My boyfriend of 1 1/5 years recently started talk to his ex. She cheated on him and hurt him pretty badly and they ended on pretty bad terms. He has been very open with me about talk to her and she came over to his house the other day to talk and stuff. He told me she was coming etc. she has a boyfriend and he loves me. I'm not too worried since i know he would never go back to her because of what she did, and he's also being very open about it with me. I just can't help having doubts and worry in the back of my mind. Anyone have any advice or experience with their bf/gf being friends with an ex?
2007-05-20 09:49:39 · 7 answers · asked by bob123456789 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should be worried. There is nothing good that will come of this, people move on and only come back to hook back up. Time heals all wounds and he/she now only remember the good parts. One of them has other plans on their mind, it might be her but he needs to cut her back out of his life.
Remember the easiest person to "hook" back up with is an ex.
2007-05-20 09:54:41 · answer #1 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't trust her one bit. She could be friends with him but then again she could try to cheat on her new boyfriend with him.
Do you know if he's totally over her? I wouldn't allow her over the house unless you are there. Or I would want to meet her just to get a feel of what her intentions are. Why all of a sudden is she coming back into the picture and what does her boyfriend think (or does he know???) of her going to visit her ex?
That's good that you trust him. Just be sure he's not trying to hide you from her. Ask to meet her and see what she's all about.
2007-05-20 09:53:49 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've got you beat.
My husband's ex-wife stays at our house when she comes to visit. Granted, we have custody of her kids, and she lives out of state...but still...
She. Stays. In. Our. House.
Also, my ex-husband comes over just to hang out occasionally. He's friendly with both my husband and I.
I have complete trust in my husband, and he trusts me. We both know that there is NOTHING to worry about with our exes.
It's not unusual for people to be better friends than boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife. Just because the relationship is gone doesn't mean the friendship has to end.
Just continue to give your boyfriend the trust he deserves, and things will be ok. It may be weird for a while, but it will get better. It might help if you two were to invite her AND her boyfriend over at some point. Just so everyone knows what's going on...just in case she does have ulterior motives.
2007-05-20 09:54:47 · answer #3 · answered by Meg M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's talking to him just to be friendly, then no worries. But if she's confiding in him or complaining to him about her current bf, then I would worry. My bf's ex starting contacting him about her bf saying he was hitting her and stuff and come to find out she wanted him back so she was confiding in him to get close to him again. So, find out what her motive is.
2007-05-20 10:06:43 · answer #4 · answered by DRE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't choose your boyfriend's friends, but you can tell him how you feel and judge him based on his actions. A good test is to see if he has double standards. If he would have a problem with you having an x-boyfriend as a friend, then there may be more than what you see. I wouldn't let him do anything alone with his x-girlfriend.
If his x-girlfriend did something terrible to him, why wouldn't she do something terrible to you?
2007-05-20 09:55:57 · answer #5 · answered by JMoney 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem but it was my husband. He started talking to his ex she had a boyfriend. Months went by and then one his phone rang i looked and it was a text from her saying that she loved him and wanted to make love to him. So advice is watch them close. She might not even have a boyfriend. He can be lying to you. She might be thinking this is a second chance for them.
2007-05-20 09:55:47 · answer #6 · answered by Shalena B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
unwell could desire to accept as true with you on some areas. I dont see a pronlem with being "acquaintances" no longer purely right acquaintances, no longer chat or club acquaintances, yet somebody who in case you walk right into a place and notice them sitting there, you may wave at them extremely of flipping them off form of acquaintances. different than that, there is not any reason sheneeds to be staggering around him that lots! Thats rediculous!
2017-01-10 10:54:38 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋