I have good grades, i haven't done anything that i would consider stupid in my life (i.e. get drunk, or do drugs), i play sports, and am a good person..................
but my parents won't let me party anywhere. what reason is there? please some one enlighten me.
Im 16 and can drive legally.
Yesterday, my parents drove 20miles to come pick me up at 2AM from a party because they wouldnt let me stay and have fun where there was no alcohol or anything like that. Also, i drove to the party so they picked my car up too.
Is there a legitimate reason to there actions
2007-05-19 22:48:10 · 17 answers · asked by baller750 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
wow, you are 16 and were allowed out till 2:00a.m and your parents cared enough to come get you.
Thinking how lucky you are that they care enough to be there for you.
I understand that you wish you had more freedom...however once said...been there done that...you are fortunate enough to have them.
Maybe when they were younger they lost friends or just being aware what teens are doing today, is enough to scare them into worrying about you.
Remember a parent cant rest knowing that their child is still out partying at 2:00 a.m. They will wait up and wonder are they okay...will someone hurt them...meaning you may not be the one doing something wrong...however it could be someone doing harm to you.
You'll be 18 soon enough and out on your own and look back at the past thinking....wow my parents cared...how lucky was I.
best wishes
2007-05-19 22:55:06 · answer #1 · answered by travelingirl005 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
The world these days is a very scary place, and as a parent, there is nothing more scary than your baby being where you can't protect them. And you'll always be their baby. For the next couple of years while they can still protect you, they will. After that they'll have to let you go find your own way, and that will be soon enough for them. For now, they can still fold you under their wings and keep you safe. I know how frustrating it is, cos my parents were the same, but I have my own kids now and I appreciate how much my parents cared for me. Just be thankful that you have parents who love you, cos when you don't have them caring for you anymore, it gets a whole lot harder. My parents and I don't speak anymore, and I miss feeling that I had someone at my back to rescue me if I needed it.
Also, the more mature you are and behave, the more reassurance it is to them that you can handle the world, and the less they'll worry, and they will gradually give you more freedom. It'll happen. There's plenty of time to go party, just appreciate your family for now.
2007-05-19 23:38:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Of course Yes! Well your parents are worried that you might fall prey to some of the actions that might seize your good life. They are emotionally attached with you and they want to see you blessed with good life.
It is apparent that, people of your age get easily influenced to wrong deeds and hence they want to take good care of you and you are blessed for that.
You might argue that, the party that you were with didn't have scope for wrong deeds, but still, there is not evidence for your parents to believe so many people in that party other than you. So it was a precaution they were taking of their children.
At such tender age, you might not be in a position to think beyond their maturity, all that is required is to follow what has been told which would turn you to be a true and great gentle man. All the best
2007-05-19 22:58:22 · answer #3 · answered by Duke 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes there is, they love you and they are going a good job. It sounds like you are doing well as a young person, do you think you did it all on your own? Give your parent some credit and do what they tell you to do.
Frankly, I don't think anyone has any business being out until 2:00 a.m., it is a recipe for trouble.
2007-05-25 09:02:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
bottom line is that your parents are legally responsible for what happens to you and for your actions until you are 18. while you may not have been drinking at 2am, a LOT of people who have been often hit the road at that time since the bars close. your parents sound a bit protective, but if you're honest about what you have and have not done, it sounds like they've done a good job!
2007-05-19 22:52:14 · answer #5 · answered by wahine 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Our public college structures run by way of some particularly antiquated procedures. If the new child became on no account taught to reason on his/her very own then specific they're going to ought to do as experienced. form of like the government telling us they comprehend what's proper for us. lol they want us to be dependant on it. All this A.D.H.D. and A.D.D. stuff is not any better than attempting to make a new child do some thing he's never drawn to. enable's drug you so as which you will do what "we" want you to do. enable's desire that by way of the time the new child will become an grownup that he/she would be able to step removed from the dependance and locate self freedom.
2016-12-29 15:04:28 · answer #6 · answered by Erika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are only 16 is a factor. I'm sorry but a 16 year old has no business being out at 2a.m. They love you and want to protect you. As a mom myself I understand what your parents were thinking. Just a few moore years and you will be on your own. When you become a parent yourself someday believe me you will understand.
2007-05-23 15:55:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
they're just very worried about you... obviously...
you can't stop worrying parents... it'll be really hard...
try telling them that you're already old enough and they don't need to be that concerned, not that you think being concerned is bad, or anything... they just need to let go and let you experience teenager life while you still can... if your parents don't stop worrying too much... at the age of 21, you'll still have the same problem...but you gotta listen to them too...specially when they have a very good reason of not letting you go to a particular party...
2007-05-20 00:54:33 · answer #8 · answered by Lamwitchgirl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sum parents r like that its not that they dont trust you but they dont trust other people and they just want you to be safe and the only way they can insure that is to know where you are and what you r doing at every minute. It may seem controlling to you but they are just doing it because they care not becoz they want to sabotage your social life. best to talk to them explain that you need a bit more space and if that doesnt work...you just have 2 more years till you can do whatever you want anyway. youre only a kid once and thats scary for your parents let them be in control or at least let them think their in control since they dont have that long anyway.
2007-05-20 00:14:28 · answer #9 · answered by Piper 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Curfew??????/ How late are you allowed to stay out at age 16? My daughter has to be in by 11pm and never has a problem with it.
And she is a straight A student with many friends- Maybe the legitimate reason is that they love you and expect you to follow their reasonable rules.
2007-05-26 20:02:23 · answer #10 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋