What would you do in my situation???

Question

have a neighbor across from me, I live in a trailer park. I was on a okay basis with this neighbor for a long time. Nothing to chatty but a simple hello. Well one night my friend parked in front of my house, as we were saying good bye my neighbor backed into my friends truck. My friend wanted the police called because it was a accedent and we couldnt tell the extent of the damage. Well the neighbor and I exchange some not so nice words each blaiming the outher. Anyway I though you know that it had all blown over I mean we were not friendly but we were minding our own bissiness. Next thing I know I was bringing the dog in and saw her pulling out of her driveway about 1/2 an hour later she knocked on my door. Apperantly her wallet was on the top of her car and as she drove away it must have fallen off.She asked if I had takin it i said no. So she insisted that it was me and told me that she was calling the police because I must have taken it. So i told he to go ahead and call.Nedless to say the cops never came because there was no proof that i had taken it. Anyway I was out side and apperantly one of the neighbors had found it in some rocks and had given it back to her. Im just worried that somthing stupid is going to happen and that my kids are going to be affected by this lady. My kids are 1 and 3. I dont need the harrassment but I do need this to stop. I dont know how she is going to react the next time she thinks that i took something or i said something. (moving not an option)how would you handle the situation that could possible escalate now mind you I have a pretty good feeling that all my neighbors now think that im a theif. Granted it could go no where but I dont know this lady and I do have small kids

the only reason i really worry is because of the fact that people today have gotten a lot more insaine with there actions

Answer 1

She got her wallet back. She knows she was wrong about accussing you. She's not going to come out and appologize to you because she's not that big (or intellegent) of a person. Just ignore her. She's a little "off".

Answer 2

So firstly what we see is the value of getting to know our neighbours well.

Problems like this occur because we lose control over our relationships. We don't feel we can approach our neighbour, but our actions impact on each other.

Then the crazy behaviour starts to happen.

The best way to diffuse a situation like this is to have a mutual friend or neighbour mediate the dispute.

The general rule is that you meet your neighbour in the prescence of the mediator to discuss the problem.

The mediator should not meet each person seperately (most people will simply agree with each person making the problem worse, but a good mediator can do it by meeting people individually and explaining the situation from the other persons point of view).

If you get a chance to help your neighbour, then do it. No matter how bad people get it shouldn't stop you from being a good person. Sometimes helping your neighbour can solve the problem. For example, with the wallet, maybe the solution would have been to say, sorry I didn't see it, why don't we go together and look for it :-)

Maybe if you can't do the above, just say hello to her every day. Then say, wow that is a nice dress, oh the weather is bad today, etc etc. You never know, you may end up as best friends.

Answer 3

Ok you mentioned that you have children, that you have small children, and that your kids will be affected by "this". So if she has made comments, threatended, or anything along those lines where you feel your children are in danger you have 2 options move or file for a restraining order. You are obviously afraid for your children being around her and you aren't telling the whole story. You are going to have to do what is best for the children. Moving may not, financialy, be an anser, but if it has you afraid you may have to.

Answer 4

Let's not worry about what MIGHT happen. Instead, let's just see what actually DOES happen, and take things from there. Don't be such a worry wart! As for your kids, they should not be outside of the house at their age without parental supervision. So, problem solved! Dont take any crap from any neighbors. Don't give them any either, unless they are the agressors. Get a lawyer, if necessary, but avoid it, if possible.

Answer 5

You said the wallet was found?
No big Deal , Be a better person and still say Hi !!
She knows she got the wallet back.
If she Doesn't talk to you at least you tried!!
You will be a better person especially if you have to live by her. Deal with any problems if they come
Don't worry about your kids right now because they are too you to be out by themselves anyways.

Answer 6

i guess if you actually think this woman would do something to your children then keep a really good eye and her. your kids are so little they should always be in your sights anyway, and if there is a really problem, call the police right away. hopefully it will blow over though,she sounds like a pain, so watch out. it doesn't sound like she's a violent person, just bored. maybe buy her a hobby kit from the store and leave it as a anonymous gift.

Answer 7

I have a crazy neighbor too. She finds a reason to call and complain about 2 - 3 times a year, and she really exaggerates and gets all drama like over really little stuff.

I simply ignore her. And I mean ignore her. I don't speak to her, I don't look at her, I don't acknowledge her, I don't pick up when she calls (thanks for caller ID), and if she leaves a message I don't return it. As far as she's concerned, I act as if she doesn't exist and the house beside me is vacant.

Answer 8

Maybe you could talk to the trailer park owners. They might be able to do something to help your situation, as you have children looking out for their safety is more important than that old bag. Try not to let her get to you because in the end you might be the one to do something you regret if your children's lives are put at risk.

Answer 9

i would say stay away from her and tell your children the same. some people have no life so they interfere with other peoples but if it gets to bad you can either move or let the police know the situation. most times they'll keep an eye out.

Answer 10

that's a tough situation. especially if you can't move. i would just try to avoid her. she sounds like a trouble-maker. if she says anything to you out of the way ask her why she is acting that way and that you just want to be friends and stop all the nonsense.