salamm...i am a revert from a sikh to muslim!!!! life is hard as my parents are unaware of my conversion but my problems is, i converted due to a man teaching me about islam and about the religion. we are just friends though..i have feelings for him..we once dated but he realising that he wanted to become relgious and me being a sikh at the time broke up. we after months...started talking and i converted as i no inshallah allah wanted this. however i told him i have feelings for him..he admited he does too..but doesnt know if i will be a good muslim wife etc...but then i had also lied to him about my age being only 17, telling him i am 18 whilst he is 21. he then thold me he only wishes to be friends anhd had decided before i told him about my lie...how does he feel...am i in the wrong thinking about this stuff after converting??? inshalah someone will help me??? thank you x
2007-05-20 04:16:10 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Just to let people know sorry if i mislead them..i truly belive i met this man to help me see the light...i believe in islam...and whether i am with this man or not i will stay a muslim as i know this is the religion for me..
2007-05-20 04:33:39 · update #1
Just to let people know sorry if i mislead them..i truly belive i met this man to help me see the light...i believe in islam...and whether i am with this man or not i will stay a muslim as i know this is the religion for me..
2007-05-20 04:33:42 · update #2
Surely, men who submit themselves to GOD and women who submit themselves to Him, and believing men and believing women, and obedient men and obedient women, and truthful men and truthful women, and men steadfast in their faith and steadfast women, and men who are humble and women who are humble, and men who give alms and women who give alms, and men who fast and women who fast, and men who guard their chastity and women who guard their chastity and men who remember Allah much and women who remember Him - Allah has prepared for all of them forgiveness and a great reward.
Holy Quran
Go ahead with the remembrance of Allah for it is the best remembrance, and long for that which He has promised to the pious, for His promise is the most true promise. Tread the course of the Prophet for it is the most distinguished course. Follow the sunnah of the Prophet for it is the most right of all behaviours. Learn the Qur'an for it is the fairest of discourses and understand it thoroughly for it is the best blossoming of hearts. Seek cure with its light for it is the cure for hearts. Recite it beautifully for it is the most beautiful narration. Certainly, a scholar who acts not according to his knowledge is like the off-headed ignorant who does not find relief from his ignorance, but on the learned the plea of Allah is greater and grief more incumbent, and he is more blameworthy before Allah.
There are four factors that lead one to fall into mistakes. The first is a psychological factor. It is when man follows his desire and loves himself, his kin, friends, party, or country in a way that his love does not submit to the Islamic values declared in the Holy Qur'an and the Prophetic Sunna.
The cure, here, is achieved by submitting this psychological factor to the true wisdom of religion. Submission to the will of Allah and relying on Him in the lawful way of living cause the psychological factor to become defeated.
The second is a material factor that concerns the physical condition of body. It is clear that some mistakes occur due to some pressure caused by a pain that man cannot tolerate and so he does what he would not do if he were sound and healthy. Weather, noise, and fatigue are also among the material factors.
The cure lies in treating the diseases and getting rid of what troubles one’s body and annoys his nerves.
The third is an intellectual factor, which concerns the shallow cultural level or the kind of culture that one receives. One must get his intellects and cultures from honest sources in order to not become involved in mistakes due to ignorance or wrong information.
The fourth is an environmental factor. Bad friends in the street and school or an unreligious family cause one to fall into mistakes.
As long as one is influenced by these factors, he will fall into mistakes and as long as he keeps away from them, he will remain safe.
Dear sister, you should follow the practical steps first by knowing Allah and being sincere to Him without flattering anyone. You should care much for your bodily health, think correctly, and then choose good persons to be your friends.
In the steps that precede marriage, it is sufficient to obtain information from relatives first, and then, as a second step, have a public meeting with family and without gestures or words that may excite lust. There is no objection if a young man looks at a young woman without her veil when there is a serious intention of marriage. But, if a young man intends to be deceitful just to get pleasure, the company and the meeting will be unlawful. It has been noticed in the cases of love between the youth in our present age that they are of the second kind, in which love relation continues until it reaches touching of the hands and body, because after the premises mentioned in the questions, lust overcomes both the young man and the young woman until they sleep together to satisfy their furious lust. Then, the young man goes to look for another victim and so on. As experience has proven, girls who are deceived by the words of love become the losers at the end.
The Islamic Sharia has prohibited these premises because it knows the consequences, which we witness in real life. Also Islam prohibits these things in order to protect the dignity of young women and to close the door before the youth who try to take advantage of the honor of young women and then leave them to look for a second victim to deceive and then a third, and so on…!
I do not think that Islam agrees with the present day love relations at all. Religious men and women have to be absolutely careful, for a reasonable person is one who takes lessons from the experiences of others.
First, in the morning, when you wake up, determine not to do anything that does not please Allah! Think well before deciding to do anything whether or not it benefits you in this life and afterlife! If it pleases Allah, do it; otherwise, leave it, regardless of whether or not you like it.
Second, do so until you go to bed at night, and then think of all you have done in the day, one by one. Thank Allah for your good deeds and pray to Him to forgive your bad deeds!
Third, continue doing this for several days. You may feel tired at the beginning, but then, it will gradually become easier for you and you will enjoy it morally and spiritually. Of course, the body follows the soul in comfort.
Fourth, before sleeping, perform wudu’ and recite the following suras: al-Hadeed (57), al-Hashr (59), as-Saff (61), al-Jum’ah (62) and al-Taghabun (64). If you cannot, you should recite al-Hashr only. With this action, you shall find that the pleasure of lawful things is sweeter than the pleasure of unlawful things. Then, you will laugh at those who pant after unlawful pleasures, and feel sorry for them and the mirage they walk in towards Hell.”
In the following tradition, Imam Ali (a.s.) mentions the qualities of the faithful and pious people, who follow sound reason and walk in the right path. Imam Ali (a.s.) says,
‘A faithful one is truthful in the worldly life, with an insightful heart. He keeps to the (moral) limits. He is a vessel of knowledge, with perfect thinking. He is generous, good-hearted, patient, and openhanded. He spends liberally. He is charitable, honey-tongued, and smiling. He ponders much, sleeps little, and laughs little. He is with good manners, free from greediness, and away from fancy. He is ascetic in this life. He looks forward to the afterlife. He likes guests. He is merciful to the orphans. He is kind to the young. He has regard for the old. He helps the needy, visits the sick, and escorts the dead. He respects the holiness of the Qur'an, prays to the Lord, cries for sins, enjoins right, forbids wrong, eats little, drinks little, moves with politeness, speaks with advice, and preaches kindly. He does not fear any except Allah and expects no one save Him. He is busy in thanking and praising Allah. He is neither negligent nor is he proud. He is not proud of the properties of the worldly life. He is busy thinking of his own defects away from the defects of others. Prayer is the delight of his eyes. Fasting is his job and occupation. Truthfulness is his habit. Gratefulness is his ship. Reason is his captain. Piety is his food. The worldly life is his prison. Patience is his home. The night and day are his capital. Paradise is his abode. The Qur'an is his speech. Muhammad is his intercessor and Allah the Almighty is his entertainer.
2007-05-20 04:59:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi , first off let me begin by saying your feelings for this person , are most important , but... you should never change your religious beliefs For someone or to PLEASE someone or even thinking they will like you more, your going to hate me saying this but you have to hear it , you are very young! Slow it down... If this guy feels the same for you he will come around himself, in the meantime work on YOU , do some soul searching find out where YOU want to be religiously (not your parents or this guy...YOU!)
Then be HONEST you cannot ever start a good relationship with a lie, so you have to come clean and let him take it all in..
it's not such a big deal, but it may be to him, Ok you sound like a very loving person, love yourself too, and take a little break from this situation , if it's meant to be it will happen, nothing will stop it from growing , and if it's not nothing you do will change that.. Islam is a very beautiful religion with many qualities , but unless you grew up in it you have to be very clear on what IS expected of you as a muslim do your reasearch to see if this is a true calling for you conversion is a very big decision.. WISH YOU THE BEST!
2007-05-20 11:29:58 · answer #2 · answered by Magic 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Welcome sister,
I beleive you should wait. In Islam we are not allowed to have any pre-marital relationships. i also think it would be best if you talked to ur parents and told them that u were a muslim and ur feelings toward this guy it is not wrong to have feelings toward someone this is definetly not forbidden as long as u do nothing out of line. If he wants to wait then wait u are still young and you should do some research on Islam talk to your local imam etc. in Islam we also should have our parents consent on marrige (not arranged marriage) if everyone agrees including you then Inshallah the marriage is Halal. but if u go without ur parents knowledge this is haraam. if you have any questions email me and i'll try my best to help u sis.
Inshallah Allah will help you.
2007-05-20 18:46:56 · answer #3 · answered by unknown 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Salaam sister, firstly I don't know if your true feelings are for ALLAH(swt) or some man.. Only you can decide this.. I think it is sad that some women will convert to gain a man and then the man will not be pleased nor will Allah(SWT)...inshallah if you have converted because your heart said then you will find a suitable husband...
2007-05-20 11:23:07 · answer #4 · answered by je 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just a few questions.
How long were you Sikh before you saw the light?
How long before you see the light again?
What does "inshallah allah" mean?
2007-05-20 14:59:18 · answer #5 · answered by itsmyitch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
salam,sister
i think you are really muslim right now
and i'm sure that your converting was because of your mind and heart (i'm talking about faith)
the issue has two sides
th first si religious....look..you have to go on in your way of islam, with all hards,with all problems...go on in your religion whatever happens to you.....because it's your way to success in this life and in the other and inshallah to enter paradise.
the second is personal
dear..don't think that this moment is the last one in the life
i know it's hard,terrible,and maybe full of sadness
dear....you are young and your future un front of you and i'm sure that the future will come to you with a big smile.
but be sure...your way is in sticking is islam orders
Allah (our God) said in the Qura'an (And whosoever fears God, He will appoint for him a way out) (Al-Talaq)(2)
with all my wishes
2007-05-20 16:43:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you converted cause you believe in Islam and not because of that man.
Then dot worry, God will help you find the man who you are looking for In shaa Allah.
Good luck.
2007-05-20 12:42:19 · answer #7 · answered by SOCCER GIRL! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No relationship can survive based upon lies or deceit. You have to be yourself for a lifetime.
Converting to a religion for someone else, is not a sincere approach. It has to be something you want for yourself. And a relationship or the hopes of one is not a good excuse.
2007-05-20 11:30:31 · answer #8 · answered by jmmevolve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a good man to be protecting your fragile heart like that, he sensed you weren't mature enough, so the relationship wouldn't work and did the responsible thing of backing off, most men would have taken advantage of you
2007-05-20 11:25:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You better be careful you could be dragged out into the street and stoned to death just like that other young girl was a couple days ago.
2007-05-20 11:20:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
From Sikh to Muslim. Bad, bad, bad.
2007-05-20 11:21:42 · answer #11 · answered by 17hunter 4 · 1⤊ 4⤋