“Normal” - Stop spitting, drooling, tripping, spilling stuff on him, and ah, well, act like my normal self instead of a mentally handy capped fool???? I don't want to be around me when I start to act like this ... Am I just an idiot because he's so perfect in every way ... why - why- why can't I just be myself ... Help!
2007-05-20 13:38:30 · 8 answers · asked by Giggly Giraffe 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok lets first start by getting rid of the word "NORMAL". For, in spite of what you may have heard, there is no such thing.
Instead, what you really want to do is to focus on your POISE, or rather, in your case, your lack of it.
Its had to say "relax" to someone who is lock-and-load focused on someone else so stop microscoping this guy and let him be himself. There isn't really any pressure on you to be constantly monitoring this guy and I bet he will relax more too. Let him get close to you instead of your trying to do the other way around. After all, the treasure should not be the one doing the hunting!
I'ld feel quite good if I knew this advice was helpful to you.
2007-05-20 13:48:03 · answer #1 · answered by Radzewicz 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey, G, That is TOUGH! I had that situation come up once, and I can only hope what was happening on the inside wasn't showing on the outside. He was hot bread and I was whipped butter. He was the best "visual munchie" I ever had! Yumm...
So, back to the free advice column...If you know ahead of time you'll be seeing him, take cleansing breaths, it really will help you gain control. Find out if he is available, assuming you are, as well. If either one of you is taken, rely on ethics to get you through the meeting. All bets are off if you're both available. But don't make it too easy for him. Anything worth having is worth working for. You know, "easy come, easy go."
2007-05-21 03:27:43 · answer #2 · answered by Jeanne B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mayb u should spend more time around him so u can began to warm up to him. If he is smart then he will knowtice that u like him & that u r nervous so if he was a nice gentlemen that he is suppose to b then he will try to help u get through it by lettin u know that it is ok 4 u to be urself.
2007-05-20 20:53:52 · answer #3 · answered by Kizzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are adoring him and not in a relationship with him.
You have him sounding like he can make no mistakes. You are thinking you are not worthy of him. As soon as he gets tired of you looking at him like a chimp in a zoo, he will dump you as he won't want to be a chimp. So what to do? Well stop trying so hard to be perfect too. Let it go girl. Just think of him as another guy. You need to try to get him in situations where you are on equals.
Stop thinking about him as perfect. He burps, farts, has some bad habits, picks his nose, has bad breathe sometime... he is a real person. You are not dating a god. You are dating a boy. Perhaps you think he is hot, but the more you try to impress you are making it worse. Be yourself requires you to stop trying so hard.
2007-05-20 20:46:26 · answer #4 · answered by Kerry Z 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
check this out usually this person is used to this kind of reaction. So do just the opposite don't be mean but just tone your self down have more control think about what your doing
when this happen you might stick out in his mind more. trust me there is nothing like a man who know he looks good what they normally go for is the girl that can resist him. that's the key
make him the shy one watch for changes in his behavior but don't drool seem interested but not .every woman has a charm
that's killer find yours
2007-05-20 20:47:59 · answer #5 · answered by kay b 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
first of all calm down! i mean that had happened to me too i met this guy in school (nvrmind that's another story) and i also i kept hiding behind my friends! so calm down! he'll think ur weird and he'll totally not like you (trust me it happened to me) and you know i also spilled soda on him (pepsi to be specific) and then boom! he totally hated me
2007-05-20 20:48:40 · answer #6 · answered by ecology people management 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
TRY TO LEARN ANOTHER LANGUAGE AND MAKE FRIEND FROM OTHER PLACES,JAPAN, FRANCE,CHINA.KEEP IT A SECRET,TRUST ME IT WORKS
2007-05-20 20:49:52 · answer #7 · answered by FRANK B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow, seek help babe
2007-05-20 20:41:17 · answer #8 · answered by *CoUrAgE* 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋