My Matron of Honor tried to throw me a bridal shower which didn't really end up working out (poor timing, invitations out late, etc etc) so a few of us went out to lunch and shopping instead.
Well, some family friends who weren't able to make it to my shower wanted to throw me one in the town that I grew up in...so when they asked for a list of people to invite, I sent them people's names who hadn't been invited to the original shower and my bridesmaids. I kind of got the impression that my moh (or at least her husband's comment made me feel this way) was slightly offended by this gesture from the family friends.
How should I feel about this and deal with it?
2007-05-20 15:40:16 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I definitly don't expect extra gifts (the three people that we went out with had brought me small gifts, it was more of a fun dinner than a shower)
2007-05-20 16:32:02 · update #1
ignore him
what does a guy know anyway about a shower?
maybe he was just trying to express jealousy that antoher person tossed you a shower when the one his wife had didn't work out.
there are ALWAYS upset feelings surrounding a wedding. tune him out
I am surprised that a guy got in involved.
2007-05-20 21:48:10 · answer #1 · answered by creole lady 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should be glad someone wants to throw a bridal shower for you. It is really the MOH that needs to deal with it. Sounds like she didn't do too good of a job organizing your first shower.
The ones who went to the first one can be invited, just have someone or you let them know that they do not need to bring gifts as they already gave you a shower gift.
People can and do have more than one shower. Work could plan one, family could, the wedding party could, out of town guests, etc...
2007-05-21 08:31:24 · answer #2 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you talk to you MOH so she knows what is going on and that the invitation is extended to her. Of course, let her know she is not obligated to buy you another gift, but you would want her there. Don't worry about her husband, it's not about him anyways and if your moh isn't upset about it, that's all that matters. Being a true friend, she would be happy that your family friends want to do this for you.
2007-05-20 22:52:21 · answer #3 · answered by SatinDoll1976 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your MOH is the one who needs to deal with it. If explanations are necessary, simply state it is a family wish, and in no way takes away from the shower she had for you. Also, bridesmaids and the MOH should not be required to give a 2nd gift.
2007-05-20 22:50:14 · answer #4 · answered by GracieM 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Just enjoy all the attention and she can just get over herself. It is your wedding after all and she has no say in what others do. Maybe had she got her act together originally, her shower might not have been such a flop. Just have fun. Enjoy being the centre of attention, it doesnt happen that often!!
2007-05-24 17:58:08 · answer #5 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of people have more than one shower, and if she was so worked up about it, I think she should have done a better job when she was in charge--had she planned better, your shower probably would have been more successful! Either way, your hometown folks aren't throwing you a shower to dis her, they are throwing it to honor you. She needs to get over it.
2007-05-20 22:56:30 · answer #6 · answered by melouofs 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't invite them to the 2nd shower, they already gave you their gifts, more than likely.....
2007-05-20 23:15:23 · answer #7 · answered by buckeyefever7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋