...Those movies send us the message that we should wait the soulmate, and true love.
But in the real life, what are the chances to find the soulmate?
What is your experience? did you wait for the soulmate, or you are with just an ordinary person that you meet along and have no chemistry?
Should I keep searching something that I have seen in the movies, or that is just an illusion?
thanks.
2007-05-20 11:51:49 · 8 answers · asked by Aquamarine 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I didn't find my soul mate, and I'd rather be without than introduce strife and grief into my life and time. Yes, I'm still looking. Divorce, might free up my soul mate who couldn't wait. Maybe she did wait, but out in Alaska or California and I'm in Ohio. What if she's 16 and I'm 60, why would I want to saddle her with an old man? Why don't they have a soul mate database I can check so I can find out if I can stop looking.
This was done with tongue in cheek glibness. Still, I believe there are several thousand soul mates that I could call MY soul mate if only circumstances would bring us together long enough for my wit to express it's self and be noticed.
I'm believing that people should make the BEST of a circumstance and THAT should be enough to fly the SOUL MATE flag. They should start running to this question when I post this answer.
And, if they don't. ... Well, there is always the ASPCA pound for a stop-gap substitute affection replacement player. Maybe a Greyhound or a Labrador or a Boxer. But I risk becoming too attached to the replacement player.
Asking Will Shakespear, he said that all the world is a stage, a construct of imagination. Looks like he would vote for you to stick it out, too.
You're Welcome
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2007-05-21 11:23:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going through the same dilemma. I see movies like "the notebook" and I yearn for something like that. Sometimes I feel it will never be that way because it just doesn't work that way in real life, but other times I think it may be possible. I've been alone for quite some time because I am waiting for that "special someone" to come along. I strongly believe I need to feel that chemistry between that person and I in order to feel I am there. I don't know if there is such a thing as a soulmate or if we make it happen, but I hope I find someone that when he looks at me I know I've found it. Getting to your point, don't pressure things that the right one will come along. I hope you're wise enough to know it when he does. Good luck for you and I and everyone else who's searching that beautiful feeling called love.
2007-05-20 19:13:22 · answer #2 · answered by shygal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who would pay to go see movies, if real life was like that on a daily basis? I know that sounds glib... but think about it. Movies are an escape from reality.
I'm not saying that soulmates and true love don't exist... I'm just saying that it rarely happens like in the movies. It will happen for you in a seemingly ordinary way (most likely when you're not looking)... and it will be extraordinary!
And you'll KNOW it!
2007-05-20 18:58:14 · answer #3 · answered by Kia A 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think having a soul mate is the same as having someone you really love and care for, that you want to be with, share things with, and are for the most part compatible with. But just because he is your soul mate does not mean that everything will be perfect. People fight, its natural to have relationship in life and disagree. Some fights are worse than others but in the end if you can work it out and forgive then that is what counts. These romantic movies do portray types of relationships that are not realistic. They make it seem like two people are meant to be, struggle through some obstacles, get through it and live happily ever after with a life of unbelievable romance. That is not how real life works. There are fights, trust issues, blame, judgments, hurt and your problems may not be solved in 2 hours. Things may not always go back to being perfect after people have been hurt. Relationships take a lot of work, more work, time and devotion than they depict in movies. Romance is possible including candle lit dinners and moon light walks, but they come along with the bad times as well. If you are looking for Mr. Prince charming, perfect romantic hunk, who will whisk you away and make you happy all the time then no that isn’t realistic. But love can conquer a lot of problems in a relationship you just have to work at it.
2007-05-20 19:03:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your soulmate is out there. You need to be available when that soulmate comes along. Do not settle for anything less.
2007-05-21 14:05:37 · answer #5 · answered by Kerry 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im in my early 20 and never had a BF. but i know what you mean. coz ive never had a BF i keep thinking..it will happen and mr right will walts in my life. thats the effect movies have on us singletons. but i have you know...i remember a tutor in my high school years back told us how he met his wife..and it goes like this...
he met this woman somewhere and the smiled at one another and had a brief encounter. then lost conntact for years. then he had this random dream that he saw her again in a certain place. he went to that place where he saw her in his dream...to find her there too! she had the same dream. thay are married and have children and very happy.
unbelievable. whay cant that happen to all of us hey?
but i guess there is some hope out there?
dont lose faith! hang in there.
2007-05-20 19:01:55 · answer #6 · answered by rea 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It never happens like that in the movies!
2007-05-20 20:01:06 · answer #7 · answered by Ivan S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
keep looking just play the feild in the meantime
2007-05-20 18:54:26 · answer #8 · answered by sherbie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋