I was dumped by my ex 6 months ago (from a 3 year relationship), and the break up was pretty sudden, with no warning. Out of the blue he just said that he wasn't happy, doesn't know why but doesn't feel the same way about me and had no contact ever since. I was completely heart broken because I loved him so much, but now I have come to accept it because since I loved him so much, the last thing I want is for him to be unhappy so I basicly let him go and started to focus on my life. Then all of a sudden he starts contacting me, wanting to talk about "something", but I refused to as I still loved him and will make me backslide with all the progress I had, told him that i don't want to see him again for my benefit, because thats the only way for me to get over him, but he still keeps on contacting me. Im confused, he wanted out of the relationship because of his "unhappiness" and I respected that, I let him go, why is he bothering me now? Why won't he respect my wishes in return?
2007-05-20 14:39:26 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
By the way im 26, and the relationship was pretty serious.
2007-05-20 14:42:28 · update #1
Before anyone starts to excuse this member as obessive, this member is being used by more than 3 people, so answering the question would be much appreciated
2007-05-20 14:52:24 · update #2
His reasons are his own, and you won't know them unless you speak with him. As to why he won't respect your desire to not be in contact, that's his choice too...just because you chose to be mature when he ended the relationship, and respect that he no longer want to be with you, doesn't mean he has the same respect for you. He sounds like someone whose only concern is his own desires and happiness.
2007-05-20 14:44:13 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Basically, it wasn't really over for him. He thought that what he wanted was for it to be over but absence makes the heart grow fonder. Whatever it was that was bothering him or made him call it off is probably fixed and now he just wants to make amends. Watch your back though because if he can hurt you once unannounced he can probably do it again. Good luck and take care.
2007-05-20 21:43:58 · answer #2 · answered by momof3 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My guess is that there was another woman, and it's over now. In fact, if that isn't it, I'd be extremely surprised. Regardless of why, three years was long enough for him to decide that you're the one. You've done very well; don't blow it now. Tell him to leave you alone or you'll get a restraining order.
2007-05-20 21:43:42 · answer #3 · answered by Terri J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
e sounds like a w*nker if i'm completely honest. tell him if he bothers you again you'll get a restraining order on him, 'cos you dont need him about. then introduce the new guy in your life or whatever.. just tell him to get stuffed!
2007-05-20 21:43:00 · answer #4 · answered by Ollie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He senses that he has a chance with you and so is going to keep on pursuing you. You should stop all communication with him.
2007-05-20 21:43:00 · answer #5 · answered by Lobster 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because he can't believe you went on with your life and you are over him. you seem to have yourself together very proud of you.stay strong and continue to let him see that life does go on after him. kudos to you.
2007-05-20 22:06:24 · answer #6 · answered by jacaueline p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he realized that he's not happy with out and want to get back together and was exspecting you to you to just say ok.
2007-05-20 21:44:28 · answer #7 · answered by jacolbie r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he realized how awesome you are and he wants back
dont let him back unless u still LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE him
2007-05-20 21:43:10 · answer #8 · answered by katherine g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG you really have to get a grip !!!
Look at your previous questions !!!!!!!!
http://uk.answers.yahoo.com/my/qa/index;_ylt=AqetIp_cUcQqu6jfqD2vGWkgBgx.?link=question&more=y&show=YVe3BXmfaa
I have to say I can partly understandy why he did it - you seem a bit obsessive. (sorry)
2007-05-20 21:46:12 · answer #9 · answered by golfgirl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he's trying to see if you'll be a push over, just tell him to leave you alone...
2007-05-20 21:43:38 · answer #10 · answered by I Heart 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋