my bf and i are in a spot of bother as he has two best pals who are brothers ... they both want to be best man?
seriously, the three of them are like brothers, inseperable
older brother: trustworthy traditional decent happy
younger brother: cheeky rude (in a funny way) decent and cheery
they both come from a wonderful family and have been brought up wonderfully, tho i dont trust the younger one to arrange his stag night ;)
he is really upset about having to make this choice, could anyone tell us if they could both be best man?
2007-05-20 16:21:09 · 25 answers · asked by darrens-girl22 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
In this day and age I do not see why your bf could not have 2 best men. There is absolutely nothing wrong with this - how wonderful to have both of them do the honors!
Just be sure you have at least 2 bridesmaids too!
2007-05-20 16:26:49 · answer #1 · answered by phxmilitarymom 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are we talking a traditional/catholic wedding here? If so I don't see the vicar telling you it's not allowed but at the same time I've never been to a wedding with 2 of them up there! ;)
It might be an idea to get one of them to arrange the stag night and let the other give the best man's speech on the big day, that way they'll both feel involved - maybe tell them they're both the best man but they've got to divide up the responsibility of it.
Good luck for it anyway :)
2007-05-20 16:33:43 · answer #2 · answered by Luke 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a big thing. If both brothers are included, and there are an equal number of bridesmaids, things are good. The only difference might be the best man signing the marriage license.
If all else is equal, maybe choose the elder brother as best man, and the other one as groomsman. Let that younger brother know, tho, that it was a tough choice between them for the groom to make.
2007-05-21 04:05:54 · answer #3 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your guys big day and I say it should go how you two want it to go. If it's really important to him to have them both be his best man, and is also OK with you, then do it. I really don't see it being a big deal, and if some people think it's strange who cares. It's your wedding day not their. As for the stag party, you said one is really responsible, so if they both have to plan the party together than I'm sure he'll make sure the other one doesn't go too crazy. Plus it's not about trusting the best man, it's about trusting your husband no matter what situation he's put into. Hope that helped and congratulations.
2007-05-20 16:29:18 · answer #4 · answered by PhoebeBB 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's your wedding... if you want two people to be best man then why not??? And if he does slightly favor one over the other then he should pick that one person... If they are all that good of friends then the one that isn't picked should respect the decision. And if all else fails... pick someone else like an uncle or the dad. And if you still can't decide... put it in their hands... tell them to work it out and decide which one will be the best man. If you put it in their hands and they see how hard of a time you and your honey are having then maybe one of them will be the bigger person and step down to end the stress. It's not like you don't have enough to stress about with the rest of the wedding "things".
2007-05-20 16:34:03 · answer #5 · answered by ravensrose21 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could have two best men and this means that the responsibility can be shared. Also because most people usually have 1 best man. Having two will make you wedding more unique and special, especially if you BF tells his best friends that there was no way he could choose between them as they are both mean a lot to him.
2007-05-21 01:37:20 · answer #6 · answered by Baps . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not? Have two best men, it will add a quirky touch to what is after all, your wedding day!!
Dont make the choice, have the best of both worlds! The older brother may be able to keep the younger one under control if they share the responsiblity.
2007-05-24 11:00:16 · answer #7 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello there Darrens-girl22, Weddings do tend to have traditional pattern, but that does not mean that it is 'set in stone.' It is your wedding and, whatever way you decide to plan it is entirely up to you. I have the same 'dilemma' as you. So we have decided that both brothers are going to be our best men. I am sure, like my best men, your two will give you and your bf a presentation to be proud of. I hope you have lovely weather on your wedding day...enjoy! All the best! :o)
2007-05-20 16:29:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, wedding etiquette would have the older brother as best man and the younger as groomsman.
At my wedding and my sisters weddings, the oldest sister was maid of honor and the other two were bridesmaids.
Now, in this day and age, it is truly left up to the wishes of the bridal couple. Good luck.
2007-05-20 16:33:36 · answer #9 · answered by imtoosweet98 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A friend of mine had the same problem when we were stationed in Hawaii. He was the platoon sergeant and didn't want to alienate anyone from the company. He made the guys stand next to each other and they pased the bride's ring down the line. It was really cute and they all felt like part of the service.
2007-05-24 08:10:44 · answer #10 · answered by jessielynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋