How do I treat a drunk person?

Question

I'm in college, and I have a room mate who constantly comes in at 4 or 5 in the morning, absolutely piss drunk. She never does this during the week, so it's not interfering with my ability to perform in class, but it's very irritating and awkward.

She is very loud and whiny, and cries and complains and drops/breaks things. I feel like I'm obligated to stay awake and take care of her or keep her from trashing the room and keep her from disturbing the neighbors. Also she cries and says things like " I'm fat!" and " Nobody loves me!"

I'm SICK of having to be responsible for her!

But what irritates me the most is that she's constantly trying to recruit me as a drinking partner, trying to get me to drink alcohol when I've made it clear on many occasions that I have NO DESIRE to get drunk with her.

How do I deal with my room mate's drinking problem?

EDIT: Thanks for the answers, but about the telling her parents thing, I don't think her parents would really care. She's 18, too, but her mother lets her drink all she wants at home and when she invites friends from college to come home, I've been there, her mom lets everyone drink.

Also, she's going to be my room mate next year, so I'm going to have to deal with the problem myself I think. She's a great person when she's sober...but I'm just getting sick of the drunkness on the weekends.

Answer 1

Wow, sorry about that. Will you be moving out at the end of this semester? I would totally try to get another room mate. Also, you know you need to talk to her about this when she's sober. Day light. It's really your decision as to whether you need to just get away from the situation, or if you feel a moral obligation to get involved with her issues. Intervene, tell her parents, seek to have an intervention etc. I would personally just try to get another roomate, either by having her removed or asking for a transfer.

Answer 2

Your friend's drinking problem is affecting your friendship. Choose a time when she is sober, (during the week), and have an open conversation with her about it. Being honest may not change her behavior, but you have a right to be heard.

You are not responsible for her behavior. When she comes home drunk, excuse yourself and go to bed, or leave altogether. If you don't have the heart to do this, or you are afraid for her safety, then I suggest you call the police and have her removed. It may be difficult, but it sounds as if she is making you a partner in her drinking without your consent.

Another option for you may be to request a different room-mate from your school.

Answer 3

If you want to keep her as a friend, sit her down and TELL her, don't ask, that she must stay elsewhere if she's going to come back to the room in such an obnoxious state. Explain what you have to go through to prevent major damages to your room because of her. If she's a decent person she should feel pretty stupid and agree. If she shrugs you off you need to get another room mate. Take it from someone who went through FOUR awful room mates, these problems do not stop. Regardless of whether she interferes with your schoolwork, she's stealing your sleep and your sanity. Lock her out if you can. You are in no way responsible for her actions. If she becomes destructive then you may need to get campus police involved. It sounds harsh but getting them and her parents involved may be the only way to help her. If she's walking across campus alone, and drunk, that's not safe. Not to mention if she is acting out she may become a danger not only to herself but to you and your property as well. Talk to her first, then act if she chooses not to respond.

Answer 4

Looks like she has a real problem. If you want to be a friend and help, get as many people as you can and do what they call an "intervention." All of you talk to her about this problem together. This might work because it's very easy for an addict to deny her problem in one on one conversation. It's much harder for her to try to say that all of you are wrong. This is the idea - she denies she has a problem, and you say: "OK, so you are right and all 20 of us here are wrong, is this what you are saying?..."
Try to get her to admit her problem and seek help.
If this doesn't work (or you do not want to do it) just move to another room.

Answer 5

You need to find another roomate for next year. You can't "deal" with her problem for that very reason...it's HER problem. You need to sit her down, and tell her the deal. Either she cuts the bs, and doesn't come back drunk (and she proves that she can do this), or you should really find a new roomate. She's going to continue to bug you to drink with her, and continue to come back piss drunk, unless its dealt with. If you don't feel comfortable talking to her alone about her late night drunken episodes, bring in another friend as a mediator. Good luck!

Answer 6

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Answer 7

It's clear to me your roommate is one of those "sad drunks". I feel these people should not drink at all, at least not heavily.

As far as what to do with her, DON'T help her. Go stay at a friends and (unless she's gonna kill herself) let her destroy the room, embarass herself. Then, when she sobers up make her clean it up, don't help her. She needs to see the consequences of her actions.

Also, you telling her that's she's no fun to hang out with when she's drunk is important. Encourage other activities for her.

Answer 8

Don't let her in when she is drunk.
Set her out in the front yard and give her more to drink till she passes out.
Then when she wakes up out there, maybe she will feel like a fool.
Is she old enough to legally drink? If not call the police and let them haul her in.
Maybe you could talk to some counselor at the school. They should help you.

Answer 9

Go to some of the parties with her and another friend. (The extra friend is just in case you need a little bit of extra help) Keep all alchohol out of sight completely. Or give her a non-alchoholic beer so that she doesn't notice as easily.

Answer 10

give her water or a shower or just lock her out the room that is not your child and if she wants to act like a little alcoholic let it be her problem