My bf did this, this morning and i was very angry. He said that i was sleepy so he let me go back to bed, but this is after 30 mins of doin absolutely nothing. And he knows i would take sex over sleep ne day. And he justifies it by saying " its not that monumental you do it all the time", but when i do it at least i ask and he says NO or he's tired so i gotta do it myself. Do i have a right to be mad?
2007-05-20 05:05:47 · 21 answers · asked by KissmeQT 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he masturbated AFTER sex, he said he wanted more but i was SLEEPY
2007-05-20 05:22:27 · update #1
I'd be angry. I like to be my man's only source for sexual pleasure. Besides, it IS a big deal if it hurts you and he needs to have respect for your feelings. He's lucky enough to have a girl who actually wants to sleep with him and is willing to satisfy him when he asks....taking that for granted is a good way to lose it.
2007-05-20 05:10:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
This is a pretty small reason to get mad. Having sex with a woman and masturbating are two different sexual pleasures for a man. Yes most men want sex with a woman over masturbating, however not all the time. Getting a sexual release without having to worry about her needs can at time be just want a guy wants. You are worked up over nothing, honestly he needs to rethink having you in his life. Clearly you are too high of maintenance emotionally to make a good mate.
2007-05-20 05:14:59 · answer #2 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You ALWAYS have the right to be mad-but should you be? I personally think not. If that helps him feel better or he said you were sleepy and he was being considerate-even though you would have kept going that was kind of sweet. If this isnt normally how things happen between the two of you dont sweat it. its small stuff and in the scheme of things almost everything is.
now if this happens on a regular basis then there may be something to talk about. otherwise let it go-it is no reflection on your skillz or his feelings just a release of sexual tension
2007-05-20 05:11:14 · answer #3 · answered by msijg 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't know about mad, but that's sure poor form on the bf's part. Thing is, sometimes men just want an orgasm and nothing else. Actually he was doing you a favor by not having sex when he didn't really want to. He could have not let you find out though, that's where the problem lies.
2007-05-20 05:12:10 · answer #4 · answered by steve.c_50 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one - you both need to be more private about your solo activities. It's not an issue of giving the partner "first shot" before taking care of himself. Sometimes it's just quicker and easier to get it done on your own. Sometimes you are taking care of a need and sometimes you are making love to someone. You should however be very concerned if you aren't having sex as much as you'd like (and have communicated it to him) and then he is choosing masturbation over being intimate with you knowing you aren't satisfied.
2007-05-20 05:20:48 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. Goddess 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No you don't! Guys masturbate, it's what we do, it's not about you. There have been other times that he has done this, rest assured! And he is going to do it again!
Don't worry, you guys are going to have plenty of sex, just cause you caught him masturbating dose not mean he is any less interested in you.
Besides, if you were sleeping, how did you know he done this? And if you weren't really sleeping why did you just continue to lay there? Maybe you could have got yourself up and offered him some servicing?
2007-05-20 05:17:14 · answer #6 · answered by bender_xr217 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
lol. Aww, honey, life is too short to get mad over something like this. Maybe when you are older you'll understand better.
Okay don't get all pissy, but here's a thought. You should get yourself a vibrator. You'll be much more relaxed and might just gain a healthier perspective on sex and masturbation.
F.Y.I....My husband of 8 years has no problems with me having one, and doesn't feel threatened by it at all. Which is a good thing,. He prolly knows if I had to choose........
2007-05-20 05:23:20 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No, but maybe he and you both should keep your solo moments private from each other a bit. If either of you have a problem with it, just don't make it a shared thing when it isn't.
2007-05-20 05:11:45 · answer #8 · answered by Chloe 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i had an ex like that and he done it for awhile so i got worried and i started sneaking around and watching the thing's he was doing and guess what he was cheating on me now don't get me wrong i'm not saying he is but men like that are never happy my boyfriend now is not aloud to do that and we have a great sex life it's better when we wait on each other it's long and very heated when we do it
2007-05-20 05:14:47 · answer #9 · answered by momalleyray 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
If you are going to loose it over something this insignificant ... you will never endure the big stuff in a relationship. May as well hang it up till you mature a little more.
2007-05-20 05:10:29 · answer #10 · answered by lollipop 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋