Well, I`ve been talking to a boy one year younger than me(freshman). He is so quiet around me but talkative around his friends. I`m usually the shy one but when I talk to him I have to do most of the talking. When we first started chatting it was the other way around, so now I don`t know what to say to him when we have conversations.
Sometimes he would talk to other freshman girls and seem comfortable around them, but he was never totally comfortable around me.
I`m confused and I think I`m doing something to intimidate guys. I`m nice and sweet and they know I`m intelligent, but for some reason it doesn`t go smoothly.
Anyway, I have a crush on this boy and I just don`t want him to feel uncomfortable around me for whatever reason. He`s so quiet around me and I don`t think it`s because he doesn`t like me, I just think I need to work on my conversation skills. What can you say to a quiet guy like this? I`ve talked about band(because we`re both in that), his activities...
2007-05-20 07:14:28 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's not realy what you say...it's what you do and how you say it. Prasie him alot and say nice things and complment him on things and stroke his ego. You also need to touch him is nice, gentile ways so he knows you like him. And saying things that will make him feel special are a big, big plus...something like 'your the only guy who I talk to like this ' or 'you only understand'.
2007-05-20 07:19:49 · answer #1 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about making him feel uncomfortable- you sound like a decent person who is concerned about his feelings and situation.
As he is quiet maybe you need to speak more loudly to him?
No, seriously - just don't worry about it. You may intimidate him if you are always poking him or making him jump by hiding, but that doesn't seem the case.
He may have other problems in his life and isn't ready (or more accurately expecting) a relationship. But if he is, then just keep talking to him and maybe look to meet up away from the pressures of other friends?
Maybe you could write a song, called 'quiet man'? And most of the lyrics could be silence, and then when he thinks nothing is going to happen, you start shouting QUIET MAN QUIET MAN!!!
He'd probably laugh for hours and you would literally fall into each others arms.
All the best
2007-05-20 07:23:25 · answer #2 · answered by James J Turner esq 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well some guys are like that, I have a friend who i had a crush on for a long time, and he finally opened up to me in 2 years, What i did was not talk about me so much, you know let him get a word in edge wise at first, And if he doesnt speak to you, wait a little more, then ask him, Do you have another girlfriend somewhere? Because ill back off you then, but you see, Iam trying so hard here to be your friend, and you wont respond back to me, what gives? And he will probably say something then, If he doesnt, then he is no match for you, it means he doesnt like you, plain and simple, oh well find someone else who you can chat up a storm with
2007-05-20 07:27:46 · answer #3 · answered by trudycaulfield 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You like this boy, right? Well, since he is shy around girls more than his friends; try start a conversation about what he wants in a relationship and go from there. Ask questions like if he being around you and what do he think of you. He might just open up slowly but he will when he gets more comfortable around you. Some shy guys don't get comfortable around girls and at times they like someone but hard to say anything.
2007-05-20 07:20:25 · answer #4 · answered by deniseywalker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG, I know what you mean ! Quiet guys are so hard to talk to. I find that all the ones I hang out with are quiet, though, so I've sort-of kind-of learned how to converse with them. Try to find something they're really interested in, and maybe work off that. I found with a few of the quiet guys they're really passionate about one subject, and can talk about it for ages, and are quiet about other stuff.
2016-05-22 01:44:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are music lovers of some sort,try to look up all
bands, orchestras etc in the area that is free and invite him as in hey I heard that this orchestra is here would you like to
hear it. The colleges have a lot of that even stage shows. A great way to break the ice.
2007-05-28 07:17:33 · answer #6 · answered by kittycat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends. If he finds you attractive, maybe he's just nervous around you cause he likes you. If he doesn't find you attractive, he's probably trying not to lead you on. I would try to let him know that you like him in one way or another.
2007-05-20 07:18:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem...Let him came to you and then see if he will talk more than you because if you talking to him first you must find something to say..So let him came to you and if he really wants you he will show you his feelings.
2007-05-28 05:13:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to find out what he really enjoys talkign about and learn about that subject. ask him aobut himself a lot.. most people like talking aobut themselves.. once you get him going he probably won't shut up.. if all else fails tlak to him about sex.. all guys love talking about that..
2007-05-20 07:23:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-05-27 16:38:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋