I think my parents might get divorced. They are constantly yelling at eachother, and today, my mom left with me to my grandmas house. This is what happened to day:I didn't want to pick up a dead mouse my cat killed. I'm squeamish. My dad yelled at me and called me a little girl. Dialog:
Dad:Why is my whole god damn family so god damn inept!?
(goes to pick up the mouse)
(comes back and throws the mouse in the trash)
Dad:Honey, why cant you just let me help him overcome his fear?
Mom:YOU CALLED HIM A GIRL! You should have said "Son let me help you." But, no, you have to call him a girl!!!
Dad:HE WAS ACTING LIKE ONE!
Mom:(Drops the pan on the floor that was filled with water.)
Mom:I'm leaving.
Dad:**** you. You aren't going anywhere in my car.
((my moms car is broken right now and can only drive short distances))
Dad:Where the hell are your keys?
Mom:I don't know. In my purse.
Dad:WHERE THE **** IS YOUR PURSE?
I had to leave much out. I don't have enough characters.
That wasn't the end.
2007-05-20 14:57:57 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First, understand that anything they say or do is about them and their frustrations. It's not about you. Your Dad sounds like he's not terribly good at expressing himself without saying hurtful things. It doesn't sound like he meant to hurt your feelings. Your Mom got upset with your Dad because he said something that was offensive. You say they yell at each other constantly. I suspect there are a lot of little frustrations on both sides that have grown over time because they didn't take care of things as they came up.
Try to understand that adults fight and they also make up. The fact that your Dad still calls your Mom "Honey" is a good sign. It's also a good sign that he recognizes you have fears and he wants to help you overcome them. So all is not lost. Hopefully things will calm down and they'll be able to talk things out and start getting along better.
You may want to talk to them and tell them how you're feeling. This is a good opportunity for you to learn how to communicate and express your feelings. It sounds like your Mom and Dad need to learn that so maybe you can help them by being open about what you feel. If they understand the affect they're having on you with their fighting, they may try to find a better way to handle their frustrations. You might even ask them both to try to go for marriage counseling because you're afraid they'll split up. If they see that they're affecting you in a negative way, hopefully that will be enough to get them to realize they need to get some help. Hang in there.
2007-05-20 15:11:11 · answer #1 · answered by innerradiancecoaching 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear about your problem. Listen up most of the time it's not you as the child, what might really be going on is all between your parent and you just happen to get in the cross fire. Try to be tough, you may have to man up for this one. When dad has stop fussing go to him and ask "is everything OK with you" if he gets upset...back off. It seems as though dad is not happy, he may have his reason but maybe he doesn't know how to express himself. Mom is not reading the signs, she's the one who need to sit down and find out whats up with her man.
If they do decide to separate know that it's for the best. Believe it or not you will be much happier to have peace in your house. Maybe your parent were meant to be friends instead of mates. Know that it's not your problem it's there's be strong.
2007-05-20 15:11:38 · answer #2 · answered by Dutchess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that your mom is just tired of your dad acting like an a** to you and her. I also think that you should ask her about it and talk to her about the situation. Plus i dont think alot of guys would pick up a dead mouse so dont worry about that.
2007-05-20 15:07:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely tell your parents first & let them understand how you feel about it. Maybe then talk to a school counselor somehow? Maybe you could have picked up the dead mouse. Its like picking up a sock.
2007-05-20 15:01:40 · answer #4 · answered by cortni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
divorce is always hard & the only thing you can do is talk to your parents about it & ask them what the main problem is. you never know, you could be the one that is able to fix the problem so don't be afraid to confront them about it. good luck with everything & remember keep your head up & stay strong.
2007-05-20 15:07:57 · answer #5 · answered by anonymous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would sit down and talk to both of your parents about how you feel.And I would tell your dad how it makes you feel when he calls you a girl.Suggest to them that you all should go talk to someone.Cause it sounds like you all need help.
2007-05-20 15:19:06 · answer #6 · answered by Ms.Danielle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you said you went to your grandma's house. could you talk to her? maybe stay with her for a while till your parents calm down and come to a decision about their lives?i'm sorry you're in the middle of this. what they're doing isn't right. especially in front of you. it must be very difficult. it's hard to talk to your parents about this and really, they have to work it out for themselves. maybe gram can tell them what they're doing to you.
2007-05-20 16:18:49 · answer #7 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just lean on your friends for support. My parents' are divorced, for 4 years. Deal with it, but, remember: you CAN'T stop it and you AREN'T respnsible.
2007-05-20 15:03:43 · answer #8 · answered by Erichka 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should talk to your parentts and write them notes telling them how you feel. if they really love you they will take the time to listen to you and maybe you can work this conflict out before its too late
2007-05-20 15:04:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
TALK WITH YOUR MOM ABOUT FAMILY COUNCILING.LET HER KNOW THAT YOU ARE CONCERNED ABOUT YOUR WELL BEING AND DONT WANT YOUR PARENTS TO BRAKE UP.YOUR FATHER COULD USE SOME ANGER MANAGEMENT COUNSELING AS WELL
2007-05-20 15:04:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋