I am a 49year old woman.....where do men and women find partners after divorce.......?

Question

I have some friends who go to the bars to find men.....are bars the best place to find a good man?

Carol H said go online....online?? where?

Answer 1

The person who said you are too old is being absurd! I was divorced, and lived alone for ten years. This is where I learned how to get along with myself first. I was not looking, when a beauty just knocked me over at a friend's wedding. I suppose I was just very fortunate. No bars, you will just catch barflies for one nighters. Even I was never into that scene. (I'm 45). My niece was who introduced my wife and I. We are getting along quite well. After she gave up on trying to house train me! LOL!

Don't give up. Remember you do not necessarily need someone else to be happy, it's just more fun to share your life with another.

Answer 2

I'm 57 and I've been happily married for 33 years. I don't have a clue where to meet the other gender--but I do know this. Bars are the worst place. You might want to just ask around--put the word out that you are in the market. Maybe someone at work has a widowed or divorced sister, or something. At least that way it's not a pig in a poke. Besides, men who go to bars before going into a relationship will do so afterwards.

Answer 3

Try the Internet. Dating Websites give you a chance to post photos and give background information that is very helpful in the dating process.
I did Internet dating for a while; I met a couple of people for coffee, that kind of thing. Nothing serious came of any of it, but it certainly was a good social outlet, a way to get to know others and let them get to know you.
I would say that generally, bars are for drinking. The people you meet in bars are drinkers. When you are middle aged, there is no such thing as a singles bar. Singles bars are for people in their 20s. You have to forget the bar scene, I would say, and focus on the Internet.
I am 47, and twice divorced. I personally would be interested in having a life partner, someone to share my life with, but I am not out to have another family or take on a big mortgage responsibility again.
So, for the moment, I am enjoying my freedom. I do not have a big mortgage to pay and I do not have anyone looking over my shoulder, telling me what to do. If I want to get up at 4 a.m. and play my piano (over headphones) I don't have anyone to tell me not to do that!
You have to ask yourself, what are you about? What are you looking for in life? What do you want? Then focus your efforts on finding a man who wants the same things. Once you know the type of man you are seeking, all you have to do is figure out the best place to find him. And why do you want a man? What do you want from him that you do not have?

Answer 4

I have been divorced for almost 7 years now and I found an old friend from the past whom I have been engaged to for almost 3 years. Have a girls night out and perhaps you might find someone over time with the same interests that you have whether it is at a bar or bowling. Good luck and don't give up! There is someone out there for everyone and for some 2. Don't worry about trying to find someone right away, he'll find you!

Answer 5

The bars are not the best place in my opinion to look for a good man. A lot of the guys that go to bars just want a one night stand. Try a church group, speed dating, or maybe a certain club you could join?? A gym might be a good place to find a guy if you are the athletic type. I wish you luck!

Answer 6

I hate to tell you this, but I've had the best luck on line.

The problem with bars, for me, is I drink very little and seem to run into more than my share of men who drink far too much. But I don't think it's bad to go there with your girlfriends occasionally. It does afford the positive aspect of seeing them in person, how they treat other people, etc.

But I do find that the more decent dating sites have turned up a couple of good ones. There is always the possibility of misrepresentation but I've found really very little. I mean, if they intend to meet you, they don't lie about age and weight and it does give you a chance to get to know them a little, find out a few things behind the safety of the keyboard before venturing out too far.

I'm in much the same position as you and I also find that it pays to simply accept all invitations. The best thing always being a personal introduction to a man known by friends. This can't happen, of course, unless you expose yourself socially as much as possible.

This is the time to chase your dreams, to revive old interests, to learn something new. Concentrate on pursuing life in general, making yourself happy. I think you may find that you need not "hunt" men at all. A happy, well adjusted woman seems to attract them to HER.

Gentle thoughts, honey. And welcome home.

Answer 7

Um, let's see
church
speed dating--www.cupid.com
match.com or e-harmony. I wouldn't use the free websites though.

There are Adventure groups --these are generally no pressure way to meet people of the opposite sex. They do things like skiing, hiking, picnicing, poker nights, trips to the local casinos , camping. There is a monthly fee for this type of group, but it may well be worth it.
Probably my next best option, but we will see.
I am 36 divorced and NO from personal experience I have NOT found the bars to be a great place to meet men.

There is also a website called meetup.com as well.
These are events organized by someone else, and they just shoot you an e-vite everytime one is organized letting you knw the when and the where of it all, and you decide for yourself weather or not to attend.

Good luck and have fun.

Answer 8

I am a 46 year-old divorcee and I would definitely not go into bars to meet men. I don't have the slightest idea where to go but I can suggest. Just be careful about going online (dating services) unless you know they are legitimate. I would say let a friend introduce you to someone. Whatever environment you go to, be careful. I would try going to some social functions as wine tastings, political events or fundraisers. If you do go to a bar, go to an upscale one not some dump. I wish ya' luck!

Answer 9

The only men you will find in a bar are the kinds of men who go to bars and are looking for women who hang around in bars!!!!

Does that make sense?

You need to do things you enjoy and are interesting to you - while doing those things, you will naturally run into other people who are interested in the same things. Voila - shared interests. And in the meantime, you will be doing something that makes you happy, whether you're alone or not.

Best of luck to you - I know it's hard.

Answer 10

Bars are the worse place to find a good man, and very dangerous too! Internet personals have worked great for me. You must be very careful as a lady though. Even us guys have to be quite careful, there are some weird woman out there too. Chat for a long period before being willing to call him if he asks, dont give out your number first. Then meet him in your territory with friends of yours there. There are good guys among us, just alot of crap along the way sorry to have to say.