How can I find out if my husband is cheating in the army?

Question

my husband is over in Iraq and recently some of our close friends back at our base told me what they overheard one of his friends say. This man said, "what she doesn't know (used my name) doesn't hurt her, and i want to tell her but i'm not going to start anything between them."
another person that went to NTC with my husband said one of the girls was trying to sleep with my husband and so did another girl.
but here's the problem: both of these men wanted (and have told me and my husband to our faces that they want to be with me and dont' think we should be together)
SO WHAT SHOULD I DO????

I AM praying that he'll come home and i DO miss him terribly. and truthfully, i know that the women over there are NOT the problem....it's the army women i'm worried about.

Answer 1

You should trust your husband. Some guys will say anything to get into the pants of a hot babe. Which you apparently are. There is no way to find out for sure if your husband is cheating on you, so trust him and relax.

Answer 2

Just because he is in Iraq does not mean he's not cheating. My cousin met his now wife while they were both deployed in Iraq. They were in seperate Nat'l Guard units that merged, they met, and were married 3 months after getting home. Also, the internet has made it easier to have an emotional relationship with someone.
I'm not trying to scare you, but I know first hand that not all of our guys in Iraq and Afghanistan are fighting. Many are support and do not leave their bases. They get bored, they get lonely, life continues back home, they get depressed. It can happen.
I suggest you just come right out and ask him. Do it by phone, e-mail, or letter, whatever.
My husband is in Afghanistan and you better believe that if he thought I was cheating, he'd be standing in line for the phones! The guys "over there" worry about it, why can't we do the same at home if there are rumors?

Answer 3

You know what...having been there, I hope he comes home safely too, and God forbid he is cheating on you. But you need to retract your statement about it being the women in the army. Being one myself, and an officer, I am completely faithful. Do not make such general, ignorant comments. It bothers me that you have the gall to say that. When you doubt your husband, its just that, you are doubting him. Always remember that the door swings both ways, and even if a woman ever approaches him, Army or not, he can still say no. It has nothing to do with where the woman is from. Instead of being childish about it, just ask him. And if he lies, you will find out eventually, and he isn't worth it. People always find out. It sounds like you may be looking for a reason to separate? Because you were flattered by another man? Your friends do not sound like friends at all. You have no trust and that is the first step to a downfall. I agree with waiting to ask him when he gets home. Do not be so selfish as to forget what he is going through right now. If you do decide to ask him while he is there, do not accuse or jump to conclusions, stay calm and ask for the truth. Good luck with your situation.

Answer 4

Respectfully... it would be your HUSBAND cheating...

I deployed in the Navy for 6 months in the 80's and 90's... I never cheated on my spouse and would rat on those who did !! Even back THEN when a letter was 15-30 days... Men have the ability to ummm... ability to self-amuse !!

If you're hearing stories.. be concerned... but be concerned if the BOYS are piggies !!

Answer 5

i know your probably worried sick right now and its probably on your mind all the time. wait til he calls tell him what was said and be honest about everything. just dont accuse him and freak out about it be calm and just say i was told by some ppl that your are seeing another girl. honesty is the only thing thats going to work when your that far away from someone you love its very hard you have to learn how to talk out your problems. has he ever given you reason to believe that he would cheat on you? you know him better than anyone so you need to ask yourself that when ppl come up to you saying he cheats on you. my husband has been accused of cheating on me alot he never has but ppl in his squadron like to start stuff.

Answer 6

you should know better not to listen to he said she said bull. no offence but you sound like your even feeding off all the drama and the fact that you publicly posted this question proves my point that your a drama queen.

to me it sounds like your just looking for a way out of your marriage buy listening to others crap. and you look pretty supicious too bragging about another man wanthing to be with you. for pete sake grow up and quit acting like a 13 year old

if you really think hes cheating then confront him but dont runin your marriage over rumors

believe none of what you hear and only half of what you see. marriage is wayy Moore important than he said she said stuff if you have a great marriage and a good man why are you listening to all that crap you should really get some new freinds and grow up mabe you should leave him and save him some drama.

Answer 7

You should get yourself another man. Just because he is in the Military doesn't make him honorable. The sexually permissive nature of the US Military, makes allowances for this type of behaviour, even though it's strictly forbidden in the UCMJ.

Answer 8

Husband is being sexist about our daughter?

Answer 9

Facebook question about unblocking friends?

Answer 10

i think you should wait for him to come home from Iraq. then i think you should speak to him directly. the look in his eyes will tell you the truth. if he is cheating on you it's time to move on and if he's not you will be glad you waited for him. you owe him at least that!!!!!!!!