I just found out this morning at church that one of the dear ladies in our church has gone Home to be with the Lord. And it hurts! I know she's with the Lord and no longer suffering. So I grieve by writing a poem and pouring out my feelings in a poem/prayer...and that helps me to grieve and be able to move on. (Thanks for letting me share with you)
Helen my friend, you not in your place,
It seems so empty without you there.
Your hands always cold....but you
Truly had a warm heart of love.
Your suffering is done,
You're home with in the Father's arms.
I'll see you one day when I join you there.
Till that day, rejoice my friend
You are Home now forevermore.
How about you? How do you grieve for a loved one and does it help?
2007-05-20 09:50:03 · 16 answers · asked by Jan P 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Thank you Father K. I have been crying....and I think I needed permission to cry. Thank you.
2007-05-20 11:50:22 · update #1
Stone, Minister, De, Rick, Primo, your answers were all very helpful and I thank you for answering. It helps knowing I have Brothers & Sisters in Christ that care. George....that is exactly how I feel. Thank you. Thank you to everyone who answered I appreciate it.
2007-05-21 16:14:47 · update #2
Jan,
I am normally the one who everyone goes to when they need to talk about a lost love one even when that person was very close to me. I attempt to talk about GOD and having faith in HIM. I also try to talk about the fun times that we had and the things that we remember most about the person in question. If they are a Christian it is very easy to talk about how happy they will be at Judgment. The smile that they will have after they see Christ has returned. GOD's LIGHT will certainly shine thru HIM! I am here and you know how I feel about you. You are very special to me. If there is anything that you would like to talk about just email me and I will coorespond with you there. The empty seat will eventually fill and those around you will help to fill the empty feeling that you have. GOD will see that you are not alone. Read, study, and have faith in HIM! Have a good week.
Thank you,
Eds
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2007-05-20 14:32:04 · answer #1 · answered by Eds 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sis, I am sorry to hear about Helen but glad to know she is in Heaven right now.
I used to get mad and punch things until my hands would bleed, stupid and never helped. Sometimes in the past I would drive fast for a long time, it helped some. I would also go to the gym and just go nuts on the weights, that helped some.
I have not lost anyone close since I gave my life to the Lord. I have helped several people through it but I have not had to handle the loss of someone really close to me in over 13 years.
I suppose I would bawl like a baby, I do that a lot any more. I used to be one of those guys that would never cry for anything but since God has got hold of me I can be an emotional wreck when alone but when people need me I am a rock.
I suppose after I cried I would hit the weights or go for a long walk and talk with God.
2007-05-21 01:05:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
men and women grieve in different ways,
men like to be alone when they grieve.
but we all grieve, and it is a necessary thing,
it helps with the loss, even when we know that it is for the best.
when my mother was ready to go, she ask me to pray that the lord would take her home, she was tired of the pain, and even though I had prayed for the pain to leave, and her had received some relief, she was tired of fighting,,, and so i prayed for the lord to receive her spirit. in less that an hour she had gone home, but I still miss her and I still cry, and there I go again.
this poem was written for a pet, but it works for our special people also.
May I go now
Don't you think the time is right?
May I say good-bye to pain-filled days
and endless lonely nights?
I've lived my life and done my best,
an example tried to be,
So can I take that step beyond
and set my spirit free?
I didn't want to go at first.
I fought with all my might!
But something seems to draw me now
to a warm and loving light.
I want to go! I really do!
It's difficult to stay.
But I will try as best I can
to live just one more day .
To give you time to care for me
and share your love and fears.
I know you're sad and are afraid
because I see your tears.
I'll not be far, I promise that,
and hope you'll always know
that my spirit will be close to you
wherever you may go.
Thank you so for loving me.
You know I loved you too.
That's why it's hard to say good-bye
and end this life with you.
So hold me now, just one more time,
and let me hear you say,
because you care so much for me,
you'll let me go today.
Copyright © Susan A. Jackson
Written for a beloved pet and friend.
2007-05-21 19:57:46 · answer #3 · answered by Hannah's Grandpa 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
So sorry to hear about this Jan.....but at the same time, I rejoice in the fact that Helen is with Christ for all eternity and that death is not the end.
I usually deal with grief through what I know best.....music. I play the piano for hours on end....filling the room with hymns & choruses of God's promises.....and it puts it all into perspective. We are just pilgrims passing through....like the character "Christian" in the Pilgrim's Progress.
Dealing with death is tough.....it really is. But remember Jan, you will see her again someday.
Praise God!
2007-05-21 10:51:37 · answer #4 · answered by primoa1970 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I tend to grieve quietly. I haven't cried in many years.
I am sorry for your loss. We have two older men in our Church, they are brothers, quite elderly, and both in very poor health. I have become very close to them. I expect that when they go Home to The LORD, I will not show any emotion, but I will feel plenty of emotion.
Be Blessed in Christ Jesus !
Minister
2007-05-20 22:21:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that you will be okay. It's a nice poem, and if it helps you through your grief, then that is good.
These are some things I have learned about grief : if you need to cry, you should cry, if you need to pray then pray, if you need to be alone for a little while with your own thoughts, then go somewhere and be alone (just for a little while)...Don't try to suppress your true feelings or it will take you longer to get through the grief...
2007-05-20 17:02:12 · answer #6 · answered by nowyouknow 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have lost 4 close loved ones recently, including my Father
I am closer to leaning towards atheism, and am comforted by not believing in an afterlife that could be Utopia or Dante's Inferno
removing all others away from this polarized view also negates grief and you just wish their spirit well back into the great unknown to be recycled
2007-05-20 16:56:16 · answer #7 · answered by voice_of_reason 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Jan,
My sympathies to you and to the family of this lady. I grieve by crying and allowing myself to feel the loss of the person's presence in my life, but also by reminiscing over the person's life and all they meant to me and others.
I especially like to get with another person that knew them well and talk about all of the memories we share or have independently of the person and talk about the positive qualities and unique quirks that endeared the person to us.
I also enjoy talking to the Lord about the person by sharing my loss with Him. He understands best of all and is so compassionate. Reading Scripture helps as well.
2007-05-21 08:32:07 · answer #8 · answered by Rickster 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. We need to grieve. It is a part of the closure of our earthly relationship with them. We should rejoice in their being with the Lord, but we grieve because we will not see them until we see them in heaven.
2007-05-20 17:01:37 · answer #9 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I cry, I pray, I write, sometimes I just sit and reflect on that person and try to think of what they are doing in heaven. I go thru a bunch of different things. And yes it all helps. God Bless
2007-05-20 16:57:02 · answer #10 · answered by tebone0315 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋