2007-05-20 03:14:02 · 24 answers · asked by Dee A 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Fix it in your mind and refuse to let that hurt, hurt you again.
Forgiving does not mean that you have condoned what the offender has done.........it means that you have taken charge over how you feel about what happened, and that you have the power to not feel guilty about not forgiving.
We cannot forget pain, but we can chose to let it make us bitter or better.
I try to chose better and let the past fall where it is......past.
I have learned that true forgiveness leaves one completely relieved and not burdened and i believe when those thoughts of pain rise up that we do have the power to stop them and let them go.
True forgiveness to me means..forgiving that person, and not holding any resentment, nor do i put them in a corner with guilt.
The word freedom has the word free in it!
Press forward it is what we must do.
Take good care of your heart.
Peace
2007-05-20 03:41:51 · answer #1 · answered by flowerpower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The phrase "forgive and forget" is not found in the Bible. However, there are numerous scriptures commanding us to "forgive" one another (Matthew 6:14; Ephesians 4:32). A Christian who does not forgive can reap bitterness and the loss of eternal rewards (Hebrews 12:14-15; 2 John 1:8). Forgiveness is a decision of the will. Since God commands us to forgive, we must make a conscious choice to forgive. This frees the forgiving one from the past. The "offender" may not desire forgiveness and may not change (Matthew 5:44). Ideally the offender will seek reconciliation, but if not, the one wronged should still make known their decision to forgive.
In some senses, it is impossible to truly forget sins that have been committed against us. We cannot selectively "delete" events from our memory. The Bible states that God does not "remember" our wickedness (Hebrews 8:12). God is all-knowing. God knows that occurred. However, having forgiven us, He treats us as if the sin had not occurred. God does not hold our sins against us. In that sense we must "forgive and forget." If we forgive someone, we must act as if that sin had never occurred. We remember the sin, but we live as if we did not remember it. Ephesians 4:32 tells us, "Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you."
2007-05-20 04:40:39 · answer #2 · answered by Freedom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I see no where in Scriptures where we are told to lose our memory of an incident. Forgiveness is releasing the "debt the other owes you".
Forgetfulness is sometimes good, sometimes impossible.
In the case of the latter, it is a safety valve, preventing further hurts from coming. If we are far enough from the abuser, forgetfulness MAY come.
We may forgive a treasurer for embezzlement, but it is foolishness to let her be on the money counting team at the church after she is restored.
2007-05-20 03:23:27 · answer #3 · answered by thundercatt9 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness is available and achieved in the heart. Once you've been injured you forgive but the wound is still there. A scar will develop but the wound is non threatening any longer. A scar serves as a constant reminder to you of God's immaculate gift of forgiveness and the sever consequences of sin.
2007-05-20 03:21:58 · answer #4 · answered by stpolycarp77 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
One of the ways to forgive someone is to pray to God to give you the strength to forgive then go to the person who wronged you and tell that person "I forgive you for........, but I haven't forgotten" Maybe the person will accept your forgiveness and things will be better between the two of you.
Read Colossions 3:13 for the answer.
When I was a little girl one of my relatives hit me with a hickory switch for no apparent reason. My cousin told a lie on me. I haven't forgotten the incident, but I have forgiven my relatives and love them both.
2007-05-20 03:47:21 · answer #5 · answered by sunchine girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgive and forget... Forgive them for what they did and forget what type of person their actions made them to you.
You don't need to forget the act... but you do have to stop dwelling on it and seeing that person as that action.
You can forget what that person became and see what they can become through Christ.
Forgeting all together would put you in danger, and anyone for that matter, of being misused.
2007-05-20 03:34:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably should not forget because that is how we change ourselves and learn from our mistakes. However, forgiveness is easy, it is for you -- not the person you forgive. This way, you can go on with your life.
2007-05-20 03:23:17 · answer #7 · answered by StormyC 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Real forgiveness is when we forgive someone and remember the incident without harboring any bitterness, hate, anger or any other negative emotion on our part. You can not forget ie remember without sinning.
2007-05-20 03:25:20 · answer #8 · answered by seekfind 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God never told us to forget, but for us to forgive. It is easy to remember Romans 8:28 "For we know that all things work together for good to those who love God and who are called according to His purposes." If someone has hurt us in the past, we know that God will some how use it for our own good. Trust God is in control. Feel sorry for the one who has wronged you. God is our vengence. He does a much better job than we could ever do. I hope that this helps you.
Sincerely Yours, Pastor Jeff Ludin
2007-05-20 03:24:57 · answer #9 · answered by Apostle Jeff 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That can be hard to do. You can't make your memory go away. Just forgive and don't have bitterness in your heart is what God asks. Just keep praying and maybe the memories will fade over time. Don't dwell on them. Good luck.
2007-05-20 03:24:04 · answer #10 · answered by gabeymac♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋