He & I have been dating, non serious, no committments for 2 mos, yet I can see by the time stamps, he continues to post and search online for women on a site that Im on, but inactive.
Im not serious about him, but that could change in time, but not if he continues to troll for others.
Should I continue with him or not?
we arent committed, I understand that, but something about this behavior is wrong to me-it probably is ok if you are in your 20's but Im in my 40's and hes in his 50's, I dont think I should continue seeing someone who is also online trying to get someone else too.
Even though we arent serious, Im not doing that kind of thing. My thinking is to give this a chance, but I guess thats not his thinking.
So, should I move on or not?
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2007-05-20 13:47:58 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
why not tell him how you feel and find out what he is thinking --- im in my 50's and with a few ladies i have gone out with i did keep going to the site where we met --- they were also online so they were aware and did not worry --- the lady i have just met has so affected me that i have cancelled all other sites and only talk to her --- he may be interested and interested in something long term -- he is just (i suspect bored insecure and lonely --- not looking for someone just to measure his attractiveness to the opposite sex and have some contact --- even online contact) ---- best wishes
2007-05-20 14:00:34 · answer #1 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it yourself - nonserious, no commitments, and then contradict yourself by saying you're not serious about him. You want him to commit, but haven't asked him to (or if you had asked him he didn't commit yet, obviously). You say "I don't think I should continue seeing someone who is also online trying to get someone else too. Even though we aren't serious, I'm not doing that kind of thing." Sounds like your committed already despite the fact that you say you aren't serious, and really want him to be, judging by your (over)reaction to his "normal" behavior of someone that is in a nonserious, no commitment relationship. Hmmm, to commit or not, that is the question! Good Luck!
2007-05-20 14:09:41 · answer #2 · answered by Andy K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would move on. He is old enough to know better,and so are you sweetheart. I know it is hard to let go, but in time yo uWILL get over it. If you do not ever want a commitment then fine, maybe it will work out. But, it sounds to me that you want much more. Let him go, because there IS someone out there that can and will treat you the way that you deserve to be treated. Life is too short!!! You deserve better.
2007-05-20 13:53:24 · answer #3 · answered by prettynpink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your best bet would be to move on. If there were something truly special between the two of you, you would have made it work already. From the way you describe it, the relationship is on a track to nothing.
2007-05-20 13:53:43 · answer #4 · answered by K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I where you I would move on. If you two are not serious with each other than why go on. He is not really that intrested in you.
2007-05-20 13:51:32 · answer #5 · answered by sb0983 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is doing this he is not worth you. you deserve so much better than him. dont worry there are other fish in the sea..so just keep swimming :)
2007-05-20 13:50:59 · answer #6 · answered by shortyyy58 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋