My 13yr old went to spend the weekend at his friends house. This other boy usually comes to our house every weekend. But my son wanted to go over there house. Come to find out when I picked him up tonight he told me they went out to dinner last night at a fast food place. They never asked him what he wanted to eat so he got nothing as he had no money on him. They just let him sit there while they all ate. I am so mad. We take there child out with us every weekend and I would never expect him to buy his own food. I figure if you choose to take the family out and this boy is over that we should pay. I need advise as to what to do. I am very upset.
2007-05-20 15:47:25 · 11 answers · asked by Shirley D 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I do not want to ruin my sons friendship with this boy. I really like the other boy and he is like family. But I am a lil shocked that being friends he himself did not ask his parents why my son got no food. Or he could have shared his which he did not. I am so angry that my son was left hungry.
2007-05-20 16:02:41 · update #1
They're clueless...I would not make a big deal out of it, as it is the friend's parents, you're probably upset with. I would just mention something to the parent along the lines of "I wish you had bought my son dinner when you went to McDonald's the other night...I would have gladly reimbursed you. He really felt bad, but I didn't know to send money with him. We generally treat your sont o dinner when he comes out with us.
2007-05-20 15:52:53 · answer #1 · answered by melouofs 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You have the right to be upset. That's a strange behavior of how parents would act, if there were any. If they were just his friends, then heck their boys but they shouldnt let their friend go without food.
It's a strange situation because it's almost unreal. I mean why would you let your friend sit there with no food, and think that they're friends?? It doesnt make very much sense. Talk to their parents and find out what went wrong.
2007-05-20 22:52:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
I really understand your situation. This has happened to me before growing up. My mom was so nice that she took my friends and I had a lot of friends to the theater, resteraunts, amusement parks, etc and sometimes they would bring there on money but a lot of times they would expect us to pay for there movie, etc and of course my mom would do so. When I would go over my friends house they always expected me to have money and I felt that it was not fair. This unfortuately does happen a lot because some people just don't care.
I do think if there is an agreement... Than you should give your child money when they spend the night over someones house and they should do the same and provide there on money when they come over your house.
One time I brought MY money over to a friends house to go out to eat and we all went to dinner and the next week My friend wanted to come over my house but they would give her NO money and so my mom had to pay for her to go out to eat. I DO NOT think it is fair but it happens a lot of time. I would talk to her and explain why you feel they way you do. It is possible that your child did not ask for food or was too embarrassed to ask for food but this may be some misunderstanding but anyway I would come to an agreement from now on with the parents about them providing for there kid and you providing for yours, if they want to be so selfish and not pay for anything.
2007-05-20 22:59:00 · answer #3 · answered by Brandy W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very strange.Talk to the parents.Their son could have shared his food with his friend. If a friend of my daughters does not have enough money then I quite happily pay and have done so on a numerous occasions.NEXT TIME JUST give some money.
2007-05-20 23:19:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree that it was totally outrageous of them to treat a child that way! Since every household is different, I would advise that rather than break up the boys friendship, continue the way you have with their son and make sure next time and every time that your child goes somewhere that he has money in his pocket. I never let my girls go out anywhere without money in their pocket, just in case.
2007-05-20 22:59:13 · answer #5 · answered by Brigitte C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the boy's mother and ask why they did not buy you son any food. Explain to her calmly but assertively as you have done here, how you take care of her son and do not send money with her son. She may not have realized the extent of what you do for her.
2007-05-20 22:51:21 · answer #6 · answered by Stareyes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be the adult. his parents our the kids. next time just buy something cheap for them to eat. so you dont look like the bad guy too and play those little games. this too happened to my daughter. and yes i was mad. her friend eat all my food and then some. and when my daughter went to her house it was the same thing they would not feed her. thats rude in my eyes. so what i did is bought cheap things and if they dont like they dont have to eat it. if you go to a fast food place buy something off the dollar menu. for the other kid thats what i do...... good luck.
2007-05-20 23:09:43 · answer #7 · answered by svd1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would be furious, I would have a conversation with the other parents and explain why, get their reaction, but if the reaction was bad or indifferent, I would advise them that your family would be too busy in the future to entertain their child.
2007-05-20 22:52:41 · answer #8 · answered by rosie p 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
UHHH YEA!!! That is soooo rude!! They totally should have asked him what he wanted! I have never heard of that happening!! That is awful! Your poor kid! I am so sorry! I'm not going to tell you not to take their kid out again because its not his fault his parents are inconsiderate! You should say something. Not rude but just to mention it.
2007-05-20 22:54:50 · answer #9 · answered by jilliebean3590 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats just insane. I don't think I'd trust my kids with those people ever again. How could anyone be so thoughtless? I agree with you. I'd be furious too.
2007-05-20 22:56:57 · answer #10 · answered by J D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋