Is the age of 14 to young to have sex?

Question

i am 14 the boy is 16 and we like each other a lot and we love to flirt we lay in bed together our families know each other well

Answer 1

Don't use condoms. Condoms are the wrong answer.

Go for it. See what happens.

Answer 2

YES 14 IS TOO YOUNG!!!

Sorry if that sounds a bit harsh, and I can understand and still remember the hormones and the "know it all" attitude I had at that age. HOWEVER, now with years behind me I don't just say this because I want to strip kids of their fun...

Sex is something that you will eventually experience and it'll probably be better if you wait until...say...you're in your 20's... (Feel lucky, because my daughter (12) thinks she can't date until she's 32...lol... Anyway... Try this thought experiment on for size and tell me what you think...

"You're now 15, and it's 3am and you've slept maybe 3 hours tonight, and you hear from the other room... "MOM I NEED FOOD!" except this is more what it sounds like... "WHAAAAAAAAAA-ah-WHAAAAAAAAAAA"... You no longer are in school because you need to work to feed the baby and buy diapers..."

If you're into killing babies than abortion would probably be an option, but the best option would be to just not have sex. Condoms fail, and birth control pills don't always work... (My son was concieved on birth control)... the only 100 percent guarantee is to not have sex... abstinence is the best birth control.

If you fear you'll lose your boyfriend because you wont have sex with him... He isn't worth a minute more of your time... tell him to go jerk off or make a million dollars so he can marry you and...yadda yadda yadda... you get the point...

Hope this helps!

Answer 3

You may think that you ready for sex. If you wait a few years down the road you will see that you really weren't and regret it if you do. I lost my virginity when I was 17 and I regret it now that I look back. Most people don't stay with their first love. You will also find out when you mature a little that your love for a mature man will far exceed the type of love you are feeling now. It is a different feeling of love. Not to say that you don't love the boy you are with but you will never truly know what I am saying until this mature love comes along. Then and only then will you understand. I have two ways of looking at it here.
1. If you aren't sure if you are ready, then you are not ready at all.
2. If you are not able to take care of a baby or family, then you are not at all ready for sex. Sex is designed to produce offspring plain and simple.
If you don't do it now, your time will come. No need to rush because once its gone, its gone. You will have to live with it for the rest of your life. I have been with many men in my life that I regret. I have to live with the regret that my husband was not my one and only and so does he. I have finally found an utimate true love like no other and would give almost anything to have never experienced any other than him. I didn't lie to him about anyone but I can tell that it broke his heart to know that he was not my only, after he fell in love with me.

Answer 4

Nobody can really answer that question for you. You have to decide that on your own. It is a very personal thing. Honestly, I was only 15 when I lost my virginity, and I really wished I would have waited until I was a bit more mature and I knew it was the right time and the right person. I rushed into it because I thought it was what you were "supposed to do" if you love somebody. That's not really the case though.

Seriously, If you have to ask the question then, in my opinion, you are not ready. You should definitely talk to you mom. I know my mom always has the best advice. You would probably be surprised.

Good luck sweetie. That is a pretty important decision.

Answer 5

Yes, of course its too young for you to have it. Sometimes, it will give you a lot of depression. You should avoid it from happen to you. It is not good for a young girl like you having sex with someone else. I also a man and I'm 16 now. I never do sex until now. You have to change no matter you and your families know each other well... OK.

Answer 6

Sweetie, you really need to think this over. I don't want to lecture you. I gave it away and I don't regret it for a second, but I was nineteen when I did, and we were both self-sufficient. You are really too young to go that far and could end up getting pregnant. No, you probably will get pregnant. So let me ask you this? At 14, are you ready to be a mother? If not, then you are still too young. And don't think it can't happen to you. My best friend's little sister had sex the first time, when she was 13. She got pregnant. When to an abortion clinic, which refused to see her. She tried to do it her self, stuck a hoe vacuum up inside her body, and tired to perform an abortion herself. The force she used to get the hose inside her damaged her vagina, cervix, and uterus. She died from internal bleeding.

Now that you have read the nightmare sex too young can cause, think of this. Do you love him? Does he love you? If you have sex with him will he treat it like it's sacred or will he spread it around school? And, if your parents found out, would the be okay with it? Sex is a gift, if you have to hide it, or feel ashamed, then something is wrong.

It's your choice, but think it over, talk it over with friends. If you don't feel comfortable talking to your parents, talk to your doctor, or guidence counselor, or a friend's parent. Ask him if he's ready to be a father. Ask him if he is going to help you if you do get pregnant. And think of the disappointment your parents will feel if you have to drop out of school because you got pregnant.

If that doesn't work, think about the child. Is it fair to bring a child into this world when you are unable to care for it? If you can answer all of that, then your ready. If not, you need to wait.
And that's the best answer I can give you.

Answer 7

Yes you're definitely too young and not emotionally mature yet. If someone were to happen between you too it would be much more devestating then if you at least had some previous relationships (not involving sex) to learn from. Also, if his parents or your parents found out about you two having sex it could ruin their friendship as well (or make it extremely awkward). You'll know when the right time comes around.

Answer 8

Hell yeah 14 is too young at that age you really don't know your own body to we'll and his mind is on another level even if he is 16 girls are still way more maturer than guys he's probably not even a virgin sweetie it's way more to that because its your first time wait at least till your 17 by than you would be able to make your own decisions and face your consequences i know some one who lost their virginity at 15 and got pregnant and her mom is still hurting think about this because your body is a treasure

Answer 9

if you do it use a condom and use one everytime. i think it is too young but i started at 13 so what do i know.

you will do what you want anyway, but yes when you are 25 or so and look back you will say "damn i was young to be having sex!"

once you do it you cannot take it back. also the boy might not like you after, boys that age act like children when it comes to sex and it does not get much better as you get older...

Answer 10

I would have to say yes. Get to know yourself better first. At 14, you think you know so much but that is not the case. You don't want to make any mistakes and this can be a mistake you can't undo. I'm in college and a lot of my friends actually wish we were still virgins.

Answer 11

What you lose now you will never get back in your life. Think about it before you do anything you may regret. Sex also takes your relationship level to a new high so be ready if you do. I'm not going to say don't do it or anything because it's your lives and what you do is your business and anything I say isn't going to 100% stop you so I only after this advice.