My little girl is desperate to have her ears pierced,I notice about 20% of her year group have them done.I am not keen,am I being snobby?
2007-05-20 06:14:16 · 62 answers · asked by New Boots. 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Young children 'want' things and if they always get them..even after a struggle of words, they will want something else..........if you get my drift. It is not always easy to say 'No' but at five years old, childen are not deemed capable of making wise decisions about anything in their lives...only decisions about 'what they want'. I believe you would be correct to make your child wait until teenage years when they are capable of rational thinking (well most of them anyway).
Best wishes, Mike.
2007-05-20 06:21:35 · answer #1 · answered by georgiansilver 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You aren't being snobby, you are just being cautious. I should mention something to you, and that is throughout your child's development you are going to be pitched to allow this and that based on her urges brought on by peer pressure. You will have to decide which of these requests should be allowed and which should not. It may be surprising to some that a five year old could be fashion conscious, but children have a very keen sense of what peers are doing and a need to fit in. Keep that in mind as you are faced with this. Some requests will be easy to deny just by their nature. You will have plenty of chances to say an emphatic no. Piercing the ears for jewelry can be safe so maybe this is one where you could give in.
2007-05-20 06:27:27 · answer #2 · answered by spring_sap 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about the snobbishness, concern for her welfare is more important. You sound like a responsible mother.
I'm not surprised many children in your daughter's class have pierced ears, as it's (sadly) a common practise to pierce young children but I have never agreed with it or thought it was wise. They should be a responsible age before you let them do something which can be risky.
If I had a daughter I wouldn't allow her to have her ears pierced until she was at least thirteen, owing to the danger of them getting caught and ripped out and the fact she'd have to keep them sterilised to prevent infection.
(I would also tell her she'd need to get a part-time job or paper round to fund it, as there's no way I'm paying for it to be done.)
In case you're wondering, my own ears have never been pierced and I never want them to be.
2007-05-20 09:09:44 · answer #3 · answered by Kate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you have other reasons, i don`t see why not.Piercing the ears are a custom in most of Africa (for girls) and it`s done when they are babies.It`s believed that the earlier it`s done, the better because it`s almost painless when done within the first week of birth.It is big here now, so why not allow her to have it done now rather than when she`s older.She might as well start enjoying wearing earrings for pierced ears now.The only thing i`d advise is for you to have it done by a professional and take proper care until it heals.
2007-05-20 06:35:50 · answer #4 · answered by quest? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt as she still is growing maybe more when she is 8 you can get fake ones from claires which are magnetic if she wants to wear some. i believe a childs ears can grow alot before their teenage years and if you have them done too soon they mite stretch and she will have big holes for when she is older but on the other hand some childrens ears dont end up like that. im due to have a little girl in 1 days time and personally i wont be doing her ears but ill come to a comprimise with her over the fake ones if she asks. i hope my thoughts help you in your decision and good luck whichever you choosexxx
2007-05-20 09:36:55 · answer #5 · answered by rachel b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on the culture of the family. It is communicative and defining for certain people. I actually pierced my daughter's ears as an infant and I just felt uncomfortable with the choice so I took them out. She is turning 5 now and if she wanted them I would probably go get her some stick on earrings to see if that appeased her.
2007-05-20 06:56:05 · answer #6 · answered by PJ L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I let my daughter have hers pierced about then she didnt like having them cleaned and they hadnt quiet healed after six weeks so bled a little when removed for the first time she had to be pinned down to have them put back in I gave up and let them heal over.
However when she reached 9 she had them redone and has since had a second ear piercing at 11. If your gonna have them pierced do them on the first day of the summer holidays so that if she has to remove them for PE they should almost be healed. If you can stomach the cleaning and your daughter doesnt mind a little pain then have them done.
2007-05-20 06:22:02 · answer #7 · answered by tracey w 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No you are not being snobby I think you are very sensible earings look lovely but at 5years old they are not responsible enough to keep them clean and they could get infected. Most of those little girls with pieced ears probably had them done when they were baby's a little fashion excessory for mum. You are sensible and it is nice to see. Wait until she can make an informed choose.
2007-05-20 06:20:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has a different opinion on this subject. My 3 girls have had their ears pierced since around 5 months of age. It is more of a cultural thing for us. But if your 5 year old wants to have it done and you don't mind, I would just be sure you explain the entire procedure from start to finish to her, and make sure she understands that it is going to HURT! Also, its very important they understand they can't pull on them or play with them or they will become infected. If you are not sure about having it done, then I would explain why to her and not do it. Your daughter may not be happy, but at least she will respect you for having a reason and for not giving into her!
2007-05-20 06:18:50 · answer #9 · answered by FLmom3 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you're being snobby, but if you're not keen you might not help her keep them clean and open, so it would be wasting time and money.(unless she is smart and can take care of them herself). My granddaughter had hers pierced when she was 7 and wore earrings for a year and then stopped. The holes are closed now.
2007-05-20 06:20:37 · answer #10 · answered by Jess 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would allow a 5 year old to have her ears pierced. Most little girls that age have their ears pierced and its understandable that she would want to have them done like her friends.
If you are worried about safety, you can just let her have little studs, instead of loop earrings.
My daughter had her ears pierced when she was very young, and I never had any problems at all.
Good luck xx
2007-05-20 06:20:31 · answer #11 · answered by . 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋