well im 21 i still live with dad and step mom, well my father is reallyyyyyyyy against me dating, when he found out i was dating he started trowing stuff in my room i got hit on the right eye with a bottle of lotion. well my boyfriend 22 years old is in the army hell be home in a month he propose 2 me, and wants to get married in july but he wants to meet my dad, im affraid he might say something so badly 2 him that he would leave me, but my fiance said he wont leave my dad cant make him mad or so. but im affraid my dad would jump and bit me when he heard the word marriage hes got a BAD!!!! temper, i pay for my own school lets say i take care of myself. but id want my fiancee to meet daddy but im affraid it wont do any good he still wont come to my wedding plzzzz help what should i do.
2007-05-20 08:12:16 · 20 answers · asked by dont fuck with me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
by the way my step mom is no better she wants me out of the house, she hates me and my dad dont wanna open his eyes to see it hes too busy manipulating me and let her talk trash about me in from of him.
2007-05-20 08:18:27 · update #1
you need to move out your dad is a tool.
2007-05-20 08:16:29 · answer #1 · answered by G-diddy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl..., sorry, WOMAN!!! You are 21 y.o.!!! Move out on your own and do what's right for you!!! At this rate (if you didnt already have a man) you would be without for a very long time!!! You need to stand up to your father and your step mother and let them know that you are an adult (regardless of the fact that you're living in their house) and you need to be treated as an ADULT!!! If you don't say something now, they will continue to control you!!! You deserve to be happy with any decision you make and whomever you decide to be with. You fiance and your father should meet and have some sort of respect for one another. It seems to me that your fiance is a decent man (so you dont have to worry about him being respectful), just your father seems to be a little immature. Or maybe he feels insecure about letting you go and date guys. I think your father just has to get used to the fact that you're not a little girl anymore. I pray that he will come around and change his views on you getting married!!!
Good luck and take care, Hun!!!
~SweetS~
2007-05-20 08:45:34 · answer #2 · answered by ~SweetS~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say this, but you should tell your dad. The longer you keep something from someone, the madder they'll get, especially when they have a horrible temper. Also, your boyfriend would get mad also if he comes to meet your dad, when he didn't even know you were dating. If your boyfriend gets annoyed you didn't tell your dad, he might leave you. So tell your dad! Or else you'll have to face the consequences. Hope this helps! <3
2007-05-20 08:19:06 · answer #3 · answered by Tennisismylyfe18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um, does your dad know you are 21yrs old? um, your dad should meet your fiance though. you might not want to be in the room when they meet, in fact when your dad 1st meets him maybe he shouldn't know its your boyfriend/fiance. your dad will probably like him if he doesn't know, so just arrange them meeting and after a while tell your dad this is your fiance. yeah he might be a little mad but he at least gave the boy a chance because he didn't know.
2007-05-20 08:22:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have him meet your dad, if your dad acts up and is completely rude to your fiance, you can at least say you made and effort, its not like you were getting eloped or anything, you clearly informed your father, if he still feels he doesnt want to go to the wedding and feels that upset about it, thats something hes gonna have to deal with, your living your life and doing what you feel you want to do, your dads just gonna either have to accept that or not deal with you at all. hope it works out for you
2007-05-20 08:20:40 · answer #5 · answered by ........... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one thing you have to get a back bone and stand up to your father. My god your letting him control your every move. You may be married soon so I think your father has to get of his high horse and start living in reality. You should not and refuse to take any abuse from him. He really needs to control that anger and you should not let him make you feel like this.
2007-05-20 08:17:57 · answer #6 · answered by jeannie f 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that you need to move out...I would then tell him you are getting married with or without his blessings...and invite him to be part of the wedding as is traditional...if he accepts this...then him and your guy should meet...if not F him...he does not deserve to have such a wonderful daughter....time for you to grow up and have your own life....do not let his behaviors become yours
2007-05-20 08:43:49 · answer #7 · answered by elz98409 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can afford it, get out of his home. He has no right to be controlling you. Good grief, you're 21 years old. Yes you need to abide by his rules living under his roof, but it does not mean he can tell you who to date or who not to date. n
2007-05-20 08:25:14 · answer #8 · answered by Nikki 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look if your so independent move out and do what you want your going to marry this guy who needs family anymore? just shut your father out of your life. close the door on him . maybe you should take your fathers advice. and quit acting as this guy is some kind of replacement. remember youll have kids one day and it will come back to you .
2007-05-20 08:18:56 · answer #9 · answered by sackman95 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that really sucks
i would tell him first, just you, so he can say whatever he wants to you and not get embarrsed.
And tell him how much you love him, make it seem like hes the world to you, and tell him that he should be happy for you becuase your happy with him, and your 21 hunn, you should be allowed to do what you want.
and after he 'cools down' then you get intoduce them
2007-05-20 08:18:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) You need to get on your own first. If you get married just to get away from your dad you'll regret it.
2) You need to prove to your dad that your a responsible adult. If your worried about what your worrying about your not ready.
2007-05-20 08:17:54 · answer #11 · answered by tiescore 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋