My oldest son lied about me in court to help his Dad get custody of his younger brothers and not have his child support increased. After my ex won in court, he kicked my son out of the house.(This is my biological child, not his).Now I cannot see or talk to my babies.My oldest son wants forgiveness but I'm having a hard time.
2007-05-20 11:51:56 · 11 answers · asked by carleton 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes, you should forgive your son. I speak from personal experience. I did the same thing to my mother. I was lied to about my dad and he told me some awful things about my mother, but I believed him becuase he was my dad. In the end she got custody back of the kids. I felt so horrible, but she did forigve me. That was the best gift of love that I have ever received! :0)
2007-05-20 12:50:05 · answer #1 · answered by julester7171 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should forgive your son. I know that is hard, it is always hard when the people we love the most hurt us. Apparently your ex used your son to get what he wanted. If he kicked him out of his house after he got your other children, he just used him and there is no telling what he told the kid to get what he wanted. I don't know how old your son is, but I feel it was put in the middle of a bad situation and kids are very impressionable and will say and do things to get their own way. You need to tell him you forgive him but you need to talk to him about why he did that. He needs to also know that actions have consequences and the actions of him lying about this had tremendous consequences and caused you to lose your children. I think you need to take your ex back into court and have your son tell the truth also so he can own up to his actions (depending upon the age of your son) and if he is truly sorry for what he did he will do anything to help you. Apparently he is very confused also and I am sure this situation has affected him deeply. Good luck to you.
2007-05-20 12:19:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes when our kids are put in a hard spot "court" then they tend to act differently but their heart is 80% gold and loyal to you. Yes I feel you should forgive him. He was probably told somethings before court that made him feel like he had to. Life is to short to lose a family member especially your son until you feel you can forgive him. So forgive and that will probably be your ice breaker. See when you forgive it puts it back on their concious and so its technically sweet revenge and He is your son
2007-05-20 12:09:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is your son and was stuck in a bad situation. God only knows what your ex said to him and/or threaten him. Get a lawyer and file for an petition for reconsideration in reference to your other children. If your oldest son want to testify then let him; however let that be his choice as you do not want to threaten him as your ex did. Now if your son is truly honest about his forgiveness he should help you. Good luck
2007-05-20 12:16:09 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all make mistakes and sooner or later realize that what we did was wrong. everyone deserves to be forgiven and if you are not so convinced yet.....How would you feel if your son had an accident and died....you would probably wish you wouldve told him how much you love him and that indeed do forgive him. Do it before its to late. A son is a son, you gave birth to him and i have no doubt this is hurting you. Forgive and Forget.
2007-05-20 12:36:42 · answer #5 · answered by Lorena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question doesn't make too much sense. You should forgive your son though even though its hard right now to forgive it'll be better for you in the long run. Grudges don't work and lead to hate and I'm sure you don't want to hate your son.
2007-05-20 11:59:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow that's really tough, you have to forgive him (eventually) but being betrayed by your own blood is really really tough.
I know from experience this kind of betrayal really cuts deep into your heart. You should try family counselling to find the reasons behind his behaviour. I wouldn't make it too easy for him as even though we love our children there are consequences to certain behaviour.
Good luck with it
2007-05-20 12:02:53 · answer #7 · answered by flip 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you want to do the right thing i say that u should forgive and forget just like jesus does for us when we sin. plus if u forgive him you guys can get together and get on with your life and try to find out another way to get your kids back and you would live a happier life
2007-05-20 11:58:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know its hard but I think that you should forgive him, it will take a huge burden off of you. Sorry you had to go through this.
2007-05-20 12:37:10 · answer #9 · answered by BeLiZe Gyal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not sure how old he is
but, yes, forgive him, and go back to court... your son lied, have him own up to that in court
2007-05-20 12:00:02 · answer #10 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋