OK. So here's the deal. Every time I have a crush on a guy, they always end up liking one of my friends better (not the same one everytime). It's not fair! This has been going on for almost 5 years. And I'm totally sick of it! Sometimes, it makes me sick to my stomach and other times, I feel like I want to break down and cry my eyes out. It's just not fair!! I mean, I'm smart, but not a nerd. I'm cool, not like a gangtsa and not a dork, and I'm really nice to everyone. My friends say I have a great personality. I'm not exactly all on the looks part. A little overweight- but not by a whole lot- and I have blonde hair/blue eyes. I really want to have a b/f (I've never had one before) but I don't want someone who won't treat me right. I want someone who will love me for me and not for anything else. Any advice, please?
2007-05-20 15:16:24 · 9 answers · asked by superstar_diva 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry. Hehe...couple little details i forgot 2 mention. LOL
I don't go for popular guys (not my type anyway). I don't go for nerds or jocks. And all of the guys that I like I usually meet through my friends. So it's a really hard situation. And I mean, I'm not like...butt ugly or anything. I'm decent-looking. Not like the popular clique, but it's not like I have acne-scars or anything. And the guys I like, I can be myself around them. And I talk about like music and stuff and we always laugh and have a good time. And then things get bad...
2007-05-20 15:35:16 · update #1
Okay, try to actually be more than freinds.
Try to actually start a relationship to make a bf.
Start out AS a girlfreind material.
good luck!
2007-05-20 15:20:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is like war. People get hurt. There are winners and losers. Like a war the army that wins is the one that has the most inteligense and has the best strategy. Resources doesn't hurt either. How many armies have been defeated because they want to fight the on the enemies terms. They fight on the enemies chosen field where the enemy has all the advantage.
What you need to do to win more battles is to lure the prey into your dominant field where you have control. Away from the other scavengers. Put it in in simpler terms is that when you meet a guy who you like, stay clear of your friends. Take the boy to the places you like to go but where your friends aren't. Also, take him to places where he is out of his environment. That is away from his friend. The idea of dating is to get to know each other. To show him your good quality and to discover his. Also, important is to discover his bad qualities just to make sure you can handle those.
Your friend will always try to take whom ever boy is with you away from you. Some do it because they like the boy too. Others do it because its a challenge. That is they just want to prove to themselves they can even if they have no interest in the person. Note that boys do the same thing too. When I went on dates I made sure that I did not hanged out with my friends. I don't want my "friend" to be competing against me and diverting the attention away from me.
Think of it as a sales men. A sales men does not have another salesmen from another store or car dealership next to him when trying to make a deal. Is suicide. What ever sales men #1 says, sales men #2 will give a better offer. What you do as a sales men is make it look like what you have to offer is the greatest thing ever or at least a hell of a deal. The buyer doesn't have to know that there is a better deal being offered at the dealership next door. Once the buyer signs the contract thats it. You make the commission not the other salesmen.
This world belongs to the smart people. Use your cunnings and you will win. You also have to redefine what being nice means. Being nice means that we create an alliance where things move smoothly without altercation for the betterment of both you and me. The moment you cross me I tear you a new one. Being nice does not mean turning the other cheek and allowing someone to walk all over you.
2007-05-20 15:37:51 · answer #2 · answered by mr_gees100_peas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are looking in all the wrong places. Are you trying to pull all the cute popular guys that everyone else is jocking? Try looking for that cute quiet guy that no one notices usually. He's likely to like you for you, then chances are other people will start to notice what a catch he is. Also, keep your relationship and friendships separate. I use to have a rule about dating a guys that all my friends know. I usually dated guys from other schools and surrounding cities.
2007-05-20 15:26:54 · answer #3 · answered by Spirited Virgo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show all of those boys how cool you really are, and probably losing a few pounds wouldn't hurt, cause then they would notice and be all over you. =)
2007-05-20 15:19:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can go on a dating site or just start going on date and stuff.
2007-05-20 15:21:10 · answer #5 · answered by jacolbie r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are pigs, ur better off without us. sept for babies. guess we are good for something after all.
2007-05-20 15:20:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get Uglier friends.....
2007-05-20 15:18:52 · answer #7 · answered by eyez145 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you cute ....im single ..LOL !
2007-05-20 15:19:10 · answer #8 · answered by the_red_emperor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call me ^.-
2007-05-20 15:19:52 · answer #9 · answered by Nano 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋