My husband is addicted to porn. It has even gone as far as him offering to pay me to sleep in the kids bed so that he could watch porn and "take care of himself". Is this normal? He thinks he has to ejaculate everyday and usually it's by himself. We have great sex about 3 times a week but this isn't enough for him. What should I do?
2007-05-20 11:41:43 · 22 answers · asked by candy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How much is too much? Geez, he wants you to sleep elsewhere so he can watch other people going at it and have his fun without you. I think that crossed a line ages ago. Usually, with ANY activity, and amount that interferes with your normal life, changes your relationships, is too much. So too much sports or shopping when you forget what your spouse looks like. Too much spending on fun things when your electricity gets turned off because you spent the money on shoes. This guy has a problem. What is he, like 14? Three times a week with you isn't enough? Men, all men, still like to take care of it themselves once in awhile, most are not so blatent about it. That is normal, what your hubby is doing is not. And why does he need you not to be there? Kicking you out of your own bed?
I would demand he get counseling, and if he doesn't I would leave and let him "take care of himself" 7 nights a week, for free. That has to be grounds for divorce.
2007-05-20 11:49:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok??? I may be in that same boat. I "relieve" myself everyday. To do that, I need a visual, either a book or movie. I know I may have a problem, but unlike your husband, I do not get ANY sex from the wife for reasons not to be discussed here.
Is it normal? I get three things out of ejaculation...stress relief, endorphins for the mind, and it helps put males to sleep. (not to mention, it burns calories)
Before my children got old enough to spend the night with friends and family, we could never seem to get any time to ourselves. That caused me some unforeseen discomforts. That was totally my problem.
My marriage councilor recommended that the wife and I watch the porn together. She refused because of her situation. But I do think it would be wise to try that. anyway, I cannot give you the best answer, because I do take care of "business" on a daily basis.
2007-05-20 11:58:40 · answer #2 · answered by not for now 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's way too much porn for a man who can has great sex with his wife three times a week. You need to discuss his addiction & get rid of the porn stuff as soon as possible.
2007-05-20 11:46:45 · answer #3 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is too much!
Too much is when his watching it affects you and your family. A little porn is fine to spice up a love life but it sounds like he is using it to substitute for a love life.
What should you do? He doesn't appear to believe he has a problem so you are figuratively "screwed".
If it bothers you and he is unwilling to compromise, or stop, then you might not belong together.
For the kids sake, it is better to have two happy, separated parents than an unhappy couple.
2007-05-20 11:46:52 · answer #4 · answered by Matt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband Is a a porn addict. You need to tell him I want a man that wants to watch me all day, everyday not porn. If he doesn't stop then he is more attracted to porn star than is attracted to you. Personally I would not deal with that ****. If he is getting good sex then why would he want to play with his dick.
2007-05-20 11:48:34 · answer #5 · answered by lovely Gabbi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oooohhh... uh... I hate to be the bearer of bad news but... Well, I was in a relationship exactly like that once, where and I wanted to be alone from my live-in girlfriend so I could masturbate. The reason? I didn't find her attractive. You're husband may have found you attractive at one point, but maybe he doesn't anymore. Or maybe he's bored with his sex-life with you.
I know this all sounds very cold-hearted, but I'm just trying to be as honest as possible, have been in his position once myself.
2007-05-20 11:51:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Porn is bad when it turns one's sex drive into one's self, OR causes ones sex life to be abnormal and/or unrealistic.
I think he's there.
Used as an occasional means of arousal for a loving couple... it's usually not a problem.
2007-05-20 11:47:33 · answer #7 · answered by Kia A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am thinking that is too much. he sounds like my father...i used to come home in the middle of the night and he wouldn't even turn it off when i walked in. is he verbally abusive? or does he compare you to girls in the video? or does he ask you to watch the videos with him? either way not good...my mom threw in the towel after 28 years...
2007-05-20 11:48:44 · answer #8 · answered by tamarins2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a sex addict. Can't believe that you put up with that. You all probably need to see a sex therapist or you can do it with him once a day.
2007-05-20 11:44:42 · answer #9 · answered by abstract_alao 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Paying you to sleep with your kids is just wrong!! You guys need to have a serious talk about this.
2007-05-20 11:46:19 · answer #10 · answered by Wendy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋