Whats the fastest way to potty train?

Question

My son is 2 1/2 years old. I'm due with #2 in December and I really think he should be able to be out of diapers by then partially because I don't want to buy all those diapers but also because he's just too big. We have the cool little fisher price potty that talks and all that good stuff the problem is he wont tell you when he needs to go . Every single time you ask him something he says yes including to do you need to go potty. So yeah he goes when I ask him even if it's a tiny bit and he really didn't need to go however he will not tell me he needs to go even though he is really proud when I've asked and he went and he refuses to poop in the potty. Any ideas to get him to tell me when he needs to go? He does have some minor speech delays but he does know how to say potty.

Answer 1

Sorry wait is my advice. You will not have time when the baby comes in December to deal with it. Three and a half is average for boys. I never used pull-ups, to much like diapers, or a potty seat, what happens when you are not at home and he has to use the big potty? At three and a half I took their diapers away, with much notice, and that was. I can count on one hand the number of accidents that they have had.

Answer 2

If you stay home with him all day, then the fastest way is to let him go bare bottom. Then place him on the potty every hour and praise him each time he sits there even if he doesn't go. Letting him go without a diaper or anything will get him in touch with his bodies signals easier. And then he doesn't have a choice, if the diaper doesn't exist, then the potty is the only option. The only thing is don't ever get mad or scold him if he has an accident on the floor or in bed. The best way to potty train is to make him feel like it's not a chore, and that he is in control. Good luck.

Answer 3

I've potty trained many! The best way to do it is..put him in undies right away! Diapers at night until he gains control. Buy undies that have his favorite characters on them. Examine and admire the undies with him. Let him know how special those undies are. Tell him that he can't pee on the characters. He will have a few accidents..but during these accidents is the learning time. He will see how yucky it is. When he pees in his pants..don't make a big deal about it..take him to the bathroom and say, "pee goes in there"..put fresh undies on him and wait. When you do get him to pee in the potty make such a big deal about it. Give him so much praise. Show him that when he goes pee in the potty, mommy and daddy get so excited. When he doesn't there isn't any kind of special attention. He will remember if he goes pee in the potty he will get all that special attention. You may not want all the accidents but I promise this works! Good Luck!

Answer 4

my friend has a little boy (i have a girl, so its a little bit different) but she told me that her husband would help out a lot in potty training their son.. and when he was at work, or not at home, she would ask her son if he "wants to make bubbles in the potty like daddy"

as far as poopies in the potty, i am having that problem as well. my daughter gets "naked time" every day. i have heard this will help her identify when she has to go. and it works with pee pees.. but she usually poops on the floor.. lol so if you discover a "poopie trick" that works, let me know!

Answer 5

Put Regular underware on him during the day and if he poops in his underware give him a wet wipe and let him try to clean his self up.He will make a mess but he wont like doing it,and if you have a place to let him pee outside like on a tree or something you will be surprised how fast he will do that.I wouldnt push the issue too hard he will soon start being ashamed to mess himself up.Another thing that helps with boys is going when dad does because they all want to be like daddy.

Answer 6

Try using a reward system. Every time he goes put a star on a chart and let him know that when he gets a certain number of stars he will get a reward (of your choosing).

Answer 7

Positive rewards small toy or candy worked for our two he may need some privacy too.

Answer 8

Just take him with you every time you go.

Answer 9

Rub his nose in it.

Answer 10

sit him on the potty once an hour every hour. for five minutes and use cotton underwear pull ups need to be reserved for naps long outings and bedtime be prepared for a set back when the baby comes



Toilet Training

Toilet Training Readiness

Bowel and bladder control is a necessary social skill. Teaching your child to use the toilet takes time, understanding, and patience. The important thing to remember is that you cannot rush your child into using the toilet.

There is no set age at which toilet training should begin. The right time depends on your child's physical and psychological development. Children younger than 12 months have no control over bladder or bowel movements and little control for 6 months or so after that. Between 18 and 24 months, children often start to show signs of being ready, but some children may not be ready until 30 months or older.

Your child must also be emotionally ready. He needs to be willing, not fighting or showing signs of fear. If your child resists strongly, it is best to wait for a while.

Stress in the home may make learning this important new skill more difficult. Sometimes it is a good idea to delay toilet training in the following situations:

* Your family has just moved or will move in the near future.
* You are expecting a baby or you have recently had a new baby.
* There is a major illness, a recent death, or some other family crisis.

However, if your child is learning how to use the toilet without problems, there is no need to stop because of these situations.

It is best to be relaxed about toilet training and avoid becoming upset. Remember that no one can control when and where a child urinates or has a bowel movement except the child. Try to avoid a power struggle. Children at the toilet-training age are becoming aware of their individuality. They look for ways to test their limits. Some children may do this by holding back bowel movements.

Look for any of the following signs that your child is ready:

* Your child stays dry at least 2 hours at a time during the day or is dry after naps.
* Bowel movements become regular and predictable.
* Facial expressions, posture, or words reveal that your child is about to urinate or have a bowel movement.
* Your child can follow simple instructions.
* Your child can walk to and from the bathroom and help undress.
* Your child seems uncomfortable with soiled diapers and wants to be changed.
* Your child asks to use the toilet or potty chair.
* Your child asks to wear grown-up underwear.

Stooling patterns vary. Some children move their bowels 2 or 3 times a day. Others may go 2 or 3 days between movements. Soft, comfortable stools brought about by a well-balanced diet make training easier for both child and parent. Trying too hard to toilet train your child before she is ready can result in long-term problems with bowel movements.

Talk with your pediatrician if there is a change in the nature of the bowel movements or if your child becomes uncomfortable. Don't use laxatives, suppositories, or enemas unless your pediatrician advises these for your child.

Most children achieve bowel control and daytime urine control by 3 to 4 years of age. Even after your child is able to stay dry during the day, it may take months or years before he achieves the same success at night. Most girls and more than 75% of boys will be able to stay dry at night after age 5.

Teaching your child to use the toilet

Decide what words to use
You should decide carefully what words you use to describe body parts, urine, and bowel movements. Remember that friends, neighbors, teachers, and other caregivers also will hear these words. It is best to use proper terms that will not offend, confuse, or embarrass your child or others.

Avoid using words like "dirty," "naughty," or "stinky" to describe waste products. These negative terms can make your child feel ashamed and self-conscious. Treat bowel movements and urination in a simple, matter-of-fact manner.

Your child may be curious and try to play with the feces. You can prevent this without making him or her feel upset by simply saying, "This is not something to be played with." Pick a potty chair

Once your child is ready, you should choose a potty chair. A potty chair is easier for a small child to use, because there is no problem getting on to it and a child's feet can reach the floor.

Children are often interested in their family's bathroom activities. It is sometimes helpful to let children watch parents when they go to the bathroom. Seeing grown-ups use the toilet makes children want to do the same. If possible, mothers should show the correct skills to their daughters, and fathers to their sons. Children can also learn these skills from older brothers and sisters, friends, and relatives.

Help your child recognize signs of needing to use the potty
Encourage your child to tell you when he or she is about to urinate or have a bowel movement. Your child will often tell you about a wet diaper or a bowel movement after the fact. This is a sign that your child is beginning to recognize these bodily functions. Praise your child for telling you, and suggest that "next time" she let you know in advance.

Before having a bowel movement, your child may grunt or make other straining noises, squat, or stop playing for a moment. When pushing, his or her face may turn red. Explain to your child that these signs mean that a bowel movement is about to come, and it's time to try the toilet.

It often takes longer for a child to recognize the need to urinate than the need to move bowels. Some children do not gain complete bladder control for many months after they have learned to control bowel movements. Some children achieve bladder control first. Most, but not all, boys learn to urinate sitting down first, and then change to standing up. Remember that all children are different!

Make trips to the potty routine
When your child seems to need to urinate or have a bowel movement, go to the potty. Keep your child seated on the potty for only a few minutes at a time. Explain what you want to happen. Be cheerful and casual. If he protests strongly, don't insist. Such resistance may mean that it is not the right time to start training.

It may be helpful to make trips to the potty a regular part of your child's daily routine, such as first thing in the morning when your child wakes up, after meals, or before naps. Remember that you cannot control when your child urinates or has a bowel movement.

Success at toilet training depends on teaching at a pace that suits your child. You must support your child's efforts. Do not try to force quick results. Encourage your child with lots of hugs and praise when success occurs. When a mistake happens, treat it lightly and try not to get upset. Punishment and scolding will often make children feel bad and may make toilet training take longer.

Teach your child proper hygiene habits. Show your child how to wipe carefully. (Girls should wipe thoroughly from front to back to prevent bringing germs from the rectum to the vagina or bladder.) Make sure both boys and girls learn to wash their hands well after urinating or a bowel movement.

Some children believe that their wastes are part of their bodies; seeing their stools flushed away may be frightening and hard for them to understand. Some also fear they will be sucked into the toilet if it is flushed while they are sitting on it. Parents should explain the purpose of body wastes. To give your child a feeling of control, let him or her flush pieces of toilet paper. This will lessen the fear of the sound of rushing water and the sight of things disappearing.

Encourage the use of training pants
Once your child has repeated successes, encourage the use of training pants. This moment will be special. Your child will feel proud of this sign of trust and growing up. However, be prepared for "accidents." It may take weeks, even months, before toilet training is completed. It may be helpful to continue to have your child sit on the potty at specified times during the day. If your child uses the potty successfully, it's an opportunity for praise. If not, it's still good practice.

In the beginning, many children will have a bowel movement or will urinate right after being taken off the toilet. It may take time for your child to learn how to relax the muscles that control the bowel and bladder. If these "accidents" happen a lot, it may mean your child is not really ready for training.

Sometimes your child will ask for a diaper when a bowel movement is expected and stand in a special place to defecate. Instead of considering this a failure, praise your child for recognizing the bowel signals. Suggest that he or she have the bowel movement in the bathroom while wearing a diaper. Encourage improvements and work toward sitting on the potty without the diaper.

Most of the time, your child will let you know when he is ready to move from the potty chair to the "big toilet." Make sure your child is tall enough, and practice the actual steps with him.

Your pediatrician can help
If any concerns come up before, during, or after toilet training, talk with your pediatrician. Often the problem is minor and can be resolved quickly, but sometimes physical or emotional causes will require treatment. Your pediatrician's help, advice, and encouragement can help make toilet training easier. Also, your pediatrician is trained to identify and manage problems that are more serious.