here's the thing, me and my ex just broke up last march...then we got back together around mid April coz he claims he was being an a** and says he still loves me and doesn't wanna lose me. but during the week after we got back together, he acts all weird and doesn't act like my boyfriend at all, so during the 7th day after we got back together, i confronted him.
i asked him if he really does love me or not and he doesn't answer...but eventually he did. he claims that he does love me and he knew how much i love him. he just can't stay with our relationship coz he might do things that might hurt me. he's the type of guys who goes to bars and parties with his guy friends and other girls (friends only as far as i knew).
anyways, after our talk, he says that he can't handle the commitment that comes with the relationship but still says that he loves me.
2007-05-19 23:24:41 · 12 answers · asked by Vyxen 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
now we really did break up and remain as friends. and since we're friends in YM, his status msgs. and pictures are about other girls. but sometimes he uses pictures of us both and the ones i took of him when we were still together.
then just a few days ago, he calls me up telling me about how he just asked out another girl (but the girl said no though. made me laugh. hehe). but i just can't understand how he can move on so quickly while i know that i still have feelings for him.
do u think he cheated on me when we were together which is why he was afraid of commitment? and do you think he has completely moved on by now? i'm really confused with our relationship right now. and i dunno if i should move on or just still remain hoping we could get back together.
2007-05-19 23:29:04 · update #1
heyyo girl...
First of all.. sorry to hear the sore break-up of ur man and u..
Sometimes we just aint got the control in everything..
I myself have been in ur shoes and in his..
Its pretty difficult for a socially active guy to hang and go out when he has a nice decent girl loving him..
Sad to say dear, when he broke up with u (before).. im thinking he did it to not feel guilty of doing a certain something-something with someone..
To guys (& some girls) u see, when u temporarily break-up..it means the same as ..he's a free man..so meaning he could do watever he wanted.. When to me, when we seperate for a hile...we dont go sleeping/partying with other ppl..(call me old fashion)... Just so u know girl..
As for him not ready to commit.. im guessing before he was with u, he was already a party social guy.. he fell for an innocent girl whom he tot would be fine regardless of all the differences u guys had and u dont stop him rite from doing or going wherever he wants... but in a way, it does effect him..
He feels less fun, less happy , less enjoyable and cant fully go crazy (as he was before) when he knows u are at home..thinking of him... but he's having the time of his life clubbing... Also he cant talk to girls at the club, fear he might lie to u later ..
So i cant blame him or you for anything...
Its a classic opposites attract case with u guys..
And it depends on him, when he change, he would be a better man and well for a commitment with u..
But until then, he's just living his life to the fullest...
u takecare now..
ciao!
2007-05-19 23:40:35 · answer #1 · answered by kim_stolz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know maybe when you guys broke up and then you got back together he lost some feelings, maybe he thought idea of getting back together would be the best but after he did it he sees that he doesn't have that much feeling for you anymore, and he is just shy or uncomfortable to be reason of breaking up for second time , if he acts wried its kinda obvious that something fishy going on but with saying i love you he covers it , you gotta test him if he still loves you , you just tell him that you wanna break up , if he agrees on it easily , know that there is no feeling anymore but if he gets crazy and upset an all , know that he still loves you . **( i just saw the additional part , if now he is doing like that then he is insane , dont wait for him , get over with him as soon as possible becasue he is playing with ur feelings and he is enjoying it , )**
2007-05-19 23:38:43 · answer #2 · answered by Amir 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a player hon, you do not need a man in your life who acts like a immature idiot! Get rid of him and find a guy who will love you only, not every female he casts his eyes on. Go on, get out there and enjoy yourself! That's what life's all about! not sitting at home wondering if he's playing up again! Have a great day.
2007-05-19 23:33:34 · answer #3 · answered by wheeliebin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out right now. Its the end of you and he. He's too late and you cant wait for him to be gone. If your living together then kick him out and take over the house. Get rid of him he just wants you for a piece of @ss and thats it thats why he cant commit to you cause he's just using you and saying the love word keeps him in the game.
2007-05-19 23:30:51 · answer #4 · answered by juniper555 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I wouldn't be questioning what his feelings are and whether or not he really wants to be with you. He's being such a jerk, is that the kind of guy you want to give your heart to. There's really no excuse for his behavior. There's nothing he could say that would make it alright, right?
2007-05-19 23:33:56 · answer #5 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve the very best in a person. I don't think this guy cares about you. Please run away and take care of your self. You know what you want down deep in side. So search for it deep with in and go for it. Take your time, your not in a race. Be gentle with yourself and take care.
Lenny
2007-05-19 23:33:26 · answer #6 · answered by LDB449 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i conclude dat he don,t love u.he said that he can,nt handle commitments.but dear friend True love Is commitment itself. ppls have to compromize those thing wich u don,t like but eventualy apeared in ur lover.
2007-05-19 23:36:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find something else in life that makes you happy other than men.. not joking here.. men should mainly be a hobby.. that's how I think of women.. my real passion my life's work....
2007-05-19 23:31:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men are different.They seem to get over things faster.
2007-05-20 01:49:40 · answer #9 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lose him, He's a player
2007-05-19 23:28:30 · answer #10 · answered by Gary M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋