I am 21 and soon to be married. I have been with my fiance for over three years. I've got babies on my mind. Am I too young?
2007-05-20 15:02:36 · 9 answers · asked by Grace86 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Marriage is a huge step to take and babies are even bigger. You will know when it's right. You and your wonderful husband will need a good palce to live, a safe vehicle, money for healthcare, food, childcare even if you plan to stay home, then your husband will have to be able to pay for those things. Getting up and just going wherever whenever gets harder too.
I love my baby and would not give him up for anything but these were things we had to consider before we brought him into the world.
Personal Opinion: Enjoy your new life as a wife for awhile. Even if you live together now, things will change some. For the better in my case as I'm sure it will in your case too.
2007-05-20 15:16:50 · answer #1 · answered by Barbie K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real answer is within you! If you feel that you are financially, emotionally and physically ready for a baby, then the time may be right for you. I just had my first child last year when I was 29. Personally, I know I wouldnt have been ready at 21 because my husband and I just got married, and we wanted to travel, go out socially and have fun with no major responsibilities. Having a baby is a lot of work, but its also the best thing I have ever done in my life....the level of love I have for my child is indescribable. Good luck on your decision :)
2007-05-20 22:09:32 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are able to raise and take care of a baby financially and in a stable environment, then sure, why not. I'm 23 and pregnant with my second. I had my first when I was 20, and was by no means ready for a baby, but I managed and my daughter is spoiled to no end and is a very happy little girl. Wouldn't change it for the world. Good luck and congrats on the up coming marriage.
2007-05-20 22:48:38 · answer #3 · answered by Stacey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grace,
I am 29 with three children. I had my first at age 23.
I do not regret having my children at all. But, you do have
to take into consideration that your life totally changes once you have children. There is more stress because you now have to take on the responsability of taking care of another life. You might want to get married and be a young married couple a couple of years and then try to have children.
I got married at age 18 and we tried to have children. We divorced at age 21 because we where not as happy as we thought we where. I then got with my husband now whom I was friends with for years and then we had all three of our children.
Everyone is different so it truly depends but, you need to remember that you will more than likely be taking your kids
everywhere you go and more than likely you wont be going out and being young as often.
I love my kids dearly so it doesnt bother me. A night in with my kids is way better than a night out running around would be ;)
2007-05-20 22:10:47 · answer #4 · answered by rhonda_wahm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I decided to wait 3 years to have kids after being married, We got married when I was 19, and now am 22 and am finally pregnant. Although we are young, we both want a big family, and have been together for 6 years. Most important is to make sure you and your husband have your alone time, once you ahve kids, you won't be able to be just the two of you until they are all out of the house... years and years from now. Also make sure you are financially stable. Good luck to you both!!!
**HUGS** Toni Lynne
2007-05-20 22:59:46 · answer #5 · answered by tonilynne 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married at 18 and pregnant at 21, so I say NO! I think growing with your children is half the fun. You don't want to be old when your kids are in graduating high school. As long as you are in stable environment with the financial means then I say go for it. I love my life and wouldn't have it any other way, I'm 25 now and getting ready to plan for the next child. Have fun trying for it!
2007-05-20 22:07:40 · answer #6 · answered by jaxonsmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it all depends on how mature u think u are... do u think u r ready??? do u have any experience with babies??? this isnt like a tatoo that u can hide, u need to weigh the pros and cons... babies take a lot of ur time and also ur sleep time... if u think u r ready, and don't have any plans for the next 10 years of having a life without the child in it, then go ahead... raising a child is a beautiful thing, but a lot of responsibility... if u and your husband are ready and truly know the reprecussions, then go ahead and good luck...
2007-05-20 22:18:18 · answer #7 · answered by RUSS B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, yes. You have so much life to live before being tied down to being a mom. Wait until you've been married a year or two before bringing a child into the world.
2007-05-20 22:05:40 · answer #8 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your age is up to you. I just turned 23 and am expecting and wish my husband and I would have waited a little longer but if we were in better situations, with $$$ of course, and maturity, I dont think we would mind at all
2007-05-20 22:06:41 · answer #9 · answered by Kayla H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋