my bf recently started doing stuff that makes me think he might want me and my 3 little girls to move in w/him.
we've been together for about 3 years now. i'm 28 and he's almost 29. he's never been married or lived with a girlfriend (i'm his second long term gf-his last one was in high school and lasted 3 years before she left him for another guy whom she married).
i got a garage door opener and key to his house about 3 months ago. he recently started doing weird things like randomly taking the subwoofer and speakers out of his prized lexus b/c he said he was getting too old to handle the bass in the car and needed more back seat room and also selling other electronics that he's had for years on craigslist.
just a few weeks ago he asked me to organize his dresser so my clothes could fit and he also had me help him clean out his closet (he threw out stuff from old gfs too) to make room for my clothes. he bought more hangers too when i wasn't there.
i didnt ask him to do this
2007-05-20 01:13:35 · 9 answers · asked by sadiesmom28 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he's been hinting at proposal off and on since Nov of last year and for my b-day this past Feb. he bought me a 1500.00 necklace.
he spends time w/my kids about once a week (more when they are not in school) and sees me alone every other fri & sat (we both work nite shift, 12 hours-3 days a week. the same days too)
is he getting ready to finally settle down w/me and ask me to marry him?
we've had commitment issues in past only b/c he's had to get used to the kids (my youngest was only 2 when we met) and hasn't ever lived with a girlfriend.
i should mention that he's all i've ever wanted-he doesn't drink,smoke,or cuss (just like me), he goes to church often, and my kids absolutely love him!! (which is a major good sign b/c my 2 oldest hated my last husband right off the bat-he turned out to be physically abusive). he takes us on trips,out the lake,to the park,etc. he's very kind,gentle and loving.
2007-05-20 01:14:50 · update #1
Aww. He sounds like a keeper either way! Congrats on finding a good guy.
It sounds to me like he's working towards moving you all in. :D
2007-05-20 01:20:04 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a 39 yr old man and I can answer your question. It sounds to me like he really likes you and your children. BUT..............
You should be having this conversation w HIM!
If I have learned nothing else...it is this....
IF you feel you cannot ask HIM this exact same question and wording even as this post and talk to him as openly and as honestly as you did in this post...then you shouldnt live with or marry him even if he does want you to. The VERY first rule in a working relationship that will not make you miserable is COMMUNICATION. I cannot stress this enough. It is # 1 2 and 3 on the top 3 things that are important in a relationship. If you cant read him this post word for word without fear, then there is a problem deeper than if he wants you to or not. It sounds like you and him need to be more open and have better communication anyway...or you wouldn't be wondering in the first place. Try if you can to be able to ask anything you feel to him and hope he will do the same for you. Many times it will also help you figure out how you feel when you have to voice it to your partner. And conversly, many times your partner may figure out how he feels only after talking to you about it. He may be wanting it, but maybe he is scared to let go of that last little bit of freedom....who knows what goes on in another person's mind unless you ask. Hec, he may not even know himself the answer to that question. Maybe he is trying to figure out if he wants to take that step, talk to him and lay all your cards on the table and if God is in your lives, it will work out for the best....... .
2007-05-20 01:40:05 · answer #2 · answered by perryinjax 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW! thats amazing and soo sweet. he must really love you. give him a chance. u dont have to marry him straight away. move in together. see how things go. im sure it will all be fine. just remember, there will be times of diagreements and a few arguments. but dont let that spoile any thing, you cant have the good without the bad. but enjoy this. your his special girl ;D
all the best. i hope it works out for u!
2007-05-20 01:24:03 · answer #3 · answered by rea 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what is your intention in asking this question? do you want to know why you should go with him or why you shouldnt? im sure you want to live with this guy for the rest of your life so why waste time asking us. just go ahead and be happy with him, move in with him, get married and live the rest of your life happily as you were supposed to with your first husband.
2007-05-20 02:50:55 · answer #4 · answered by Wilson J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the problem? Sounds like a good natured guy. If I were you I would just ask the dude. Sounds like a good catch sweetheart, good luck.
2007-05-20 01:23:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. So what's the problem??? Why even bother asking about him here on YA. Either you're just so happy and elated that ya just have to "brag" about your beau on YA, or you're having doubts (subconsciously), something like pre-commitment jitters? Hmmmmm, ya think? (grin)
2007-05-20 22:29:17 · answer #6 · answered by CuriousGeorge2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you actually need anyone's advice - you can see yourself things are going right where they should be. ;)
2007-05-20 01:21:25 · answer #7 · answered by L'enfer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
These are all pretty good hints, don't wreck his trust.
2007-05-20 01:17:01 · answer #8 · answered by trueblue3167 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he wants to share his life with you...if he's the guy that yu've always wanted..then accept it...
2007-05-20 01:21:15 · answer #9 · answered by GirlFriend 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋