I am getting married soon and I originally had a big wedding party. I was supposed to have six bridesmaids and six groomsmen, but two of the groomsmen are not cooperating and are unresponsive, and it seems as though they may not be in the wedding now. How can I handle this situation to make sure my wedding doesn't look weird?
2007-05-20 08:44:01 · 12 answers · asked by Lil'Bit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The bridesmaids have already purchased their dresses and we only have two more months. The girls and guys are walking down separate aisles and meeting up at the center. However, they all have to walk at the reception together. How will that work out?
2007-05-20 09:00:50 · update #1
Whatever you do--You cannot ask your bridesmaids to step down--I can't believe that some people are actually telling you to do that!!
It's really not a big deal that you have more girls than guys-- It actually occurs often because girls tend to have more close friends than guys do...
Here are some ideas.. do YOU have any guy friends that you would want in your wedding--of course no one that your man would have a problem with.... or you could just have a few guys walk down the isle with a girl on both sides--I've seen that a few times--- and the guys love it--
Or the maid of honor could walk by herself--she doesn't need an escort... or one your girls could walk with the ring bearer--so make sure he walks all the way down....depending on how old he is---
Anyways--whatever you do--don't "fire" any of your brides maids... you asked them to be in your wedding for a reason-- no matter how many guys you have!!! :) Good Luck!
2007-05-20 12:56:44 · answer #1 · answered by Shannon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand your problem completely! I had the exact same dilemma. I have 9 bridesmaids and my fiance only had 5 groomsmen. I originally thought that I would have to cut some of the bridesmaids but I didn't. I just started asking some of my male family members would they be groomsmen and I have a childhood friend of mine that's going to be one too. See, all the groomsmen don't have to be just the Groom's friends and family. The Bride's friends and family can be groomsmen too. So maybe you could ask a male friend or a cousin, uncle or somebody! So you can keep your BIG wedding party!!!
Good Luck!
2007-05-20 15:57:54 · answer #2 · answered by Justyn's Mommy 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your wedding wont look wierd. I have been to weddings before where there are more bridesmaids than groomsmen and the only thing I think are that they are obviously great friends of the bride for her to honor them in such a way. It won't look wierd having them walk up the aisle alone after the wedding ceremony either, so dont worry about that.
2007-05-20 15:49:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
That sounds fine. You could have the groomsmen walk down the aisle with a BM on each arm!
2007-05-20 16:57:31 · answer #4 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to worry about it. Especially if you have an even number of attendants, because you can just have pairs of bridesmaids. Then you just need to pick whether you want symmetry (send a bridesmaid to stand with the men to keep numbers even) or continuity (keep all of the women on one side so that you don't have one or two on the men's side)
2007-05-20 15:54:45 · answer #5 · answered by disgruntled_gnome72 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
turn two of your bridesmaids into ushers. Have them escort the mother of the bride and groom down the aisle that way they get recognition too. Ditto on the bridesmaid pairs. Have one escort your flower girl (I have seen tons of weddings where the flower girl gets nervous and either won't throw her flowers or wanders off) and the other behind you either holding your train or making sure it looks good then she can fall in with the rest of them.
2007-05-20 16:08:40 · answer #6 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have two of your Bridesmaids walk together.
2007-05-20 15:47:25 · answer #7 · answered by Suzy-Q 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
try to replace the 2 unresponsive groomsmen
2007-05-20 15:49:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
Just explain to two bridesmaids that sadly there services arent needed. There are probably two that will be relieved to not have to pay and go through it all. The question is which two. But if you cant or dont want to do that, then just use all, no one will count or think its weird.
2007-05-20 15:47:43 · answer #9 · answered by barthebear 7 · 1⤊ 4⤋
Hmm.. that's tough. It would hurt some of the bridesmaids' feelings if u left some out.. So your husband (future) doesnt have any friends? Find some random dudes, like guys next door.
2007-05-20 15:47:37 · answer #10 · answered by -Tiffa- 4 · 0⤊ 4⤋