She's very sexually attracted to me, very affectionate, and generally more emotionally needy.
I'm interested being in a monogamous relationship right now, and like the idea of making a commitment, *settling* down if you will, but wonder if I'm kidding myself. Is hot passion an esstential ingredient for a successful, happy & healthy long-term relationship?
2007-05-20 03:46:45 · 14 answers · asked by Nimbot 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think if you are not sexually attracted to her, then she is not the one for you, and it will be best for both of you to not try to have a long-term relationship, especially if you really care for her. in the long run, it will be hurtful for her, and her self esteem, to be with someone who isnt totally "into" her, and you will most likely meet someone whom you are attracted to
2007-05-20 03:52:40 · answer #1 · answered by dlin333 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm really sorry but I can't see how you are going to be happily married together forever if you are already finding that she doesn't find you sexually attractive. It will seem harsh but I think you have to go your separate ways. What will happen if she finds someone she is sexually attracted to?.... How are you going to react if you are being rejected frequently at home and another woman finds you sexually attractive and wants to take it further?.... If she's not willing to discuss or try to sort I think your only choice is breaking up. I'm sorry.
2016-04-01 11:33:35 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is an important part of a marriage. So no it will not work out. Just because you like or even love someone, it is not the reason to get married. It has to be the total package. This is the rest of your life, not 5 years. What is tolerable not may not be tolerable for the next 50 years. The mature and fair thing to do for your girlfriend is not to get married unless your feelings change, which could happen.
2007-05-20 03:54:35 · answer #3 · answered by Darrell C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex can play a big part in a relationship. But I've had hot passion in almost all of my relationships and none of them lasted. I guess you need to ask yourself if you need the hot passion to have a successful long-term relationship. If you end this relationship now, will you later wonder if it could have been "the one"?
2007-05-20 03:55:33 · answer #4 · answered by Missy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree it won't work. I once was in a relationship where I felt what your girlfriend feels for you. But he didn't feel the same for me. He liked the way I made him feel the importance I gave him. But it didn't work. Because he didn't feel the same. at one time he met another woman. We were no longer together. It turned out he felt for her what he had never felt for me. But she after having been with him was not interested. From that I learned that no matter what if one of the two people involved. In a relationship are not happy with it. Both will be miserable. This I know from personal experience to be true.
2007-05-20 03:57:12 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What about her doesn't speak hot to you? Perhaps its more of a mindset thing with you, for instance, maybe she is the type like you never had before? For instance, maybe all your life the loose, skanky type is what turned you on, and she is not like that? I have a guy friend who was always attracted to one type of girl, and time and time again, these types of women were a failure to him. He went in the other direction and met and married someone very strong willed, independent and feisty. He is very happy that he changed his mind set. Find out what turns you on and be honest...maybe the two of you can spice things up?? good luck.
2007-05-20 03:54:39 · answer #6 · answered by Rogue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the relationship is bound to last coz as u said u r ready for it . it's not tht u don't love the gul......may b ur gul is a bit too effectionate n reacts before u r ready .
but as u love her n love never fades it only grows with all the time u share together i m sure u will have a successful,happy,healthy log term relationship
2007-05-20 03:54:30 · answer #7 · answered by kashish l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you consider her your GF, if there's no sexual attraction? The whole point in monogamous behavior is for the sake of mating; so, if you aren't planning to do anything sexual, just call her a friend and leave it the way it is...she can do what she wants with other men and you can do what you want with...???
2007-05-20 03:57:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It won't last: passion and sexual fulfillment/compatibility is an essential component in a relationship. My advice? Break up.
2007-05-20 03:52:45 · answer #9 · answered by Love_my_Cornish_Knight❤️ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex is a huge part of any relationship. If it suffers the relationship probably wont work.
2007-05-20 03:49:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋