What is your reaction&/or thoughts about what they said?They just completely trashed any&all hopes of grandchildren,so what do you say or do?
2007-05-20 10:12:41 · 26 answers · asked by Maurice H 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I dread that moment. I am going to do all within my power to educate and love my children so they never feel that such a choice is inevitable.
I would be completely devastated in every way.... not only would I lose any hopes of grandchildren but, more importantly, I would lose almost all hope for the spirituality of my child. It would be an incredible loss.
Added: Homosexual acts are destructive to the soul. To give in to the consensus on this topic is to add to the suffering to one more beautiful, sensitive man or woman.
Such personal traits as a melodious voice, an emotional and musical sensitivity, fine features, an inate kindness and an ability to communicate freely with women, are not a predisposition to homosexuality. They are a blessing highly valued by women - including me! My husband has these traits.... and he was often mocked for them.
Society is so set on forcing these precious sensitive men into a mould of continual pain and harmful relationships. Homosexuality is not inate. It is a choice. Many times it is the result of abuse, or of a sensitive and insecure man being told that he is "gay". If these men can only find acceptance among the gay community, then society is not being as loving and accepting as they say.
I have spoken to many of my close women friends on the nature of sexual attraction. More than half of them say they have been sexually attracted to other women. Frankly, I am attracted physically to both men and women, but I chose only to act on my physical attraction to my husband. This keeps my spirit and my heart safe and warm and free from the turmoil that comes through breaking spiritual laws.
2007-05-20 10:33:26 · answer #1 · answered by MumOf5 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Our best friends recently found out their son was gay. Their reaction I think was fairly typical of liberal parents (a good thing!). At first they were very shocked, even hurt, but accepted that THEY had to change and then supported their son 100%. I think the hurt came from the fact that they thought they knew and understood their son and found out that they did not know him as well as they thought. Of course as parents they also worry about the consequences of being gay in American society. It is not necessarily an easy life and they worry about this future. Grandchildren were not a part of their worry. It was more was how their child was going to make his way through a homophobic world. They are also now involved in trying to make gay marriage legal so that their son can someday enjoy the joys of marriage and family life. They are very proud of their son and his courage.
2007-05-20 10:24:18 · answer #2 · answered by Jim San Antonio 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When a person gets fascinated with the gay thought, it is not necessary that, that has to do only with sex. It can be an attraction towards a person for all his/ her personality. When we are in this world, we are exploring things. While 99% may be following the established norms. a few may be having their own perceptions, driven by their conviction that it is not necessary to follow the rat race.
I don't for sure know how I will be feeling if I get faced with such a situation. But I guess I will respect the choice of a person since it is his life.
Spirituality is something to practice for the satisfaction of soul, and not for what we do physically. Everybody in any case is struggling.
2007-05-20 19:16:35 · answer #3 · answered by Vijay D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't care I would love my child no matter what, I created then, I gave birth to them and that kid is my baby no matter what. If they had a partner (women or man) I would love them too and treat them as my son or daughter..just as long as they were in a healthy relationship. I have a lot of gay friends-my best friends and they are the most loving and caring people I know. I have seen what they have to go through and it's not fair sometimes but today's society is so much more accepting. My best friend finally told his mom he was gay when he came out. He was so afraid but he did it. She started crying her eyes out and he was afraid she was mad or upset. He said what's wrong!!! She said Thank God I thought something was seriously wrong with you. Now I know why you have been this way for so many years (hiding everything, displaying negative behaviors) he was hiding a huge secret and she was afraid of what it could be. When she found out he was gay she was happy that her baby was OK!!! He was healthy and safe and that is all that mattered to her. We all need to be accepting of our differences!!!! Also I would like everybody to know that being gay is NOT a choice!!! I justify that by this thought!! When did you sit down and weigh out the pros and cons of being gay?? When your 15 with a notepad and a pen? If gay people choose to be gay--then wouldn't straight people choose to be straight!!??!! It's crazy people!!! Why would you choose to be persecuted your entire life?? Love your kids no matter who they are!!! Love your friends no matter who they are!!! Love your siblings no matter who they are?? Wouldn't you want that for yourself!!! PS. I'm straight-have a boyfriend and we welcome everybody into our home!!!! Just as long as your not a murder!
2016-05-22 03:23:14 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be happy for them, like my mother was when I told her I was bisexual. I just wish there were more parents out there like my mom.
I think it's pretty pathetic that A) You seem to think that sexual orientation is a choice, something that can be decided on. B) That the sole reason for having children is so they can spawn grandchildren. C) You don't seem to realize that gay folks can have and raise children. Haven't you ever heard of adoption? Artificial insemination? Etc..Just because someone isn't straight doesn't mean that they won't have children.
2007-05-20 12:04:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The hope of grandchildren is not lost, there are many options. Moreover the hope of grandchildren is not the reason I became a parent.
The moment before he comes out, he is my son and I love him. The moment after, NOTHING has changed. I love him, support him, worry about him and cheer him on through his life as ever. Only now I scope out cute boys for him instead of cute girls.
nowyouknow, I feel very sorry for your kids. I would hope they could forgive you for being so hate-filled.
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2007-05-20 10:17:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Being gay is not a decision for most. For the child that is born gay any parent who knows their child well enough would not have to be told this in the first place. They would have figured it out long ago.
For those who "decide" are not truly gay but merely looking for attention or a reaction.
2007-05-20 10:29:05 · answer #7 · answered by Me 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, I'm not a parent, so I wouldn't know. But why would you want grandchildren in the first place? All you get is another horde of little brats running around. Please don't be offended, I am 12-13, and think that little children are a waste of time. Just be happy that your kid's happy, and try not to become disconnected with them.
2007-05-20 10:18:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
It's not a choice. I would be just fine with it. And I wouldn't be so selfish as to get upset if there was no chance of grandchildren. What if your heterosexual son/daughter told you they didn't want to have children. What would your reaction/thoughts be?
*And homosexuals can have/adopt children...just so you know.
2007-05-20 10:18:07 · answer #9 · answered by KS 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I'm not a parent, but I know I can answer this.
I would be a little startled but at the same time, I would be proud of the fact that told me and let me know. I wouldn't change how I feel about them. I would probably say, "Okay cool. I'm glad you told me. Don't let anyone bring you down or try to change you into something you're not. If homosexuality is what works for you, right on."
2007-05-20 10:16:11 · answer #10 · answered by Water Witch 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋