Last night, I was visiting a friend and staying at her apartment. She lives about 30 mins away and in a pretty major city. We went out to a bar with a couple of her friends, everyone was very nice. After the bar closed, a group of guys my friend knew from high school, invited everyone over. So, my friend and I said sure.
When we got there, it was already pretty late, but my friend assured me we'd be back at her apartment at some point that night. She drove. After a while the party died down and everyone started going home. My friend was still going; she was flirting shamelessy, being loud, crazy. At about 4:30 in the morning I started getting really tired and antsy. Everyone else was gone, and we were the last guests there. I tried to get my friend to leave. I told her I was hungry and wanted to hit up the breakfast place down the road. I was thinking if I got her out of the house, we would go back to her place. Well, we went to eat, but one of the boys came
2007-05-20 12:46:10 · 12 answers · asked by Answer Girl 2007 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
with us. When we went back to his apartment, I assumed he was getting out and we were driving away back to my friends apartment.
I was wrong. My friend than informs me that we will be sleeping at this apartment. I was livid.
I told her I didn't want to. I didn't know these boys well enough and I didn't have any place to sleep. My friend suggested I sleep on their flithy living room couch. Which was also occupied by two passed out roommates.
My friend went and slept in this boys bed? Was she out of line for trying to make me stay?
I ended up getting a ride from a friend who lives nearby at 6:30 in the morning. He took me back to my car and I went home.
2007-05-20 12:49:06 · update #1
She's never done anything like this to me before, so I trusted her when she said we would be going back to her place. She was my only ride, I didn't know anyone else at the party.
2007-05-20 12:51:22 · update #2
She loves her liquor more than she does you. Until that changes keep your distance. Hanging out with her like this is just setting you up for a rape or something worse. You don't have to stop being friends with her, just don't go clubbing with her and if you do, then you drive.
2007-05-20 12:54:11 · answer #1 · answered by Haveitlookedat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes your friend was way out of line! Girlfriends are so suppose to stick together no matter what. The best thing to do in a situation like that is to speak your mind and tell them how you feel. Girls can become very dense when boys are around.
2007-05-20 20:01:51 · answer #2 · answered by Boopalot 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is a pretty selfish thing for a friend to do. If she has never done this before, I would give her a chance to consider her actions and apologize. She should care that you are concerned about your well being and feeling comfortable. For her to say you would be brought home than to decide she wanted to stay so you had to is not right. It is childish, selfish and just plain mean. Friends should never put you in uncomfortable positions and if you tell them you want to leave and they still continue to stay they really don't care about anything besides their own fun. Reconsider her actions in general and see if you really need a friend who is going to do this to you in your life.
2007-05-20 19:55:58 · answer #3 · answered by esro 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's quite obvious that your friend was drunk and not thinking clearly. Thank goodness one of you were still mentally stable! Take this situation as the perfect opportunity to educate your Friend the importance of NOT getting DRUNK and leaving with strangers, something really bad could have happened.
She was out of line only because of her alcohol consumption, she isn't this "loose" all the time is she? If so maybe you should evaluate the places you choose to go with her.
2007-05-20 20:46:33 · answer #4 · answered by bestlggs 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Your friend was out of line. When you have house guests, you have a responsibility to them. Without asking and getting your input, she changed prior arrangements that you both had. She definitely dropped the ball.
2007-05-20 19:56:17 · answer #5 · answered by kellyrv_bsa 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your friend acted like a total and complete prat. She lied to you and put you in an awkward position. I'd either confront her, or tell her you're taking her out to a really fancy restaurant -- your treat -- and then dump her a rse in the middle of nowhere with no ride home.
2007-05-20 19:56:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think, if she didn't understand that you weren't feeling comfortable in those surroundings and if she ignored you to sleep in this same bed with some guy she met, shes not a true friend. watch out for her though, as she might not know that boy to well. hope i've helped=)
2007-05-20 19:58:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does your friend act like this all the time? if so you should let your friend know that its gets to you. If she doesn't care about how you feel then yes she is out of line, because your her friend and friend should treat friend exactly how they would want to be treated
2007-05-20 19:54:38 · answer #8 · answered by Kia 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
SHe was way out of line and selfish of her and you need to inform her that was not appreciated. You shouldnt have to be put into comprimising conditions like that just so she can get laid.Next time you wll know better than to trust her and you should inform her of that
2007-05-20 21:58:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
she was totally out of line, I am sorry she did this to you. From now on, I suggest you drive when around her.
2007-05-20 19:55:24 · answer #10 · answered by army_soldiersgirl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋