I have always been very protective of her, I don't like it whenever guys talk to her, especially guys that she used to like, which is very long i might add. We have been going out for 7 months and the other day one of the guys that she used to like, slapped her ***. I floored him and ended up breaking his nose. My gf got mad at me and told me that I have to ease up on these kinds of things. It has been 3 days and she is refusing to talk to me. We have always told eachother that we would never leave one another but I am worried that she is close to doing that. I would never leave her, and I am actually a very sweet, caring, sensitive guy. I have sent her flowers and cards but haven't gotten anything in return. What should I do? Do you think the punch was justified? And, do you think she is going to break up with me?
Thanks a ton
2007-05-20 18:13:29 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The punch was not justified. If you broke his nose it was def over the top. She might dump you. Not sure. Try to wait it out .. in the mean time you might want to look into anger management. Maybe give her a cooling down period and then start calling her.
2007-05-20 18:17:50 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if she will but she ought to, for her own safety. You aren't "protective", you are possessive, and there's a big difference. Throw in a penchant for violence, and she's not safe around you. You need to control her like a caged bird, and eventually your anger will turn on her rather than the surrogates you're attacking now.
If you're really caring, you'll drop the sensitive guy mask and look inside yourself honestly. I hope you get counseling before a judge or parole officer forces you to.
PS And don't fall for tvm's seductive suggestion that you were standing up for your woman's honor or something. She would have a point if he was assaulting her, but in this situation you've dishonored yourself a lot more than he dishonored you or your girlfriend.
2007-05-21 01:28:43 · answer #2 · answered by Houyhnhnm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I won't be surprised if she does so. Dear...you can't beat people no matter what they've done. I had a lot of patience for all kind of boyfriends but when it came to these kinda issue you are having, I wouldn't stay with him for a second. Because I think it's not something a mature and well-thinking guy would do and because it could start getting dangerous or he could end up killing somebody!
I think the best way to win her heart back is to go and apologize the guy you hit and let her know you're not happy with what you've done.
2007-05-21 01:23:08 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how that made you feel and i realize that you did it out of respect to her but.........You just cannot put your hands on other people you could hurt someone and cause them to die with blows in the face or to a persons head. No girl in the world is worth going to jail for so just don't ever do that again it is dangerous sweetie. At some point in the relationship you have to trust her but if you feel that she is flirting to much you need to let her know how this is making you feel. You will never be happy with her if her past makes you feel insecure! What that guy did to your girlfriend was wrong and he was out of line in doing what he did. I don't blame you getting upset that would be normal......I just wouldn't want you to get in trouble legally....so if she calls you (give her time) meet with her in person and explain that it was a reaction on your part because the guy had no reason to act like that. Ask her how she would have handled it if some girl walked up and swated you on the butt??? She needs to let these other guys know not to treat her like that because you are her boyfriend and she along with you do like it! Good luck sweetie.
2007-05-21 01:29:55 · answer #4 · answered by Lindsey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should break up with her !! It is totally inappropriate for another guy to touch your girlfriend ANYWHERE. I can't say I completely agree with the way you handled it, because if she was defending his actions instead of yours, she needs to be floored as well ( not literally - never OK to hit a woman) but you know what I mean, where does her loyalty lay ? I would never be OK with some guy slapping my a** in front of my man, and I would expect my man to stand up for me. It isn't just disrespectful to my man, but even more disrespectful to ME.
2007-05-21 01:25:45 · answer #5 · answered by tvm209 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You may have already lost her.
By showing that side of you, she's probably afraid now. She was just talking to the guy, not like she was doing anything wrong. Now, if she did something wrong, can you imagine how you'd react??
2007-05-21 01:22:13 · answer #6 · answered by Island*Chica 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could be seeing your protectiveness as controlling. Just go up and ask her how she feels about things.
2007-05-21 01:18:00 · answer #7 · answered by clbinmo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could try apoligizing (sorry if misspelled) to the guy you beat up and become friends with him and maybe your gf will like it im not so sure but hit me back if it works.
2007-05-21 01:18:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋