my bf recently started doing stuff that makes me think he might want me and my 3 little girls to move in w/him.
we've been together for about 3 years now. i'm 28 and he's almost 29. he's never been married or lived with a girlfriend (i'm his second long term gf-his last one was in high school and lasted 3 years before she left him for another guy whom she married).
i got a garage door opener and key to his house about 3 months ago. he recently started doing weird things like randomly taking the subwoofer and speakers out of his prized lexus b/c he said he was getting too old to handle the bass in the car and needed more back seat room and also selling other electronics that he's had for years on craigslist.
just a few weeks ago he asked me to organize his dresser so my clothes could fit and he also had me help him clean out his closet (he threw out stuff from old gfs too) to make room for my clothes. he bought more hangers too when i wasn't there.
i didnt ask him to do this
2007-05-20 01:57:07 · 20 answers · asked by sadiesmom28 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he's been hinting at proposal off and on since Nov of last year and for my b-day this past Feb. he bought me a 1500.00 necklace.
he spends time w/my kids about once a week (more when they are not in school) and sees me alone every other fri & sat (we both work nite shift, 12 hours-3 days a week. the same days too)
is he getting ready to finally settle down w/me and ask me to marry him?
we've had commitment issues in past only b/c he's had to get used to the kids (my youngest was only 2 when we met) and hasn't ever lived with a girlfriend.
i should mention that he's all i've ever wanted-he doesn't drink,smoke,or cuss (just like me), he goes to church often, and my kids absolutely love him!! (which is a major good sign b/c my 2 oldest hated my last husband right off the bat-he turned out to be physically abusive). he takes us on trips,out the lake,to the park,etc. he's very kind,gentle and loving.
2007-05-20 01:57:38 · update #1
Yep...you found him! Congrats
2007-05-20 02:01:02 · answer #1 · answered by westgaliberty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have what most are still trying to find. Take is slow and let him tell you when he's ready. It's a whole new life for a guy who has never had kids and family. Let him do things at his own pace since he seems to think of having you and your kids in his life. Knowing he did things without you asking is really great. I wish you all the best and hope you become a happy family.
2007-05-20 02:06:39 · answer #2 · answered by Breezey is saying HAPPY BIRTHDAY 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I heard once that small children and dogs are the best judges of character.... Trust your kids' instincts on this.
His values look to be in line with yours (attending church, no smoking/drinking/cussing), and it looks like he's making room in his life (rearanging his home) for you and yours. I suspect that he's working up the courage to propose to you.
You're both over 25, so (theoretically) you both have your sh-tuff together, heads screwed on straight, etc. Tell him what you're thinking, if you have any reservations, etc. Ask him specifically what he wants from you (whether it's marriage, moving in, etc.). I'm not saying your guy is like this, but most men are terrible at picking up hints.
2007-05-20 02:17:45 · answer #3 · answered by Yoda's Duck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a decent guy but get this straight. You can keep the keys incase he needs them in the event of lossing his other set.
But do not live with him esepecially with your children. Wait until he marries you.
There is nothing weird about this it just sounds like he really cares for you and your kids.
But you already knew this you just wanted to hear it from someoen else. Which is ok.
2007-05-20 02:02:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're leaving out an entire human experience. Nobody is that vanilla ice cream; there's got to be more to him, unless he's secretly burying young boys in his backyard. Flesh out the character and then ask a real question...what you've provided sounds like you're writing a fairytale and you want to know whether any of us run a publishing company...
2007-05-20 02:03:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It definitely sounds like you're both on the same page. Just be careful not to push it or it could push him away. Let him come to terms with it on his own and you'll be living in bliss before you know it!
2007-05-20 02:03:32 · answer #6 · answered by peachtek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could his house fit 4 more people? THats a lot of extra space needed. If I were you I'd hold off till he bought you a house
2007-05-20 02:02:06 · answer #7 · answered by Yancy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a few deep breaths and let everything develop as it will. Sounds like things are going great and when he is ready he will say it. Don't push.
2007-05-20 02:01:07 · answer #8 · answered by Reicherts-713 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-05 10:14:58 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds good just take it one step at a time. And when the time is right your heart will tell you.
2007-05-20 02:02:47 · answer #10 · answered by jujl62 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww sounds great!
Yeh i think you've found him.
Good for you!
I think it sounds like hes ready and he definitely loves you and your kids which is great.
Just hold out I'm sure he will ask you soon.
Good luck!
2007-05-20 02:04:00 · answer #11 · answered by DJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋