I keep my god son probably every other weekend. I get him on Friday's and take him home on Sunday's after church service. I have been a member of my church for over three years now and have been kept up this routine with him the entire time. Now all of a sudden my god son's mother has a problem with me taking him to church. She says that children are not able to understand what is going on during the service and not able to grasp the concept of church, which I totally disagree with. She comes up with laim excuses like, I want to take him to the park or I want to take him to my mother's house. All of these things can be done after church serice. How can she says that children don't learn anything in church? My church has children's church for children to learn. Why is she so suddenly against me taking him to church with me?
2007-05-20 15:29:53 · 20 answers · asked by Cheryl J 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
not sure of her motivations, but you should pray that God may inspire her and give her wisdom with more faith.
2007-05-20 15:34:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
First, it is WONDERFUL that you keep your godson so much, and I am sure the mom is very grateful for the break.
On the church issue, that is a very personal thing, unique to each family. I am sure, if you had/have a child, and someone wanted to take them to a different church, or a temple, etc, that believed differently than your family, you would have a problem with it too.
If the mother is not going to church every Sunday, there is a reason. And that is personal and private and her business. Perhaps it's not that her son is too young for your church, but that he is now too OLD. He CAN grasp some of the concepts and she does not want this.
The bottom line is, this is HER son. While you sound like a fantastic godmother, you're not his mother. You MUST respect the wishes of the mother if you want to keep seeing him.
Don't question her or push her about church. If she says "no thank you, I want him home." That is the end of discussion.
2007-05-20 22:56:38 · answer #2 · answered by Keriokeeee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think children should be in churchs, it's not good for all concerned. Children get bored easily, don't like being quiet, don't like being forced to stand and sit, don't like being told to hush or be quiet.
Jews don't allow Children in the temple until they are teenagers.
I think that's basically a good idea.
Nothing disrupts a church service more than a crying baby or a child yelping.
And no, I don't think children under the age of 10 or 11 can understand what goes on in church or religious places. They barely understand what goes on in school.
It's just another dull, boring place.
The net result could be nurturing a future Atheist who remembers the ick of being forced to go to church as a child.
Now, there are some Church events that might be good. I once played in a musical put on by a church aimed at children and done with children. It was entertaining and not all that deep.
Something like that is good venue for children.
2007-05-20 22:58:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm strictly guessing here based on what you said but I think your god-son has more than likely been sharing what he has learned at Sunday school with his mother. I would guess that she has become uncomfortable with some of the things he has been telling her. She is probably making excuses because she does not want to hurt your feelings but no longer wants him to go to church. Since she is his mother and has the obvious control here, I suggest you back off for a little while and then maybe have lunch with her and see if you can figure out whats going on. Maybe there is something he has learned that she is uncomfortable with and it's something you can work out with her without having to severe the relationship with your god-son.
2007-05-20 22:42:12 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. E 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with you, however he is her son, and you must respect her wishes. Since you don't want to NOT go to church, you have 2 options....
1) either take the child back to his mother on Saturday night or
2) find a babysitter for him while you attend church
eventually, the boy will likely mention to his mother how he likes going to the church, but you must not have any part in soliciting this at all. It's entirely up the child's mom.
blessings :)
2007-05-20 22:36:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
At the end of the day, the child's mother has the final say. You obviously have good intentions but she does not have to explain herself to you. I would keep praying for both of them and try to give them some space. She could change her mind in the future.
2007-05-20 22:40:16 · answer #6 · answered by kirrii 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her she is correct, and tell her it would only be complete if she came along. Everyone at church wants to meet the mother of such a beautiful boy. The most righteous thing you can do is get the mother, and child to church. Its your job to show the love of Christ more to the mother.
2007-05-20 22:39:57 · answer #7 · answered by Robert S 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It matters not. This is not your child we are talking of but hers. She doesn't want the child in church. End of story. I agree the child should probably go to church but it's HER child and HER decision. My suggestion is you teach the values the child would be getting there by example when you and the child are together.
2007-05-20 22:37:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I can't answer that. No one can...except the mother. So, ask her.
From what it sounds like, it seems she doesn't want you to take her child to your church. And she is the mother, so what she says goes. Don't argue with her over the matter, or you may destroy a good relationship and lose the opportunity to spend time with your god child.
2007-05-20 22:37:35 · answer #9 · answered by KS 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Even if the kids arent understanding the lessons, they are still having fun with other kids.
I suspect that she wants to indoctrinate her kids with philosophy that she knows Biblical truth is going to contradict what she is trying to teach them. Or she may fear that her kids become a better believer than she lecturing her, like many of us do for our parents.
2007-05-20 22:44:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is a crazy idea. Maybe she doesn't believe in what your church believes.
How would you feel if someone lugged your child to a Mosque every Sunday? It might be like that. People change their religious views all the time. Try asking her "I sense you don't want me to take your son to chruch. I don't want to offend you. Can we talk about it"
Another option is seeing yourself as morally superior for thinking your church is the best thing for the kid and she is somehow unfit as a parent.
2007-05-20 22:33:34 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋