished it, i was a nanny in california and he expected me to just leave and come home with him when he couldn't finish his commitment. i don't knwo what happen to him, I stayed were I was, even tho the nightstalker was around in the california area and finished out the year and then came home. I broke off the engagement, afterall, if he couldn't finish his mission trip, what else couldn't he finish, besides, my mom had a crush on him and liked to flirt with him, it was high time he left and him abandoning his missionary trip, gave me an excuse. I couldn't marry a guy my mom was attracted to, it would have been weird for both me, my mom and dad.

Answer 7

If his family does something like that because he doesn't want to go on a mission, they are stupid. Now, they can stop him from getting married, or worse, with his girlfriend. But, a boy should go on a mission because HE WANTS to go, not because his family or friends are putting pressure on him to do it.

I know, we're going thru the same thing. My son doesn't know if he wants to go or not, and it doesn't help that his dad keeps putting pressure on him. I told him, go only if you WANT to go, and for NO other reason. If he feels God calling him to it, that's when he should go.

Answer 8

He won't have anything to talk to his 'contemporaries' (elders or HPs) about in the chapel hallway during sacrament meetings. If he doesn't go to the "Y", that's more conversations or buddieship he'll be excluded from.

Mormons have a problem relating to anyone who doesn't 'fit' their mold in the slightest. While many lds here exclaim "We accept everybody", their actions belie their words.

Answer 9

He'll be ostracized by anybody who still believes that superstitious nonsense perpetrated by that scam artist, Joseph Smith.

Still, that's better than staying indoctrinated into religion. Any religion is just old superstition. The only time that getting out of religion is not a great thing is if you fall into another one.

This is just another example of how religion harms society, in this case breaking apart a family and interfering with a potential new family.

Answer 10

The Mormon church does not condone shunning or disowning in ANY way!!!!!! I hope that his family does not do that to him.