Its been almost 6 yrs since I've had sex. I'm starting to feel like I'm getting to that point where I cant take it any longer, cant stop thinking about it and the times I think about it, I get into deep thought and its really beginning to frustrate me. And my thoughts are very detailed and "involved". I could just about "feel" the "act" or something like that, to where I feel like jumping out of my skin or PURSUING somebody . . . .
Is this normal or all in my head?
Would I be wrong or "immoral" to set myself up to eventually wind up in a situation where I can make love to somebody? I'm getting really frustrated, sometimes depressed - even lonely I think I need some!!!!
2007-05-20 05:31:46 · 22 answers · asked by LaLa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dude, dude, relax... it's been almost 19 years since I had any. Every day I wake up and go about my job, without worrying about it... i do know that I'll get it. God always provides. :-) And once I'm married to the girl I'm with now, then it'll be sweet :-D
PS i'm almost 19
2007-05-20 05:35:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ohhh man... I hear ya'. Maybe it's not all in your head, maybe it's totally hormonal. There is a website that I use frequently called My Monthly Cycles . com. You could utilize that or you could talk to your PCP about getting on an SSRI to avoid "getting some" all together. Or you could just get some. It's your call. But if your in a relationship right now (husband&wife) ask yourself the standard questions like "Are we fullfilling each other's needs? Would he trust me ever again if I went out and sought it out on my own?", etc. Maybe you could even use a little self re-direction, it works with me. Better yet go to a sex shop and get the neccessary tools to get the job done the right way the first time. There's i too much "stuff" going on out there! If you increase you morals "guys" will view in a whole new light, besides you come this far, why change so drastically?
Good Luck!
2007-05-20 05:46:34 · answer #2 · answered by earthball50@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe you have waited this long, wow. We all want to make love to someone special, however 6 years is absurd. You need to find someone to connect with, to have sex with now. No it's not all in your head, it's someone a little lower than that.
Not saying to jump into bed tonight with the first guy you see, but something can be worked out in short order.
2007-05-20 05:37:18 · answer #3 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you have to have somebody that you love enough to do anything like to but if that takes to much time for you do not and i repeat do not rush anything just try to find psycheatric help or some that could give some kind of med to make it all go away remember Patience is Key to "getting Some"
2007-05-20 05:38:51 · answer #4 · answered by Giuliana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out to a club or bar with people like yourself, I'm sure you will find someone up for it there. It wouldnt be immorally wrong to set yourself up, it's natural to have these urges. Just get talking to a guy who you feel won't treat you badly, and I would probably suggest you dont tell him how desperate you are to have sex though! Im sure things will work out
2007-05-20 05:38:13 · answer #5 · answered by flower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont do anything "stupid". Maybe you should get a "toy" and relieve yourself without getting hurt or diseased. I would not trust anyone in a bar and I wouldn't go out just to jump someones bones to get a fix. Think before you act. Remember that some things have consequences.
2007-05-20 05:52:52 · answer #6 · answered by Emirald67 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt your pain. I didn't have sex at all while I was in college. And I went through a 3 year dry spell. However let me tell you two stories that I hope convince you to hang in there.
My buddy was so desperate for sex, he hired an escort. After the "deed" was done. He never lived it down and he was disgusted with himself.
As for me, I went out on a date with a girl (2nd date), we ended up sleeping together, she dumped me the next day. I think she also was going through a dry spell. I ended up getting hurt because of it.
Hang in there, and if you have to go for it, go my route :)
2007-05-20 05:37:28 · answer #7 · answered by tannedknight45 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 years? Sorry but what went wrong to make you stop seeing people and finding a boyfriend?
try to find someone and talk and make it and heal yourself. Dont act greedy. We men dont like it and avoid women who are greedy.
2007-05-20 05:38:55 · answer #8 · answered by Johanpaul 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
six years really? only you can control that part of your life. if you are passing up offers because they don't meet your standards, then maybe it's time to lower them slightly. are you picky or do you not have time? if you need a fix then go for it but be safe, cautious, and for heavens sakes cut loose and have fun. you only live once.
2007-05-20 05:40:27 · answer #9 · answered by EddieRasco 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK just have fun...get a box of condoms and just go out to clubs, bars, partys..etc..and just meet around...have alot of fun. Don't be shy..6 years is wayyy to long. girls got needs too...well i hope u get ur need :)
2007-05-20 05:40:20 · answer #10 · answered by victoria m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋